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  • #31
    A question for sisters only

    Honestly I don't think I would care, as long as it's just fleeting attraction and he doesn't mention it to me. What he thinks in his head is his own business, and what I think in my head is my own business.
    اللهُمَّ أَعِزَّ الإِسْلامَ وَالمُسْلِمِينَ

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    • #32
      Re: A question for sisters only

      Originally posted by sunrise867 View Post
      I'm gonna pop some bubbles here, but men will always be attracted to other women. It doesn't mean they wanna get rid of you and marry x woman, but they find them attractive. (He will in most cases never admit this btw, but will think it)

      Refer to Yasir Qadhi: What women need to know about men.

      Skip to 22:40.

      P.S I know he's not the most popular person on here but in certain matters :up:

      P.P.S watch it all i you can ladies :p
      He should change "Men find all women attractive" to "Men find only attractive women attractive"

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      • #33
        Re: A question for sisters only

        It will happen but Islam has ways to deal with these things.

        For example, there is a hadith about not getting angry but getting angry is human nature - controlling it is what is required of us.

        Oh and that's another reason why proper hijaab is important but it has to be applied across the board.
        Last edited by Muslimah~S; 27-09-14, 08:25 PM.

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        • #34
          I think women are living in fantasy land if think or do not want their husband being attracted to other women just like men are living in fantasy land if they think their wives aren't attracted to other men. Especially the longer you are married to someone you start getting bored and at times feel like the grass is greener on the other side.

          No matter how attractive you are, there will always be someone prettier than you.

          They key is finding someone who has enough fear of Allah and haya that isn't going to act on their attraction.
          Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.”
          (Surah Az Zumar, (Chapter 39: Verse 53)

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          • #35
            Re: A question for sisters only

            To DOA do you think calling yourself unattractive consistently is showing ungratitude to the One who created you? Akin to saying i think that or wish that i was better because i find flaws in the appearance?
            82. Verily, when He intends a thing, His Command is, "be", and it is! 83. So glory to Him in Whose hands is the dominion of all things: and to Him will you be all brought back. Quran surah 36: Ya-sin

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            • #36
              Re: A question for sisters only

              These days I don't feel much of anything but I feel that it would significantly lower my sense of self-image
              وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

              And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


              أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

              Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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              • #37
                Re: A question for sisters only

                Why do men feel entitled to broadcast their lusts as if being 'red blooded' men somehow justifies this

                Lower ur gaze ?!
                وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

                And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


                أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

                Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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                • #38
                  Re: A question for sisters only

                  im not a 'sister', so take as you will but.... absolutely not.

                  Im not naive enough to think i am the most beautiful woman in the world and he will never notice anyone else, but a relationship is built on so much more than looks.

                  A random lady's face/figure < your wife who you love, find attractive, is your best friend, makes you a better person, loves you, cares for you and is the centre piece of the life you've built together.

                  How can the two even be close to each other? If you reduce your whole self worth to your attractiveness in comparison to 3 billion other women, you're going to find yourself disappointed.

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                  • #39
                    A question for sisters only

                    I wonder what the reaction would be if this same question was asked to the brothers? Someone should make a thread about it
                    اللهُمَّ أَعِزَّ الإِسْلامَ وَالمُسْلِمِينَ

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                    • #40
                      Re: A question for sisters only

                      One would have to be extremely naive to believe that a man wouldn't be attracted to other women.

                      It doesn't matter how pretty or glamorous you are. There's always someone prettier than you out there.
                      This should not make you feel like garbage.

                      However if he's foolish enough to tell you, or go out of his way to see, talk to or socialise with this woman cos she finds her attractive, then yeah, you have problems.
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                      • #41
                        Re: A question for sisters only

                        I have seen married men looking at other women. The first gaze is allowed but anything more than that is just bang out of order.

                        Question to the daughter of adam, why do you keep saying you are unattractive. .? What good does it bring? I don't even know what beauty is ..All I know is that beauty is subjective. . Jealousy is a killer pls get rid of it. Beauty is not this - fair and slim . Beauty comes from the heart.
                        "Try to distance yourself from everything that causes you worry and sadness, so that you may always live with peace of mind and an open and tranquil heart, seeking Allah and His worship and working on your worldly and otherworldly matters, for if you try this, you will find rest.

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                        • #42
                          Re: A question for sisters only

                          Depends on each interaction.

                          I work in retail, and I see a lot of interactions where men are really flirty with other women in front of their wives. Sometimes the wife rolls her eyes and is like, "whatever". Other times she will joke about his inappropriateness, and at other times she will give the other women the most hateful stare.

                          Combination of all perhaps would be me.

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