Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

[Rainyday]

So I gather from this forum that men in certain communities like to get married.........then stay living at home with their mum.

What's that about? Is there any sense or logic to this, or does it serve a purpose?

I would imagine most men would want their own house once married, for things like privacy (use your imagination). Maybe he wants to cuddle up to his wife on the sofa or something. Can you behave like this if your mum is sat watching tv with you? Maybe the wife doesn't want to wear hijab around the house all the time. How can she dress in something nice for her husband if his dad, brothers and mum are around all the time?

Is it because they can't bear to be apart from their Mums or they don't know how to live alone (pay bills, maintain the house etc)?

are there any brothers who prefer to live at home than to have their own space with their wife?

the best part about being married is having your own home with your hubby for lots and lots reasons i will not post here

[samin62]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

nobody makes dinner quite like good ol mama

[Rainyday]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

yeah but is that a reason to stay living with mummy when your married lol? Just learn to make the dinner yourself and move out (not you personally)

[Grimmjow]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

Well, some can't afford getting their own house yet, and it seems that in certain cultures, they just live with the parents.
Also, some may have sick parents and have to take care of them.

Also, if they wanna live at home, they at least should tell their wife that before she marries him. There was a thread on a guy who didn't tell his wifethe truth and ended up with a huge hassle.

And it would suck to live with brother in laws, especially if she is a niqabi.

[samin62]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

speaking seriously, it prolly has to do with him wanting to take care of his parents and making sure they are ok

[~Salma~]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

This is why I can't marry Asian men sorry.

I've had a proposal awhile back couldn't accept it cause I can't be told leave your parents and come serve and live with mine.

Nah ah.

If he loves his parents so much he best believe I love mine just as much and there's no way I'm leaving mine to look after his...

Unless my parents can come live with us! Only then I'd happily agree.

He didn't like that he said.

Double standards much....

[wizard.of.oz]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

What about this scenario:

I have a 2 bedroom flat connected to my house. It's actually a separate (detached) building.

Is that acceptable?

[Rainyday]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

This is why I can't marry Asian men sorry.

I've had a proposal awhile back couldn't accept it cause I can't be told leave your parents and come serve and live with mine.

Nah ah.

If he loves his parents so much he best believe I love mine just as much and there's no way I'm leaving mine to look after his...

Unless my parents can come live with us! Only then I'd happily agree.

He didn't like that he said.

Double standards much....

Lol yeah.

See i understand if parents are really ill and they need care around the clock and there's no other person to look after them (or they can't share the task with brothers and sisters)


but from what I've read on this forum, women usually end up just serving their parents in laws.

i don't understand why people would want to live like that

[wizard.of.oz]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

This is why I can't marry Asian men sorry.

I've had a proposal awhile back couldn't accept it cause I can't be told leave your parents and come serve and live with mine.

Nah ah.

If he loves his parents so much he best believe I love mine just as much and there's no way I'm leaving mine to look after his...

Unless my parents can come live with us! Only then I'd happily agree.

He didn't like that he said.

Double standards much....

Do people actually expect their wives to serve their parents?

Not a single couple I know has this expectation.

[Rainyday]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

What about this scenario:

I have a 2 bedroom flat connected to my house. It's actually a separate (detached) building.

Is that acceptable?

dunno. depends really

i would hate the idea of my parents / brothers and sisters in law just being able to walk in any time. i might just be chilling out in house clothes or pj's and they can just walk in.

no privacy

[Rainyday]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

Do people actually expect their wives to serve their parents?

Not a single couple I know has this expectation.

I'm just going by what I've read on this forum. Apparantly some women go live with her husband and parents in law, and she ends up cooking and cleaning for them most of the time.

[wizard.of.oz]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

dunno. depends really

i would hate the idea of my parents / brothers and sisters in law just being able to walk in any time. i might just be chilling out in house clothes or pj's and they can just walk in.

no privacy

But they can't just walk in.

It's a separate building. It's not linked to the main house. keys and everything.

[shazj]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

This is why I can't marry Asian men sorry.

I've had a proposal awhile back couldn't accept it cause I can't be told leave your parents and come serve and live with mine.

Nah ah.

If he loves his parents so much he best believe I love mine just as much and there's no way I'm leaving mine to look after his...

Unless my parents can come live with us! Only then I'd happily agree.

He didn't like that he said.

Double standards much....

Lol just have the entire clan under one roof..I love it.

[samin62]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

I'm just going by what I've read on this forum. Apparantly some women go live with her husband and parents in law, and she ends up cooking and cleaning for them most of the time.

what is the percentage?

[shazj]

Re: Why do men want to get married but stay living at home

But they can't just walk in.

It's a separate building. It's not connected to the main house. keys and everything.

That's fine