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  • xFedal
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    Originally posted by Faith1 View Post
    My dad would accept a $1.. I wouldn't mind either. I'm not marrying a guy to get every penny he has so why ask for much.
    Mashallah sis why aren't there more off you around? ....

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  • nousername
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    Originally posted by sabah suleiman View Post
    Where did you get that from? :scratch:

    Dowry back in the days was something a wife paid to the husband.

    That's why men used to seek out the rich ladies from high classes.

    The richer she is the higher the dowry for husband would be
    I think that's in India, but it was different in England, US, etc.

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  • maryam203
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    mahr of hadhrat fatima r.a or anything else.... doesn't even have to be money, I would ask him to recite quran, by heart, infront of everyone instead!lol JK

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  • Peachpetal
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    The thing is I like the idea of asking for mahr fatimi but if the groom is well off and I end up having to buy all my own wedding stuff, arrange the nikah etc then I want more money from him afterwards to make up for it.

    But if someone didn't have much money then of course I wouldn't expect much as long as he then wasn't asking for a lot in terms of reception etc, it works both ways

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  • nonameakhi
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    Originally posted by |Sister| View Post
    She calls it a dowry even though she knows a mahr is only for the wife. She finds a man giving a woman money for marriage insulting/degrading to the woman.
    yeah I used to get the same until the issue of rings came up

    I likened the dowry/mahr to an engagement ring ie man has to buy it for the woman to show his intention, can be very expensive a few hundred to thousands , if she breaks off engagement she returns ring if he does he doesn't ask for it

    it helped explain in my situation anyway

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  • Constant Hope
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    Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
    Which Culture is that? :scratch:

    as far as I'm aware it is typically split between both parties (bride & bridegroom side) ... at least amongst the asian Muslims ...
    It used to happen in the US.

    In Muslim culture, I think it's typically split, but South Asians sometimes engage in a 'dowry' that is paid to the man. Which is haram

    In south Asian culture, usually I see the woman have her day and paid by her family who invite all their own friends and family, and then a walima where we invite all the male side and only the closest friends/family on the brides side. Of course, many are familiar with this 50/50 type split situation.

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  • عبد المنعم
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    Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
    Which Culture is that? :scratch:

    as far as I'm aware it is typically split between both parties (bride & bridegroom side) ... at least amongst the asian Muslims ...
    i cant believe this...

    OUR CULTURE!!

    kita khoiram tume? kichu sinonane??

    the brides family pays for wedding day.


    although i don't plan to go through any of this nonsense :insha:.

    masjid, khalas.
    Last edited by عبد المنعم; 23-04-14, 01:35 AM.

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  • Saif-Uddin
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    Originally posted by Constant Hope View Post
    lol, you know what's funny, is the culture whereby the Father of the bride used to pay for the entire wedding. Still goes on in some places, but the financial climate has made them finally see common sense. Islamically however, the Mahr and Walima are of the Sunnah in marriage and the only real Islamic components. The rest are cultural traditions of giving the bride a day before the walima etc.
    Which Culture is that? :scratch:

    as far as I'm aware it is typically split between both parties (bride & bridegroom side) ... at least amongst the asian Muslims ...

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  • Constant Hope
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    lol, you know what's funny, is the culture whereby the Father of the bride used to pay for the entire wedding. Still goes on in some places, but the financial climate has made them finally see common sense. Islamically however, the Mahr and Walima are of the Sunnah in marriage and the only real Islamic components. The rest are cultural traditions of giving the bride a day before the walima etc.

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  • |Sister|
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    Originally posted by Grimmjow View Post
    I'm a bit of a history buff, and I read that dowry was called a "bride price" where the man paid the dad for his daughter, I think. It was back in the days where women were still considered property.
    Perhaps that's where the stigma against "dowry" stems from.
    Originally posted by sabah suleiman View Post
    Where did you get that from? :scratch:

    Dowry back in the days was something a wife paid to the husband.

    That's why men used to seek out the rich ladies from high classes.

    The richer she is the higher the dowry for husband would be
    In european culture (christianity) the dowry was a man paying the father to buy the daughter. There are still groups of christians who practice this.

    But my mother is a feminist and finds it insulting when men offer money to women for any reason, even to pay the household bills; she equates it to prostitution.

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  • Abdullah Fatih
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    Originally posted by Maghrebia00 View Post
    halal bag of jelly babies
    Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
    some Halal Jellybabies ...
    Originally posted by عبد المنعم View Post
    I am giving her some halal jelly babies.
    What.... are..... JELLY BABIES ! ? ! ? ! ?

    :vomit:

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  • Maia
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    Originally posted by Grimmjow View Post
    I'm a bit of a history buff, and I read that dowry was called a "bride price" where the man paid the dad for his daughter, I think. It was back in the days where women were still considered property.
    Perhaps that's where the stigma against "dowry" stems from.
    In my culture, this is still practiced to this very day.

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  • Grimmjow
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    Originally posted by sabah suleiman View Post
    Where did you get that from? :scratch:

    Dowry back in the days was something a wife paid to the husband.

    That's why men used to seek out the rich ladies from high classes.

    The richer she is the higher the dowry for husband would be
    I must've scrambled it in my head. Anyway, the kinda idea I was getting at was that lits of wedding traditions or whatnot actually stem from the "women being property" idea.

    Like at the traditional (Christian) ceremony, the father gives his daughter away to the husband. Although many may see this as sentimental, it actually meant that the father was giving away his "property" for another man to own.

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  • *sheba*
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    Originally posted by Grimmjow View Post
    I'm a bit of a history buff, and I read that dowry was called a "bride price" where the man paid the dad for his daughter, I think. It was back in the days where women were still considered property.
    Perhaps that's where the stigma against "dowry" stems from.
    Where did you get that from? :scratch:

    Dowry back in the days was something a wife paid to the husband.

    That's why men used to seek out the rich ladies from high classes.

    The richer she is the higher the dowry for husband would be

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