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  • SlaveOfAlla-h
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    Originally posted by Lamp View Post
    When something unfortunate like this happens, you have three choices: You can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.
    What do you mean by, to let it define you?

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  • Lamp
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    When something unfortunate like this happens, you have three choices: You can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.

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  • Newbie2014
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    I know this is an old thread but I came across it looking for answers on google and it was very helpful.

    I know it says accept Allahs Quadr. But how do you know that this is it? How do you know that you are supposed to leave it alone and not fight for your love? This is what I am struggling with...what do I do now? My heart is torn between wanting my relationship and leaving it alone bc it may be Quadr Allah.
    I am dealing with a break up that happened a little over a month ago, I have had some very bad days and some days that were a bit better, so I thought things were improving and the way I got there was having faith in Allah and telling myself that whats meant to be will be. That if Allah's plan is for us to be together then we would...So i pretty much sat back didnt do anything, didn't have any contact with him and tried to heal, I tried to move on with my life doing things that made me happy. But I now realize that I was only putting on a show for myself and everyone around me. I would cry everyday, I still do, and its getting worse, I am so irritable with everyone around me, I have no desire to do anything. Plans I once had with friends I no longer want. So I wonder how do I know if this is whats wanted whats supposed to happen? Am I to contact him like he told me when we broke up, he said he wanted me to change things and then call him, things might I add that we discussed at length that I told him I would do differently but he didnt accept at the time. How do I know if I am to leave it alone at this point or contact him to get back together.
    I wish there was a sure fire way to know but if anyone has some guidance i'd be glad to read it.
    And thank you for your time.

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  • *sheba*
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    Originally posted by KIA ORA View Post
    hi ! am totally new to this site or any of these sort of forums.I dont know to open up through words .All i know is i feel miserable and deppressed.
    I dont even know why am posting this.May be coz am too a coward to feel painful and sad.Some thoughts in the forum gives me heads up but after seconds the grief covers me all up
    are you Maori? the name suggests so..
    Last edited by *sheba*; 28-10-13, 03:56 AM.

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  • KIA ORA
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    hi ! am totally new to this site or any of these sort of forums.I dont know to open up through words .All i know is i feel miserable and deppressed.
    I dont even know why am posting this.May be coz am too a coward to feel painful and sad.Some thoughts in the forum gives me heads up but after seconds the grief covers me all up

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  • Nulbreaker
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    Originally posted by ZaraK View Post
    Hello, I am new to this site. I am so upset...My brother lost his other half because of his family. She was great but not Muslim. My father and community strongly disapproved and after a 4 year battle against everyone, my brother has lost. She left him for the sake of his family....us. I feel like a culprit. My brother is half dead. She just disappeared. He cries so much. I cant look at him like this. Please help me. How do I make his pain go away? What prayers will help him heal?
    These didn't work for me but they may work for your brother :insha:

    It was reported from Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when something upset him:

    “Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom, bi Rahmatika astagheeth (O Ever-Living One, O Everlasting One, by Your mercy I seek help).”
    It was reported that Asmaa’ bint ‘Umays (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me: “Shall I not teach you some words to say when you feel distressed?

    اللهُ اللهُ رَبِّ لا أُشْـرِكُ بِهِ شَيْـئ
    اً
    ‘Allaah, Allaah, Rabbee laa ushriku bihi shay’an’
    Allaah, Allaah, my Lord, I do not associate anything with Him (Abu Dawud 2/87. See also Al-Albani, Sahih Ibn Majah 2/335.)
    It was reported from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No person suffers any anxiety or grief, and says:

    للّهُـمَّ إِنِّي عَبْـدُكَ ابْنُ عَبْـدِكَ ابْنُ أَمَتِـكَ نَاصِيَتِي بِيَـدِكَ، مَاضٍ فِيَّ حُكْمُكَ، عَدْلٌ فِيَّ قَضَاؤكَ أَسْأَلُـكَ بِكُلِّ اسْمٍ هُوَ لَكَ سَمَّـيْتَ بِهِ نَفْسَكَ أِوْ أَنْزَلْتَـهُ فِي كِتَابِكَ، أَوْ عَلَّمْـتَهُ أَحَداً مِنْ خَلْقِـكَ أَوِ اسْتَـأْثَرْتَ بِهِ فِي عِلْمِ الغَيْـبِ عِنْـدَكَ أَنْ تَجْـعَلَ القُرْآنَ رَبِيـعَ قَلْبِـي، وَنورَ صَـدْرِي وجَلَاءَ حُـزْنِي وذَهَابَ هَمِّـي

    ‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi’

    “O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety”
    but Allaah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy.” (Ahmad 1/391)

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  • ZaraK
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    Hello, I am new to this site. I am so upset...My brother lost his other half because of his family. She was great but not Muslim. My father and community strongly disapproved and after a 4 year battle against everyone, my brother has lost. She left him for the sake of his family....us. I feel like a culprit. My brother is half dead. She just disappeared. He cries so much. I cant look at him like this. Please help me. How do I make his pain go away? What prayers will help him heal?

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  • sanaqueen
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    A.o.A
    MashaAllah. fantastic post.

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  • revalea22
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    nice post.

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  • samahk
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    “Verily, from amongst My slaves is he who seeks worship by a certain act but I prevent that from him so that self-amazement does not enter his heart.”
    Can you please interpret this part carefully. These are very powerful words. Someone may interpret this wrong lose hope and not strive to do good.

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  • samahk
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    “Verily, from amongst My slaves is he who seeks worship by a certain act but I prevent that from him so that self-amazement does not enter his heart.”
    Can you please interpret this part carefully. These are very powerful words. Someone may interpret this wrong lose hope and not strive to do good.

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  • F_Ferdous
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    Just read the entire post. Well written and it helps I guess. But I still feel miserable. :(

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  • Missy
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    What if u wish to not find anyone else. I know there is that saying there is something better but what if u don't want anyone better, i'm sure there are better people out there, but what if u r happy as u r just waiting.

    She read the whole Qur’an to him while she was young and learnt under his supervision. She got married to him and used to make ‘Qiyamu al-Lail’ and fast the days together. She said to him at his last hours before his death: ‘You proposed to my family to marry me so they married us. NOW I propose to you to marry you in Jannah?’ So he replied: ‘Do not marry any one after my death!’ Later in her life she was approached by the caliph Mu’awiyah Ibn Abi Sufyan but she refused as she wanted to be with her husband.

    This is the relation between Abu ad-Dardaa – may Allah be pleased with him - and his wife Umm ad-Dardaa as-Sughrah – may Allah have mercy on them

    - reported by Adh-Dhahabi [not a hadith]

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  • Bint Muaawiya
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    Great post. :jkk:

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  • BitterMo
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    A broken heart is not like a broken bone, it does not heal so easily. If you shared many years together it will make the loss even more painful. Everyone heals differently. A part of me will always love my ex.

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