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I read in another post a sister saying something like that if a girl agree's or wants to be a man's 2,3 or 4th wife she may be old or desperate or trying to score points.
That's not true.
When i was married i was very young and my husbands only wife. I supported polygmy then and i still do now even though i'm divorced.
Why do i support polygmy?
1. For me i would like to see my husband 2 or 3 times in a week because i think that when your in each others faces all the time after a while you might start getting annoyed/bored of each other. however if you see eachother only a few times in a week you have the chance to miss each other and the time you do have together you'd appreciate it more. Some married couples may live with eachother all the time but after a while they can get soo used to each other, sometimes spark starts to fade.
2. Love for your sister what you love for yourself, there are so many pious sisters out there looking to get married regardless if they are virgins, divorcee's or widows who need a mans financial, physical and emotional support, a leader for them. No one should get left behind.
3. Less chance of a man commiting zina, if a man has 4 wives who he is very attracted to, he probably wouldnt be thinking of or doing any zina actions.(hopefully)
4. More children, in Islam we are encouraged to have a lot of children, if you have more then 1 wife then hopefully a lot more kids. eg 4 wives, 5 kids from each wife = 20 kids : )
5. The Prophet(saw) practised polygmy and many of the Sahaba and the Prophet(saw) is the best of creation and the Sahaba the best generation.
6. I would have so much more time to do the things i want like learn arabic and other islamic sciences. Have more time for my family and friends.
I am not old, desparate or trying to score points. I dont care if the brothers are for or against polygmy on this forum. On this forum there are many differant opinions on this subject.
Lastly i know that there are many many sisters who wouldn't want there husbands to take on another wife which is fine i respect there opinion but please do not force your opinions on people like me, please learn to respect our opinion as well.
At the end of the day our goal is to attain Paradise so if my future husband for whatever reason already has a wife or wanted to take on another wife i would InshaAllah be content with his decision.
I read in another post a sister saying something like that if a girl agree's or wants to be a man's 2,3 or 4th wife she may be old or desperate or trying to score points.
That's not true.
When i was married i was very young and my husbands only wife. I supported polygmy then and i still do now even though i'm divorced.
Why do i support polygmy?
1. For me i would like to see my husband 2 or 3 times in a week because i think that when your in each others faces all the time after a while you might start getting annoyed/bored of each other. however if you see eachother only a few times in a week you have the chance to miss each other and the time you do have together you'd appreciate it more. Some married couples may live with eachother all the time but after a while they can get soo used to each other, sometimes spark starts to fade.
2. Love for your sister what you love for yourself, there are so many pious sisters out there looking to get married regardless if they are virgins, divorcee's or widows who need a mans financial, physical and emotional support, a leader for them. No one should get left behind.
3. Less chance of a man commiting zina, if a man has 4 wives who he is very attracted to, he probably wouldnt be thinking of or doing any zina actions.(hopefully)
4. More children, in Islam we are encouraged to have a lot of children, if you have more then 1 wife then hopefully a lot more kids. eg 4 wives, 5 kids from each wife = 20 kids : )
5. The Prophet(saw) practised polygmy and many of the Sahaba and the Prophet(saw) is the best of creation and the Sahaba the best generation.
6. I would have so much more time to do the things i want like learn arabic and other islamic sciences. Have more time for my family and friends.
I am not old, desparate or trying to score points. I dont care if the brothers are for or against polygmy on this forum. On this forum there are many differant opinions on this subject.
Lastly i know that there are many many sisters who wouldn't want there husbands to take on another wife which is fine i respect there opinion but please do not force your opinions on people like me, please learn to respect our opinion as well.
At the end of the day our goal is to attain Paradise so if my future husband for whatever reason already has a wife or wanted to take on another wife i would InshaAllah be content with his decision.
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