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  • muslimahc
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    Re: spouses from the same background as you is a must!

    Originally posted by Goldfinger View Post
    Wouldn't it be a boring world if we all agreed on everything.
    Right. if everyone had the same opinion then there would be no need for forums and discussions. There would be no ummah forum lol...

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  • Goldfinger
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    Originally posted by muslimahc View Post
    The problem is some people cannot accept the fact that people will have different views.
    Wouldn't it be a boring world if we all agreed on everything.

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  • muslimahc
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    Originally posted by tabasam View Post
    I feel like this thread is going on and on because its the principal of the matter rather than its purpose which was to share our view .
    The problem is some people cannot accept the fact that people will have different views.

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  • tabasam
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    I feel like this thread is going on and on because its the principal of the matter rather than its purpose which was to share our view .

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  • muslimahc
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    Originally posted by Uthmani View Post
    Okay so there are bad cases of polygamy and good cases of polygamy. What's wrong? There are bad cases of normal marriages as well maybe that's wrong as well? I don't see any point arguing when everyone has only there own point of view. Maybe it's better to drop this argument because we ALL know that there is no conclusion and we're not going to change each others mind.

    Subject A ate biryani and got sick and hated it.

    Subject B ate biryani and he liked it a lot.

    Is Subject A or Subject B right?? They're both right because everything in life is different each and every person. There are too many factors too consider so there's no point arguing.

    PEACE EVERYONE, KEEP THE PEACE! :boom:
    Did I say polygamy was haram and no one should practice it? No. So your argument is a moot point.

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  • Uthmani
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    Originally posted by muslimahc View Post
    Right. If you don't say what they want to hear about polygamy, men twist your words and accuse you of saying polygamy is haram. That is what they always say, but we can do it, "it is our right." Who ever said it wasn't? Many sisters are just scared about the idea b/c of the way many men abuse it. I rarely see a good case though I know they are out there. Also, polygamy is a CONDITIONAL right, meaning you can only follow it given you can be just. If you can't, then you are not allowed. I see so many men with struggling broke families marrying other women just to make things more difficult on one wife. They bascially make one suffer in order to make life better for another. The majority of men today cannot afford it anyway. I think they just love the idea and is a dream for most of them to switch bed every other night.
    Okay so there are bad cases of polygamy and good cases of polygamy. What's wrong? There are bad cases of normal marriages as well maybe that's wrong as well? I don't see any point arguing when everyone has only there own point of view. Maybe it's better to drop this argument because we ALL know that there is no conclusion and we're not going to change each others mind.

    Subject A ate biryani and got sick and hated it.

    Subject B ate biryani and he liked it a lot.

    Is Subject A or Subject B right?? They're both right because everything in life is different each and every person. There are too many factors too consider so there's no point arguing.

    PEACE EVERYONE, KEEP THE PEACE! :boom:

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  • muslimahc
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    Originally posted by purple89 View Post
    I did not read any post by muslimahc stating that polygamy was a bad thing just that some men abuse this privilege which they do and that some women don't want to be in polygamous marriage and they are under no obligation to be in them. If polygamy bothers some people they can put it in a contract prior to marriage or get a divorce.
    Right. If you don't say what they want to hear about polygamy, men twist your words and accuse you of saying polygamy is haram. That is what they always say, but we can do it, "it is our right." Who ever said it wasn't? Many sisters are just scared about the idea b/c of the way many men abuse it. I rarely see a good case though I know they are out there. Also, polygamy is a CONDITIONAL right, meaning you can only follow it given you can be just. If you can't, then you are not allowed. I see so many men with struggling broke families marrying other women just to make things more difficult on one wife. They bascially make one suffer in order to make life better for another. The majority of men today cannot afford it anyway. I think they just love the idea and is a dream for most of them to switch bed every other night.

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  • muslimahc
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    Originally posted by muslimah_rose View Post
    coming from a woman whos never even been married and would inshallah encourage her husband to take maximum 4 wives and live on little so he can afford it: PRAISE BE TO ALLAH SUBHANATALLAH FOR POLYGAMY! the end :)

    now all those women who are crying over allah's decree, please control it.
    You do that sister:up: Then you can come back and tell us how great your experience is.
    Last edited by muslimahc; 09-04-12, 03:15 PM.

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  • zakariyya21
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    Originally posted by muslimahc View Post
    I love how brothers always say women are being emotional b/c we are not thrilled about polygamy. You have a wife who is OK with it so no need to worry over my opinion. Somemen do use polygamy as a way to have another woman to sleep with and that is what you implied in your post. Some muslim men hide behind religion to carry out their lustful desires.
    mashAllah I thought only Allah knew the unseen. You should look at what I said and take it as it is, rather than telling me what I am implying. I have already stated I was not equating women to merchandise please stop trying to tell me about the affairs of my heart, I think I would know better than you what I'm implying and what I'm not implying. Or are you Allah that you can see into the ppls hearts.

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  • sami_786
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    Originally posted by cho09082489 View Post
    people!
    I agree

    I wonder how is it that we live our lives by the look at the direction of the discussion??..

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  • Azeeza
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    Originally posted by purple89 View Post
    Where did I generalize?
    sorry sis, i misread your post.

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  • Hannahk92
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    Originally posted by علي View Post
    I disagree with the topic. I have a marriage in my family with a person from a completely different race, culture, nationality, and background. It's a happy marriage going five years and counting al hamdulilah.
    MashAllah.

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  • purple89
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    I did not read any post by muslimahc stating that polygamy was a bad thing just that some men abuse this privilege which they do and that some women don't want to be in polygamous marriage and they are under no obligation to be in them. If polygamy bothers some people they can put it in a contract prior to marriage or get a divorce.

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  • Glow
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    Brothers, Sisters! Why so much attacks against one another! The issue of marrying 4 wives is clear! Allah allowed it. If you want to participate in one Barakullah Fee'ke. If you don't that's your right. But don't be trying to make haraam what Allah made Halal. Yes, some men may abuse it but that's not a justification to say its no good. We understand you have jealousy, even the Sahabat, the wives of the Sahabah had jealousy. Its just natural thing which is an ongoing process you have to fight. However they did not and could not say they didn't like a teaching in Islam. Every time something happened, or their jealousy manifested into action, they quickly repented and asked for forgiveness and strived to fix themselves. Allah(SWT) says enter into Islam completely. You cannot believe in part of the Quran and not believe in others. If you've disbelieved in part of it you've disbelieved in all of it. If you have some issues then admit that these issue are caused by your own jealousy and/or men who abuse this right (which do exist). But none of these excuses are a justification to say this is a bad teaching in Islam.

    How much more complicated can this be?

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  • muslimah_rose
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    coming from a woman whos never even been married and would inshallah encourage her husband to take maximum 4 wives and live on little so he can afford it: PRAISE BE TO ALLAH SUBHANATALLAH FOR POLYGAMY! the end :)

    now all those women who are crying over allah's decree, please control it.

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