Salaam Alaykum
I have a major issue which is just getting worse and am in need of some guidance.
To put it candidly, I am a magnet when it comes to women, muslim and non muslim. I am a full fist length bearded bro but this beard is not helping in keeping women (esp. non muslim women) away. Almost everyday I have to deal with incidents of women try to grab my attention. Its worse now in the summer because all the women are walking around with all their legs showing and clevage for all to see and they stand right infront of me and do all sorts of strange poses/show cleavage to try to get my attention. The worst bit is I now have a new work colleague and she is extremely attractive and yep shes trying the same old tactics and I fear for my deen. I've had women hit on me, try to seduce me into zina, get my number/email, flirt and so on and I've held back but with the progression of time its getting harder and harder and Im getting all the more fustrated.
Anyway, the reason Im posting this is because its killing me and I need advice. I can feel myself slowly slipping into dunya. All of this is screwing with my mind. Im burning on the inside, I cannot escape. There is no where to go, I have to work because if I dont then we're on the streets, but at the same time I cannot bare this fitna. Its bad enough seeing appealing women dressed in seductive attire, its worse when they want you.
In some instances I can lower my gaze, in others I cant, either because there is no where to look or I am just too weak and I succumb.
I want to get married but I just cannot find the one for me, Ive benn looking for about 4-5 years to no avail. All the sisters Ive interviewed are not what Im looking for. One problem that recently became apparent is the longer I am exposd to this filth, the higher my visual expectations of a potential.. So now Im at a point where I really want someone exceptionally beautiful as I think it'll help me lower my gaze but then coming across someone who ticks all the boxes is a rarity. Sigh.
If anyone knows of any good marriage services in london then please post them up, and no online sites please.
I have a major issue which is just getting worse and am in need of some guidance.
To put it candidly, I am a magnet when it comes to women, muslim and non muslim. I am a full fist length bearded bro but this beard is not helping in keeping women (esp. non muslim women) away. Almost everyday I have to deal with incidents of women try to grab my attention. Its worse now in the summer because all the women are walking around with all their legs showing and clevage for all to see and they stand right infront of me and do all sorts of strange poses/show cleavage to try to get my attention. The worst bit is I now have a new work colleague and she is extremely attractive and yep shes trying the same old tactics and I fear for my deen. I've had women hit on me, try to seduce me into zina, get my number/email, flirt and so on and I've held back but with the progression of time its getting harder and harder and Im getting all the more fustrated.
Anyway, the reason Im posting this is because its killing me and I need advice. I can feel myself slowly slipping into dunya. All of this is screwing with my mind. Im burning on the inside, I cannot escape. There is no where to go, I have to work because if I dont then we're on the streets, but at the same time I cannot bare this fitna. Its bad enough seeing appealing women dressed in seductive attire, its worse when they want you.
In some instances I can lower my gaze, in others I cant, either because there is no where to look or I am just too weak and I succumb.
I want to get married but I just cannot find the one for me, Ive benn looking for about 4-5 years to no avail. All the sisters Ive interviewed are not what Im looking for. One problem that recently became apparent is the longer I am exposd to this filth, the higher my visual expectations of a potential.. So now Im at a point where I really want someone exceptionally beautiful as I think it'll help me lower my gaze but then coming across someone who ticks all the boxes is a rarity. Sigh.
If anyone knows of any good marriage services in london then please post them up, and no online sites please.
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