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  • #16
    Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

    Originally posted by shazj View Post
    My husband puts in time and energy into his deen and his career Alhamdulillah. According to you he is doing something useless and pointless?
    career, yes - deen, no

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    • #17
      Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

      But is career any different to deen

      You could have a brother with a very good job, ambitious, confident etc but his intention may be to serve the ummah of Nabi :saw:, or to do da'wah, or to strive hard in his role as a husband and father.

      Deen is an integral part of our lives and not just limited to the five pillars
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      • #18
        Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

        Originally posted by -Shamil- View Post
        career, yes - deen, no
        Don't you think it was more of a waste of time and energy spending all those years studying for a degree you didn't want to pursue? As for my husband putting in time and energy into his career, it's actually quite impressive mashaALLAH. Unlike many, he works hard to put the bread and butter on the table and Alhamdulillah, as days go by, I appreciate him more and more for being such an all rounded person.
        Mrs B

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        • #19
          Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

          Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
          But is career any different to deen

          You could have a brother with a very good job, ambitious, confident etc but his intention may be to serve the ummah of Nabi :saw:, or to do da'wah, or to strive hard in his role as a husband and father.

          Deen is an integral part of our lives and not just limited to the five pillars
          depends what career, i suppose - my career would not benefit the ummah in anyway had i chosen it...i suppose if your studying medicine and for the sake of Allah (SWT) you wanna help people, then that comes under deen and you've found a perfect balance alhumdulillah

          all the people i know that are obsessed with careers unfortunately do not have that intention - its more about earning more and more every year, always looking for thet pay rise - about getting the promotion and buying the nice car or big house - about really working hard and striving for something that has no relation to your deen and is not gonna help in one bit in the afterlife...why?

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          • #20
            Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

            Originally posted by shazj View Post
            Don't you think it was more of a waste of time and energy spending all those years studying for a degree you didn't want to pursue? As for my husband putting in time and energy into his career, it's actually quite impressive mashaALLAH. Unlike many, he works hard to put the bread and butter on the table and Alhamdulillah, as days go by, I appreciate him more and more for being such an all rounded person.
            it was a waste tbh but at that stage in my life i had no choice but go to uni - parents wanna see that piece of paper that somehow makes you a better human being and makes you a better marriage prospect and gives you more respect from the community - all total and utter nonsense of course but thats the way the ummah thinks nowadays and i had to go through with the charade

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            • #21
              Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

              Originally posted by -Shamil- View Post
              career, yes - deen, no
              What if your career is to help the Ummah?

              In fact, any man who earns his income in a halal manner and spends on his family intending for reward from Allah, it will be sadaqah for him.

              Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best dinar that a man spends is a dinar that he spends on his family, and a dinar that a man spends on his mount (for jihad) for the sake of Allaah, and a dinar that he spends on his companions (in jihad) for the sake of Allaah.”

              Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You will never spend anything seeking thereby the Countenance of Allaah, but you will be rewarded for it, even (the morsel) that you put in your wife’s mouth.”

              Ho beautiful is this deen, and how Merciful is our Lord? :D
              Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

              "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
              - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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              • #22
                Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
                What if your career is to help the Ummah?

                In fact, any man who earns his income in a halal manner and spends on his family intending for reward from Allah, it will be sadaqah for him.

                Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best dinar that a man spends is a dinar that he spends on his family, and a dinar that a man spends on his mount (for jihad) for the sake of Allaah, and a dinar that he spends on his companions (in jihad) for the sake of Allaah.”

                Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You will never spend anything seeking thereby the Countenance of Allaah, but you will be rewarded for it, even (the morsel) that you put in your wife’s mouth.”

                Ho beautiful is this deen, and how Merciful is our Lord? :D
                yes i answered that above - people who have that balance are rare and blessed

                plus most of us work and earn halal income but that doesnt mean we focus our energy and time on career

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                • #23
                  Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                  I wouldn't use that word most. Only Allah know what one's intention is.
                  We should assume best for our brothers and sisters, right?
                  Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

                  "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
                  - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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                  • #24
                    Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                    In my view, ambition is a good quality that a man should hav. Bcz, a man is d one who should earn much rather than woman. He s d one who should maintain d family economy. It s our traditional concept. And also u said dt it s not ur favrt job. It may or may not b, anyhow u reached in that job. Nw ur duty is to shine in ur job, u must do it wel. Otherwise u can seek anthr job as per ur interest, or u can do sidejobs whch would giv u comfort. Brother, these are all d things dat a girl will lyk, a good girl wil lyk.

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                    • #25
                      Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                      Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
                      I wouldn't use that word most. Only Allah know what one's intention is.
                      We should assume best for our brothers and sisters, right?
                      I dont understand what you mean - i said most of us earn halal income, is that not true?

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                      • #26
                        Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                        Oh, right.

                        I thought you meant most of us earn just for the sake of earning money and getting promotion, etc.
                        Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

                        "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
                        - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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                        • #27
                          Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                          Originally posted by bushra_gafoor09 View Post
                          In my view, ambition is a good quality that a man should hav. Bcz, a man is d one who should earn much rather than woman. He s d one who should maintain d family economy. It s our traditional concept. And also u said dt it s not ur favrt job. It may or may not b, anyhow u reached in that job. Nw ur duty is to shine in ur job, u must do it wel. Otherwise u can seek anthr job as per ur interest, or u can do sidejobs whch would giv u comfort. Brother, these are all d things dat a girl will lyk, a good girl wil lyk.
                          thing is i already have a job as per my interest - its low-paid but the wage is enough for me and would be enough for me and a wife and even children to live on imo...you can maintain your family without having a high-profile career

                          also i think a girl who decides she wants to marry me based on my career or wage packet is definitely not worth it

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                          • #28
                            Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                            :wswrwb:

                            It's not an important characteristic for me. As you said, a lack of career ambition does not mean that a person has no ambition at all. As long as the husband can provide for the family and is compatible character-wise, then it doesn't really matter. You work to live, not live to work.
                            It is narrated on the authority of Jabir that he heard the (Holy Prophet)[:saw:] say: A Muslim is he from whose hand and tongue the Muslims are safe.
                            -Muslim



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                            • #29
                              Re: Sisters - Is Ambition an Important Characteristic in a Guy?

                              ^ As you can see in this thread theres sisters who value ambition and those who don't. If you're not ambitious then maybe you should go for someone who isn't either OR someone for whom its not an important characteristic to have in their potential spouse.
                              17-07

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