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    Beware of the Marriage Bandits - Part 1

    By Sheikh Haitham al-Haddad

    "I am sick of hearing about those brothers who prey upon the susceptibility of our sisters, using deception as a tool for marriage, and marriage as a guise for the fulfilment of their evil desires. I fear that if something is not done to tackle these abuses, we will only see the number of such incidents increase. Therefore, I feel compelled to share some of the cases I have encountered in order to highlight the nature of the issues at hand, and that we as a community must take drastic action to stop or minimize this evil."

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    http://www.islam21c.com/islamic-thou...andits-part-1/

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    Absolutely disguising.
    Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.

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    • #3
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      If I saw this on any other site, I'd find it hard to believe. But this is Sheikh Haitham on Islam21c!! Ya Allah, lost for words!

      Sick men and naive sisters.

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        That is just disgusting! May Allah humiliate anyone who takes advantage of vulnerable and naive women
        Say (O Muhammad SAW to mankind):
        “If you (really) love Allāh then follow me (i.e. accept Islāmic Monotheism, follow the Qur’ān and the Sunnah), Allāh will love you and forgive you of your sins. And Allāh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Aali Imran 3:31)

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        • #5
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          I'm finding this hard to believe. Feels like some crazy movie and not real life stories.

          Subhana Allah.

          May Allah protect the sisters from such evil men.
          Last edited by Rebel101; 01-01-14, 01:14 PM.
          Gone with the wind.

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            Re: Beware of the Marriage Bandits

            Originally posted by MWarrior View Post
            If I saw this on any other site, I'd find it hard to believe. But this is Sheikh Haitham on Islam21c!! Ya Allah, lost for words!

            Sick men and naive sisters.
            I think everyone needs to be scared of this, including sisters on this forum who are still very naieve

            I'm deeply shocked
            [B][CENTER]Please keep me in your Dua'a. in'shaa'Allah ![/CENTER][/B]

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              Re: Beware of the Marriage Bandits

              Originally posted by MuslimWarrior View Post
              I think everyone needs to be scared of this, including sisters on this forum who are still very naieve

              I'm deeply shocked
              I am shocked too. As soon as someone tries to get in between you and your family red flags should go off.

              We need to let the Walis do their job and look out for those with no families
              Say (O Muhammad SAW to mankind):
              “If you (really) love Allāh then follow me (i.e. accept Islāmic Monotheism, follow the Qur’ān and the Sunnah), Allāh will love you and forgive you of your sins. And Allāh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Aali Imran 3:31)

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              • #8
                Re: Beware of the Marriage Bandits

                that's disgusting and those sisters are so damn naive
                O people who take pleasure in a life that will vanish, falling in love with a fading shadow is sheer stupidity~ Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyya

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                  Can we please take it easy on the sisters. Am sure they are just vulnerable people more than naive. There were reverts who didn't really know the deen properly and were mislead. Just say Alhamdulilah Allah sw has not put you in that situation.
                  Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.

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                    Re: Beware of the Marriage Bandits

                    Originally posted by InTheBegining View Post
                    Can we please take it easy on the sisters. Am sure they are just vulnerable people more than naive. There were reverts who didn't really know the deen properly and were mislead. Just say Alhamdulilah Allah sw has not put you in that situation.
                    Agreed.

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                      :GB_bonesrock:
                      And all the heavens go their way.... And only change is here to stay...

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                      • #12
                        Re: Beware of the Marriage Bandits

                        :GB_bonesrock:
                        And all the heavens go their way.... And only change is here to stay...

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by InTheBegining View Post
                          Can we please take it easy on the sisters. Am sure they are just vulnerable people more than naive. There were reverts who didn't really know the deen properly and were mislead. Just say Alhamdulilah Allah sw has not put you in that situation.
                          :jkk: it's very easy to see it from the outside and say 'she should have done xyz' or 'how silly of her'. Fact of the matter is that when you are in these types of relationships, the guy's manipulation really takes over until you lose all sense of your identity. So much so that even your family can no longer recognise you. You become a shell of your former self. Their emotional, psychological and physical abuse really impacts on your thinking- so rational thoughts may not be there. Particularly if they isolate you from your family etc. You start to believe what they say as being true.
                          ⚔ Even in death may you be triumphant ⚔
                          U.F Sadaqah Jariyah Project

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                            '' It is disheartening to know that many sisters insist they are able to live independently from their protectors and maintainers (who are their husbands, fathers and brothers) as Allāh has mentioned of them in the ayah. ''

                            Reverts are often targeted but there are many 'born Muslims' too from Muslim families and background. The problem is some women only learn the hard way when it comes to this issue. As the sheikh mentioned they should listen to those who took care of them when they couldn't do anything. Sadly they hit 18 etc and think I'm 'grown up now' and can now move out ... They are often stubborn and and brainwashed by society in to thinking you are a 'free woman' and are 'liberated'. Along comes the 'Good looking practicing brother' and they somehow believe 'My father can't be my wali because he is off the manhaj'... And then we know the rest.

                            Nevertheless, no women should be abused like this and violated. No matter how disobedient they have been to parents etc I sympathise with all sisters who go through this, especially the reverts who are hardly to blame. But sisters who are from a Muslim background should really know better. The sick 'men' deserve a good beating.

                            Fathers and blood brothers, even if they are not 'practicing', they want the best for you. Never go behind their back.

                            However there is no man in the world who will protect and go through what a father will for his daughter. I recall several cases in which sisters would leave their fathers’ home to stay with friends and then fall into ḥarām relationships through them. To conclude, there is no greater shield than that which your parents (and particularly your father) may provide for you, so do your utmost to cherish them. And live mercifully with them without speaking an ill word to them, as they nurtured you when you were incapable of anything, and they have and will always be there for you.
                            Last edited by MWarrior; 01-01-14, 12:52 PM.

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                              Re: Beware of the Marriage Bandits

                              Originally posted by InTheBegining View Post
                              Can we please take it easy on the sisters. Am sure they are just vulnerable people more than naive. There were reverts who didn't really know the deen properly and were mislead. Just say Alhamdulilah Allah sw has not put you in that situation.
                              I agree. It's so easy to say "oh that's so stupid I would never fall for that". It's pure arrogance. Anyone can fall for a trick or become numbed by emotional abuse and manipulation. Even grown men have succumbed to Stockholm syndrome. To mock inexperienced and vulnerable women for being naive is downright disgusting.

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