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    Umm Salamah (ra) remembered the prayer her husband had quoted on his deathbed from the Prophet (saw) and began repeating it, "O Lord, with you I leave this my plight for considerationÖ" But she could not bring herself to continueÖ "O Lord, give me something better from it", because she kept asking herself, "Who could be better than Abu Salamah (ra)?" But she eventually completed the supplication.

    The Muslims were greatly saddened by the plight of Umm Salamah (ra). She became known as "Ayyin al-'Arab" - the one who had lost her husband. She had no one in Madinah of her own except her small children, like a hen without feathers. "I am a stranger in a strange place," she said, but on the advice of the Noble Prophet (saw), she refrained from weeping publicly.

    Both the Muhajirun and Ansar felt they had a duty to Umm Salamah (ra). When she had completed the 'iddah (three months and ten days), Abu Bakr (ra) proposed marriage to her but she refused. Then 'Umar (ra) asked to marry her but she also declined the proposal. The Prophet (saw) then approached her and she replied:

    "O Messenger of Allah, I have three characteristics. I am a woman who is extremely jealous and I am afraid that you will see in me something that will anger you and cause Allah (swt) to punish me. I am a woman who is already advanced in age and I am a woman who has a young family."

    The Prophet (saw) replied:

    "Regarding the jealousy you mentioned, I pray to Allah (swt) to let it go away from you. Regarding the question of age you have mentioned, I am afflicted with the same problem as you. Regarding the dependent family you have mentioned, your family is my family."

    They were married and so it was that Allah (swt) answered the prayer of Umm Salamah (ra) and gave her better than Abu Salamah (ra). From that day on Hind al-Makhzumiyah was no longer the mother of Salamah (ra) alone but became the mother of all believers, Umm al-Mu'minin.
    Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: "Donít ruin your happiness with worry, and donít ruin your mind with pessimism. Donít ruin your success with deception and donít ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Donít ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.
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    If you think about your situation, you will find that Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) that He doesnít prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you.

    You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with duaías being made on your behalf, SubhanAllaah: perhaps from someone poor whom you helped, or someone sad whom you brought joy, or someone passing by and you smiled at him, or someone in distress and you removed it.. so donít ever underestimate any good deeds."



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    Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

    how beautiful to read this, especially the bolded part.

    Subhanallah, the most noble, the most greatest man in all of history did not think himself above marrryin a widow with children. in fact he reassured her with the most reassuring of words.

    i contrast this to a proposal was once looking at. the brother was a few years older thn me. He actually said that I, should feel grateful that he is considering me, as i have children.
    There are no - sticking 2 fingers up - smileys but that was more or less my reaction. Seriously bro, if thats your attitude, then i am NOT interested in your bit of charity to me.

    Our brothers in islam can learn sometning from the eitqutte, good manners and beautiful nature of the prophet mohammed pbuh.
    Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: "Donít ruin your happiness with worry, and donít ruin your mind with pessimism. Donít ruin your success with deception and donít ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Donít ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.
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    If you think about your situation, you will find that Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) that He doesnít prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you.

    You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with duaías being made on your behalf, SubhanAllaah: perhaps from someone poor whom you helped, or someone sad whom you brought joy, or someone passing by and you smiled at him, or someone in distress and you removed it.. so donít ever underestimate any good deeds."



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    • #3
      Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

      True, this is wonderful.
      I mean the words and the wisdom behind those words.
      So little yet so deep.

      Their is an Answer in the Sunnah for lot of things, it is a shame that we cant see that or dont know that or dont realise it.

      What i have noticed in people who marry older people with children is they are just happy in life and they end up having more kids somehow Subhanallah.
      It is truly a blessing from Allah SWT,

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      • #4
        Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

        Beautiful story and excellent role model for us Muslims
        There is a clock on your forehead counting down to the time of your death. Only Allah knows how many seconds are left on it

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        • #5
          Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

          :love: beautiful
          إقراء القران فإنه يأتي يوم القيامة شفيعا لأصحابه

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            Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

            Lovely story

            Jzk

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            • #7
              Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

              lovely story. May Allah grant us the ability to practice all of the Sunnah and not pick and choose the ones we like

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              • #8
                Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

                :)

                The Prophet was the absolute best :love: Love that great man so much,

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                • #9
                  Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

                  Bumpppppp
                  Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: "Donít ruin your happiness with worry, and donít ruin your mind with pessimism. Donít ruin your success with deception and donít ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Donít ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.
                  __________________________________________________ _____________________________
                  If you think about your situation, you will find that Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) that He doesnít prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you.

                  You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with duaías being made on your behalf, SubhanAllaah: perhaps from someone poor whom you helped, or someone sad whom you brought joy, or someone passing by and you smiled at him, or someone in distress and you removed it.. so donít ever underestimate any good deeds."



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                  • #10
                    Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

                    :love:
                    إقراء القران فإنه يأتي يوم القيامة شفيعا لأصحابه

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                    • #11
                      Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

                      Originally posted by Muslima London View Post
                      i contrast this to a proposal was once looking at. the brother was a few years older thn me. He actually said that I, should feel grateful that he is considering me, as i have children.
                      There are no - sticking 2 fingers up - smileys but that was more or less my reaction. Seriously bro, if thats your attitude, then i am NOT interested in your bit of charity to me..
                      Wow. What an idiot.
                      :sub: wabihamdihi:sub:hiladheem

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                      • #12
                        Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

                        And today some of the brother who want to practise polygamy, none of them want too look at the divorce/widow sisters and rather a young virigin, because its sunnah like that.

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                          Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

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                          Last edited by wifeseeker; 18-02-15, 02:07 AM. Reason: old

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                            Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

                            Originally posted by wifeseeker View Post
                            Edit to the OP.

                            Pretty sure the Iddah period is 4 months and 10 days when a womans husband passes away and not 3 months and 10 days as you have bracketed.
                            i copied and pasted.
                            must have been an error in printing
                            Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: "Donít ruin your happiness with worry, and donít ruin your mind with pessimism. Donít ruin your success with deception and donít ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Donít ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.
                            __________________________________________________ _____________________________
                            If you think about your situation, you will find that Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) that He doesnít prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you.

                            You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with duaías being made on your behalf, SubhanAllaah: perhaps from someone poor whom you helped, or someone sad whom you brought joy, or someone passing by and you smiled at him, or someone in distress and you removed it.. so donít ever underestimate any good deeds."



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                              Re: Prophet's proposal to Umm Salamah RA - masha allah

                              A house full of laughter is a home full of love and, truly, the home of Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) rang with laughter whenever Sawdah bint Zam’ah (Radiyallahu anha) was present.
                              Most people overlook Sawdah, even though she was the first woman whom Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) married after the death of Khadijah (Radiyallahu anha).
                              Sawdah was much older than ‘Aishah bint Abi Bakr (Radiyallahu anha), whom Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam married shortly after and it’s commonly known that she gave up her allotted days and nights with Rasool Allah for ‘Aishah’s sake.
                              According to many narrations and by her own admission, Sawdah wasn’t particularly beautiful, either she is described as “elderly and fat.”
                              What many don’t realise, however, is that it was her age which Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) appreciated – or, rather, the qualities associated with it: wisdom, maturity and understanding.
                              Sawdah was the first stepmother for the daughters of Rasool Allah, especially for Fatimah (Radiyallahu anha), who was still quite young at the time.
                              She had a nurturing personality and a sense of humour which endeared her to her husband, her stepchildren and her co-wives alike.
                              It was known that when Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) was feeling sorrowful or grieved due to the hardships related to the da’wah of Islam, it was always Sawdah who was guaranteed to make him smile with a quick-witted joke and Sawdah who offered him advice and comfort without requesting anything from him except his company.
                              Once, when Rasool Allah’s face was drawn with weariness, she teased him,
                              “O Messenger of Allah! I prayed behind you yesterday and you prolonged the prostration for so long that I nearly had a nosebleed!”
                              Her husband, the beloved Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam), threw his head back and laughed so hard that his molar teeth were visible.
                              The sorrow in his bearing disappeared and his smile lit up the heart of Sawdah with joy. (Tabaqaat al-Kubraa)
                              And while many women would have felt jealous at the arrival of a younger, beautiful wife, Sawdah took ‘Aishah under her wing immediately.
                              It is related that amongst the wives of Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam), no two of them were closer to each other than Sawdah and ‘Aishah.
                              Sawdah’s sense of humour made it easy for the other wives to get swept away in the fun.
                              Hafsah and ‘Aishah in particular used to enjoy getting up to pranks and Sawdah was sometimes their target.
                              Once, ‘Aishah and Hafsah were sitting together when Sawdah came to visit them, bedecked in finery. Raising their eyebrows at each other, Hafsah said to ‘Aishah, “Rasool Allah will come and see her and forget about us!” Then,
                              with a gleam in her eye, Hafsah told Sawdah, “The one-eyed one is coming!” (i.e. implying the Dajjal.) Sawdah panicked and asked, “Where can I go, where can I go?!” Looking serious,
                              Hafsah pointed at a tent outside – one
                              where people would abandon unwanted items and which was full of cobwebs and other creepy-crawlies. Picking up her skirts, Sawdah fled to the tent and Hafsah and ‘Aishah broke into peals of laughter.
                              They were still laughing when Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) joined them and asked them about the cause of their mirth. The two women were laughing so hard that they couldn’t even speak and all they could do was point at the tent where poor Sawdah was hiding in fear. Filled with love for Sawdah, Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) rushed over to her and
                              reassured her that it was not yet time for the Dajjal to come and helped her up, brushing off the cobwebs and comforting her. (Musnad Abi Ya’la, Tabarani and al-Haythami)
                              Despite all this, Sawdah remained as easy-going as ever and deeply fond of ‘Aishah in particular.
                              The affection was mutual, such that when Sawdah passed away ‘Aishah wept and said, “No woman is more beloved to me than Sawdah, whom I would rather be than anyone else.”
                              Today, when many Muslim men express boredom with their spouses or complain about the waning beauty of their wives,
                              *Sawdah’s marriage to Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) is a reminder that physical beauty is not the only thing that matters.*
                              There are many different types of love and every woman is to be loved, respected and valued for who she is without being compared to others or
                              belittled for what she may lack in comparison to other women.
                              *In a marriage, the human heart requires more than just outward beauty and Sawdah’s warm, loving personality was a perfect example of why Rasool Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wassalam) found such comfort and joy in her.*
                              *_As the famous hadith states, even a smile is a sadaqah*
                              *so* for every woman who loves to laugh and make others join in her joy is a mountain of reward, insha Allah just like Sawdah (Radiyallahu anha), the beloved wife of Rasool Allah
                              Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: "Donít ruin your happiness with worry, and donít ruin your mind with pessimism. Donít ruin your success with deception and donít ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Donít ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.
                              __________________________________________________ _____________________________
                              If you think about your situation, you will find that Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) that He doesnít prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you.

                              You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with duaías being made on your behalf, SubhanAllaah: perhaps from someone poor whom you helped, or someone sad whom you brought joy, or someone passing by and you smiled at him, or someone in distress and you removed it.. so donít ever underestimate any good deeds."



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