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    Nikah/Engagement, etc.

    :salams:

    yeah I know there is NO engangement in Islam. But when thats said, can a person make nikah tomorrow and have the wedding 3-4 years after? Ok ok, what I want to know is do you have to have sex during that period to "consumate" the marriage?
    The upper hand (the one that gives) is better than the lower hand (the one that takes).

    #2
    Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

    Originally posted by Sophiia View Post

    ........I know there is NO engangement in Islam.........
    What? How would you straightaway marry without engagement?
    "An engagement is a promise to marry, and also the period of time between proposal and marriage – which may be lengthy or trivial. During this period, a couple is said to be affianced, betrothed, engaged to be married, or simply engaged. Future brides and grooms are often referred to as fiancées or fiancés respectively (from the French word fiancé). The duration of the courtship varies vastly."
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      #3
      Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

      Whats the point of having nikkah but being together officially after 3-4 years? People change and things happen.

      I can understand if the person is in a different country and any delay would be due to visa issues and then having to wait say up to 18 months but otherwise having the nikkah and then waiting up to 4 years is non-sensical.

      Also one of party may want to have intimate relations - that is their right. So why should he or she wait.


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        #4
        Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

        Islamic concept about engagement is different to that of the Kuffar. And no it is not Fard to consummate before the Waleemah.

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          #5
          Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

          :wswrwb:

          what I want to know is do you have to have sex during that period to "consumate" the marriage?
          How else do you consummate the marriage if not with intercourse?
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            #6
            Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

            um thats not what shes asking

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              #7
              Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

              Phir kiya?
              Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

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                #8
                Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                the prophet (saws) married aisha and three years later consumated the marriage. So it's permissable to delay such a thing...and the waleemah can be delayed as well. These things are flexibe but at the same time it's not wise to be overly flexible...

                and...there is engagement in Islam, during the engagement period all it means is the prospect lady has been spoken for already. But all the stuff which are only permissable for married people still remain unpermissable.

                Allah Alam
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                  #9
                  Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                  Originally posted by Sophiia View Post
                  :salams:

                  yeah I know there is NO engangement in Islam. But when thats said, can a person make nikah tomorrow and have the wedding 3-4 years after? Ok ok, what I want to know is do you have to have sex during that period to "consumate" the marriage?
                  :wswrwb: u could, but nikkah is ur marriage its ur wedding day,the wallima is the wedding feast and is done after consumation the sunnah is to do it within 3 days of the wedding day ( nikkah) in the case of Aisha radiAllahu anha her marriage wasnt consumated until she reached adulthood so thats different. is there any young husband who is willing to wait 3 years to be with his wife, what if he cant wait and she becomes pregnant they are lawful for each other after all will he be able to feed and house her and the child, what does her walli say about this idea, is he happy to marry her to a man who isnt going to maintain her and keep her as a proper wife, is she going to waive her right to be maintained and housed by her husband, there are so many questions, the ppl considering this need to get the womans walli to take it to a shaikh
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                    #10
                    Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                    I'm personally a fan of the idea of having sometime between the Nikkah and Waleemah, but 3-4 years is a very long time! I personally think a year is pushing it as lots of things can change. But you know your circumstances better than anyone else and are in a better state to judge...but I would personally think in terms of months...not years.
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                      #11
                      Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                      Originally posted by advertisement2 View Post
                      the prophet (saws) married aisha and three years later consumated the marriage. So it's permissable to delay such a thing...and the waleemah can be delayed as well. These things are flexibe but at the same time it's not wise to be overly flexible...

                      and...there is engagement in Islam, during the engagement period all it means is the prospect lady has been spoken for already. But all the stuff which are only permissable for married people still remain unpermissable.

                      Allah Alam
                      :jkk: very helpful.
                      The upper hand (the one that gives) is better than the lower hand (the one that takes).

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                        #12
                        Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                        Originally posted by mizfissy815 View Post
                        I'm personally a fan of the idea of having sometime between the Nikkah and Waleemah, but 3-4 years is a very long time! I personally think a year is pushing it as lots of things can change. But you know your circumstances better than anyone else and are in a better state to judge...but I would personally think in terms of months...not years.
                        3-4 years was just an example :)
                        The upper hand (the one that gives) is better than the lower hand (the one that takes).

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                          #13
                          Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                          Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
                          :wswrwb:



                          How else do you consummate the marriage if not with intercourse?
                          I was just asking if you had to have sex right after nikah to consumate the marriage, or was it possible to wait?
                          The upper hand (the one that gives) is better than the lower hand (the one that takes).

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                            #14
                            Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                            Originally posted by Sophiia View Post
                            I was just asking if you had to have sex right after nikah to consumate the marriage, or was it possible to wait?
                            Oh, nah, then.
                            It's between the couple to decide.
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                            "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
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                              #15
                              Re: Nikah/Engagement, etc.

                              Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
                              Oh, nah, then.
                              It's between the couple to decide.
                              I was just wondering if the nikah would be invalid if the couple waitied for instance 2 years to consumate the marriage :)
                              The upper hand (the one that gives) is better than the lower hand (the one that takes).

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