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  • #91
    Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

    Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
    If anyone is at fault, it's first and foremost the man.
    I'd also give him the benefit of the doubt. I wouldn't slap him though. I could never do that too my husband. No matter how much he ticked me off but she random woman whos trying it on i WOULD.
    ▪️••• 〰 Say what you wish in abuse of me, for my silence towards the idiot is indeed an answer. I am not at a loss for a response, but rather it does not befit the lion to answer the dogs. 〰 •••▪️

    ~ IMAM SHAFI'I RH

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    • #92
      Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

      Sisters should keep their hands to themselves. Slapping isn't going to solve anytihng, esp. when it's your husband who is at fault, first and foremost.

      You're representing Islam when you go out wearing a hijab, so we have to remember that people aren't going to point fingers at you, but at Islam and how we're "violent."

      Plus, women shouldn't be getting violent, anyways. The husband should be man enough to walk away and end the conversation, but if he carries on, then he's at fault, too.
      Last edited by .mirror.; 27-07-12, 12:36 AM.
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      • #93
        Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

        Originally posted by Muslimah3000 View Post
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        Basically not to harsh and not soft if you're too soft he's going to think its okay, but if you're too soft he's going to get annoyed and do it anyay just too annoy you. Tell him you're not happy with it and provide him proofs from hadith or qur'an to show it is wrong what he is doing.
        ▪️••• 〰 Say what you wish in abuse of me, for my silence towards the idiot is indeed an answer. I am not at a loss for a response, but rather it does not befit the lion to answer the dogs. 〰 •••▪️

        ~ IMAM SHAFI'I RH

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        • #94
          Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

          If you've read the scenario posted, the lame "pen joke," it's pretty clear the husband is at fault. Not much room for "benefit of the doubt."
          Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

          "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
          - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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          • #95
            Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

            Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
            Sisters should keep their hands to themselves. Slapping isn't going to solve anytihng, esp when it's your husband who is at fault, first and foremost.

            You're representing Islam when you go out wearing a hijab, so we have to remember that people aren't going to point fingers at you, but at Islam and how we're violent.

            Plus, women shouldn't be getting violent, anyways. The husband should be man enough to walk away and end the conversation, but ig he carries on, then he's at fault, too.
            Put yourself in the wifes situation if you and a non-mahram woman we;re getting a little too close what would you expect her to do? Some women out there aren't very good at taking hints.
            ▪️••• 〰 Say what you wish in abuse of me, for my silence towards the idiot is indeed an answer. I am not at a loss for a response, but rather it does not befit the lion to answer the dogs. 〰 •••▪️

            ~ IMAM SHAFI'I RH

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            • #96
              Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

              Originally posted by Muslimah3000 View Post
              Like? What's the best way
              Be straightforward and tell him that you don't think it was appropriate the way you were joking with the teller.

              It also depends on your husband and if he knows his Islamic limits. I know many men would say, "Oh, you're being too extreme." Insha'Allah, best to get these things cleared out before marriage or else they escalate in to bigger problems.
              Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

              "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
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              • #97
                Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                Originally posted by Hannahk92 View Post
                Put yourself in the wifes situation if you and a non-mahram woman we;re getting a little too close what would you expect her to do? Some women out there aren't very good at taking hints.
                If I were getting too fresh with a non-mahram, then 50% of the blame is on me. So, if she deserves a slap, then I do, too.

                And, no, I don't think slapping and hitting is the way to solve this but just making a point. You can't free your husband from blame when clearly he's engaged in the conversation and driving it forward with the lame jokes.

                Get a discount on a pen?
                Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

                "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
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                • #98
                  Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                  Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
                  If I were getting too fresh with a non-mahram, then 50% of the blame is on me. So, if she deserves a slap, then I do, too.

                  And, no, I don't think slapping and hitting is the way to solve this but just making a point. You can't free your husband from blame when clearly he's engaged in the conversation and driving it forward with the lame jokes.

                  Get a discount on a pen?
                  Yeah you're right akhi. I find it hard keeping my anger inside sometimes, I've struggled with it since I can remember. I don't lose my cool with my husband though and he knows how to calm me down.
                  ▪️••• 〰 Say what you wish in abuse of me, for my silence towards the idiot is indeed an answer. I am not at a loss for a response, but rather it does not befit the lion to answer the dogs. 〰 •••▪️

                  ~ IMAM SHAFI'I RH

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                  • #99
                    Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                    Alhamdulillah. May Allah never put you in a situation like that and keep your bond strong with your husband.
                    Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

                    "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
                    - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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                    • Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                      No offence but I don't understand women who blame the other woman, I always blame the husband... lol. Just like if it was the other way round, I wouldn't blame the other man but the wife. After all, it is your spouse doing this, s/he didn't need to reciprocate.

                      Where its a situation with a non-Muslim and a Muslim, the Muslim ought to know better. Always. Why? Because the command against the zina of the eyes, tongue, etc. is an order that only the Muslim would care about.

                      Originally posted by Hannahk92 View Post
                      Basically not to harsh and not soft if you're too soft he's going to think its okay, but if you're too soft he's going to get annoyed and do it anyay just too annoy you. Tell him you're not happy with it and provide him proofs from hadith or qur'an to show it is wrong what he is doing.
                      If he does... is he worth being with? Where is the fear of Allah? :/

                      Originally posted by Hannahk92 View Post
                      Put yourself in the wifes situation if you and a non-mahram woman we;re getting a little too close what would you expect her to do? Some women out there aren't very good at taking hints.
                      Its the man's job to deal with it in a situation like this... he's a Muslim, he should back away or get to the point of this whole conversation quickly and leave.
                      Ya Muqallib al-Quloob, thabbit qalbi 'alaa Deenik
                      O' Converter of Hearts, make my heart steadfast upon Thy Way
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                      • Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                        Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
                        If I
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                        Get a discount on the amount they have to pay not on the pen

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                        • Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                          Originally posted by Muslimah3000 View Post
                          Get a discount on the amount they have to pay not on the pen
                          Oh. Lol. Still...
                          Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

                          "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
                          - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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                          • Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                            This thread sure crushed any stereotypes about men being the only ones that can be irrational when it comes to their spouse and 'gheerah'.
                            "The discovery of truth is prevented more effectively, not by the false appearance of things present and which mislead into error, not directly by weakness of the reasoning powers, but by preconceived notions, opinion, and by prejudice." - Arthur Schopenhauer

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                            • Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                              Originally posted by Soliloquy View Post
                              No offence but I don't understand women who blame the other woman, I always blame the husband... lol. Just like if it was the other way round, I wouldn't blame the other man but the wife. After all, it is your spouse doing this, s/he didn't need to reciprocate.

                              Where its a situation with a non-Muslim and a Muslim, the Muslim ought to know better. Always. Why? Because the command against the zina of the eyes, tongue, etc. is an order that only the Muslim would care about.



                              If he does... is he worth being with? Where is the fear of Allah? :/



                              Its the man's job to deal with it in a situation like this... he's a Muslim, he should back away or get to the point of this whole conversation quickly and leave.
                              As you can see above I agreed with brother mirror and I admit I came in a little too fast with my comment but i still wouldn't just stand there.
                              ▪️••• 〰 Say what you wish in abuse of me, for my silence towards the idiot is indeed an answer. I am not at a loss for a response, but rather it does not befit the lion to answer the dogs. 〰 •••▪️

                              ~ IMAM SHAFI'I RH

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                              • Re: Flirting or socialising ??!

                                Originally posted by Hannahk92 View Post
                                As you can see above I agreed with brother mirror and I admit I came in a little too fast with my comment but i still wouldn't just stand there.
                                I think the best way is to wait until they both go home and have a face to face peaceful talk, not a violent one thou

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