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  • What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

    So, we know the Hadith where:
    "Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty and her religion, so try to get one who is religious, may your hand be besmeared with dust. "
    Assuming this Hadith applies to both men and women, what do you think will most influence your decision to marry/ not marry someone?

    money, fame/status, beauty or piety?

    Be honest with yourselves guys because what we would like to choose may not always be what we would choose in reality. I want you to vote for what you would choose in reality.
    68
    Money
    5.88%
    4
    Fame/status
    2.94%
    2
    Beauty
    19.12%
    13
    Piety
    72.06%
    49
    :sub: wabihamdihi:sub:hiladheem


  • #2
    Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

    All of the above? :scratch:
    And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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    • #3
      Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

      Originally posted by Strive View Post
      All of the above? :scratch:
      Only one option allowed bruv, like which one would you give more weight to?
      :sub: wabihamdihi:sub:hiladheem

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      • #4
        Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

        In order of most concern to least concern: attractiveness, piety, money, status.
        Last edited by SouthernGirl; 03-09-13, 10:54 PM.

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        • #5
          Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

          Originally posted by rainbow*~ View Post
          Only one option allowed bruv, like which one would you give more weight to?
          Piety i hope :)
          And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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          • #6
            Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

            Money!!



            Oh dear what a bad person that makes me.
            وَالْعَصْرِ

            إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ

            إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ

            "If Allah (swt) only sent this Surah to us, for the guidance of Mankind, this will be enough for us - Imam Shaafi'ee r.a.

            "Yeh dunya daar e faani hain, Tum apna dil mat lagaon, Ganimat samaj zinadagee ki bahar, aana na hoga, yahaa baar baar......"

            Khanqah Habibiyah

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            • #7
              Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

              Originally posted by Strive View Post
              Piety i hope :)
              I hope too, but if I'm 100% honest with myself I'd go for beauty :embar:
              :sub: wabihamdihi:sub:hiladheem

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              • #8
                Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                Originally posted by rainbow*~ View Post
                I hope too, but if I'm 100% honest with myself I'd go for beauty :embar:
                piety and beauty :up: it's possible lol
                And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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                • #9
                  Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                  Should be a multiple choice poll, since there are degrees. Some people can marry anyone thinking only of piety, others need a degree of beauty with it, even though if they are faced with someone far greater than their expectations in beauty, they would not accept if they didn't agree on the deen aspect.
                  والمبادرة إلى التكفير إنما تغلب على طباع من يغلب عليهم الجهل - ابن تيمية رحمه الله - بغية المرتاد

                  "Rushing towards takfir is an attitude which is dominant over those who are defeated by ignorance." - Ibn Taymiyyah Rahimahullah [Bughyatul Murtaad, page 354]

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                  • #10
                    Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                    Originally posted by Strive View Post
                    piety and beauty :up: it's possible lol
                    Two guys, completely perfect for you except one is way better looking than the other and the other is way more pious. Who would you choose?
                    :sub: wabihamdihi:sub:hiladheem

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                    • #11
                      Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                      Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
                      Money!!



                      Oh dear what a bad person that makes me.
                      LOL not at all. I think money/strong work ethic would be most important for sisters who want to have large families.

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                      • #12
                        Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                        It's difficult to put them all into separate boxes and pick one.

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                        • #13
                          Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                          Originally posted by علي View Post
                          Should be a multiple choice poll, since there are degrees. Some people can marry anyone thinking only of piety, others need a degree of beauty with it, even though if they are faced with someone far greater than their expectations in beauty, they would not accept if they didn't agree on the deen aspect.
                          Fine I concede, you can edit the poll.

                          I thought everyone saw things in black and white like me, obviously not lol
                          :sub: wabihamdihi:sub:hiladheem

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                          • #14
                            Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                            Originally posted by rainbow*~ View Post
                            Two guys, completely perfect for you except one is way better looking than the other and the other is way more pious. Who would you choose?
                            :scratch: the better looking one probably :/

                            You?
                            And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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                            • #15
                              Re: What do you think you will be most influenced by when choosing who to marry?

                              Oops, doesn't look like there's an option for that >__>

                              Oh well, guess I'll just vote for highest priority.
                              والمبادرة إلى التكفير إنما تغلب على طباع من يغلب عليهم الجهل - ابن تيمية رحمه الله - بغية المرتاد

                              "Rushing towards takfir is an attitude which is dominant over those who are defeated by ignorance." - Ibn Taymiyyah Rahimahullah [Bughyatul Murtaad, page 354]

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