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  • #16
    Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

    Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
    But what if her assets were amassed prior to marriage. ....... so even spending in the present is beyond her haqq!
    The wife doesn't have to spend on the home though. The obligation of providing and maintaining the family rests with the husband. But I am failing to see how this relates to the discussion about paying off loans.

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    • #17
      Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

      If brothers are happy to use their wifes wealth that is she owned prior to marriage. ..they ought to be eager enough to help pay debt that she built up prior to marriage. Not sure :/

      Hmmm I think it really is an individual thing.
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      • #18
        Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

        It seems unfair for him to have to pay it unless he agrees to it of course. it is up to the couple. They would have to talk about this before they get married.
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        (It is that) you believe in Allah and His Messenger and strive in the cause of Allah with your wealth and your lives. That is best for you, if you should know.
        He will forgive for you your sins and admit you to gardens beneath which rivers flow and pleasant dwellings in gardens of perpetual residence. That is the great attainment"        .

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        • #19
          Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

          :salams

          Yes.

          Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
          :wswrwb:

          Let's flip it around. ......if the sister has assets of her own, her own halaal income etc etc

          Would he have any qualms about her using that money on the family and family home?

          Arent you supposed to share the good AND bad?
          It's the man's responsiblity to provide, so yeah, that seems wrong.
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          • #20
            Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

            Originally posted by nousername View Post
            In the US, there is no running away from student loans. .
            It's possible. I mean, I'm almost done with my bachelors and got full government grants.
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            • #21
              Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

              Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
              It's possible. I mean, I'm almost done with my bachelors and got full government grants.
              No i meant IF you take them, then you pretty much HAVE to repay, minus extrodinary circumstances. You can't just one day wake up and not pay them.
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              • #22
                Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                Oh, right.
                Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

                "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
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                • #23
                  Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                  This is an its an interesting question

                  I think sister jennica what you haven't taken into consideration is that brothers have no rights over their wives incomes and they don't have to spend on them even if they are starving.

                  In fact for sisters its Islamically win win. Pay in dire times and get reward don't pay and don't get sin

                  For the man its different altogether and he HAS to help family and friends and neighbours etc

                  My wife had a student loan which she took out before she became muslim. She didn't have to pay it back until she earned X amount after graduation. It wasn't a great amount but we married and she never worked after that in terms of wages so ''I'' just paid it when ''I'' could. I put I in '''' because once married it was a we situation as far as I was concerned. Because Islam demands I provide and she has no such obligation

                  The thing was some ulema said she didn't need to pay it at all. But we (and that's the crucial bit WE) thought that any debts could be crucial in the hereafter and we were not sure if the loan would count.

                  Alhamdulliah we had the money so we paid it, why take the risk? with the info we had at the time

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                  • #24
                    Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                    Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
                    If brothers are happy to use their wife's wealth that is she owned prior to marriage. ..they ought to be eager enough to help pay debt that she built up prior to marriage. Not sure :/

                    Hmmm I think it really is an individual thing.
                    Difference is a husbands wealth, from before or during ''belongs'' to both of them. In fact other people have rights over the husbands wealth too

                    The wife can be a multi millionaire but her wealth is just hers and no one has rights over it

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                    • #25
                      Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                      If she's not earning, she doesn't have to pay it off and those were the terms agreed by the Student Loans Company and the person taking the loan?

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                      • #26
                        Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                        Why would anyone take student load when they know they won’t be able to pay it back.
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                        • #27
                          Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                          That would be a awesome if my husband did that, but I'm not a free-loader which is why first few years of marriage I will be working so that I can pay off my loan, inshaAllah.
                          :sub: wabihamdihi:sub:hiladheem

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                          • #28
                            Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

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                            Last edited by firestar101; 01-12-13, 10:23 AM.
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                            • #29
                              Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                              Sure. I wouldn't be of much help, though, because I'm financially challenged.
                              "Wert thou to follow the common run of those on earth, they will lead thee away from the way of Allah. They follow nothing but conjecture: they do nothing but lie." (surah 6:116)

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                              • #30
                                Re: Brothers: Would you pay off your wife's student loan?

                                Originally posted by مسلمة View Post
                                If she's not earning, she doesn't have to pay it off and those were the terms agreed by the Student Loans Company and the person taking the loan?
                                Last edited by Khalid b. Walid; 01-12-13, 10:24 AM.

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