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for sisters- how to "EARN" love, respect, and loyalty from ur wife

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  • #61
    Re: for sisters- how to "EARN" love, respect, and loyalty from ur wife

    Originally posted by snow_flakes View Post
    So you think a amir ll be :D
    jee, with authority comes responsibility :)


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    • #62
      for sisters- how to "EARN" love, respect, and loyalty from ur wife

      Trust them, make time for them, be there for them during hardship, love them :inlove: and treat them like a princess
      The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “It will be said to the companion of the Qur’an: ‘Read, and ascend, and recite as you used to recite in the [previous] world, for your status will be according to the last verse that you recite.’” [At-Tirmidhi (2914) and Abu Dawood (1464)]


      • #63
        Re: for sisters- how to "EARN" love, respect, and loyalty from ur wife

        Originally posted by hassaan561 View Post
        can you give examples of how men can be leaders in their marriage...thanks
        Allah gives us authority to be a leader. But while I know I can take charge, the point is that you should fear being in charge of anything. Being in charge means you are responsible for everything you take charge of.

        For example, if you have no hands you can't be accountable for actions your hands take (since you don't have them). Similarly, if you are not a leader then you can't be held accountable for leading.

        But as a husband, you have the authority from Allah. So when you deal with your wife (in this case), you need to be careful.

        I know a brother, he once told me "I do my best to be good to my wife, I have never once in my life ordered her to do anything to avoid making my word an obligation on her." Isn't that a wonderful husband and leader? This is what you want to do. You want your wife to buy-into the fact that she should listen to you. Not because you're in charge, but because she loves you and trusts you and knows you will look out for her.

        Think about how many daughters are with their fathers. Their father sacrificed for them, and they trust him to make the decisions and lead. Trust can be earned by showing you will take care of her, and look out for her interests not yours. And also by listening to her when she gives advice, make her a part of your decision making, its good for you and good for her.

        Sound good? =)
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