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  • Safiyyah89
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    Re: why hatin on the white guys?

    Originally posted by SisterFirdous1 View Post
    Salaaam,
    i dont think muslims hate white guys,
    my mum prefers me marry a white revert as they dont havethat cultural baggage.. and to help the community to become more diverse as Blackburn is very segregated in terms of asians n whites. If u were here my mum wouldve kidnapped you.
    why must the word white be in there? y cant it just be reverts?? if u think white revert brothers get it easy imagine what the black revert brothers go through, ive herd people say ill marry a white revert brother but not a jamaican revert and it always annoys me, whats the difference? as long as the person is practicing thats all that matters alhamdulillah

    (not ranting at u btw, just my observation)

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  • Yaqoot Marjaan
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    Originally posted by SisterFirdous1 View Post
    If u were here my mum wouldve kidnapped you.
    A hint if there ever was one.
    Bro. alwaysbeme, take notice! :p

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  • x--x
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    Re: why hatin on the white guys?

    Originally posted by SisterFirdous1 View Post
    Salaaam,
    i dont think muslims hate white guys,
    my mum prefers me marry a white revert as they dont havethat cultural baggage.. and to help the community to become more diverse as Blackburn is very segregated in terms of asians n whites. If u were here my mum wouldve kidnapped you.
    :rotfl:

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  • SisterFirdous1
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    Re: why hatin on the white guys?

    Salaaam,
    i dont think muslims hate white guys,
    my mum prefers me marry a white revert as they dont havethat cultural baggage.. and to help the community to become more diverse as Blackburn is very segregated in terms of asians n whites. If u were here my mum wouldve kidnapped you.

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  • ,, -alwaysbeme!
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    May have to consider it. ;)

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  • uncle umar
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    there you go bro make hijra to uk to get married.

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  • LailaTheMuslim
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    Originally posted by ,, -alwaysbeme! View Post
    Jazakumallah kheir.
    But you guys seem to be missing what I am saying.
    What I am saying is that by 'resigning myself' I'm not so much 'giving up' as I am just letting my life go a little bit. In this way I can focus on other things, at least for the moment and find my contentment in single life, as Allahu alim I have no idea how long it wil continue for.

    That said, I've always been quite an independant person. In my family, my parents were both VERY career oreinted people to the point they had little time for us, it was me who became kind of like the care taker at a very young age and in turn became very independant alhamdulillah. I just grew up very fast.
    Right now, I'm pretty much alone - well, I have friends and family...But you understand me, yeah?
    Coming home to no one and pretty much nothing is kind of weird after so long of holding the reigns and being felt 'needed' by other people.
    It's been like this for a while, and I'm having a very hard time adjusting to feeling somewhat 'arbitrary' for lack of a better term, and admit, have been for a while in a bit of a 'why bother' frame of mind when it comes to being that person, even for myself.

    Yes, I'm in my very early 20's and admit, it's very young, and have followed my parents to a degree with being career based, but not entirely alhamdulillah. I never want to be like that, or put my child in that position.
    I hear of brothers, 40 or over, still single and not coping so well. I put myself in their shoes, and I know it's a long way away and drive myself nuts with 'what ifs' as in 'what if this continues for that long?'

    I really do apologise if my posst show a distrust, for it's not the case at all. I'm just my own worst enemy, and apologise that these threads are like an outlet for me. But yes, I am entirely owed the blame, I agree with that.
    you sound like you'd make a good husband and father. In the UK, you'd be snapped up pretty fast.

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  • ,, -alwaysbeme!
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    Originally posted by uncle umar View Post
    sorry it was just my honest oppinion. no hurt was intended bro.

    bro just from a lesson in life that i learned. i got married when i was 20. and as good as it was, i wish i waited. i have a pretty uniqe experience when it come to marrage but just take my word for it, you have time. im not saying this out of disobidenece to Allah, i dont know when either of us will die. what im saying is that even though nikah is very impornat ther are still more important things to worry about. and this is what i mean by sorting out.

    really, work on sabr, because sabr is the gluw that holds and man and wife together through all those rough patches and stops needless arguments and is the key to forgivness. withour proper sabr, the marrage will probably fail.

    and i dont say that to hurt or anything just maybe somthing to reflect on if you havent yet already.
    Bro - I understand, you're looking out for me.
    You're being a good brother.
    I'm far from hurt from what you have said - ANYTHING you have said.

    I'm just trying to say, there's a few things I don't deal too well with, one of them is feeling like I'm being underestimated.
    I don't know, I just feel the way I grew up, the way I'm living now (far from ideal, but what is 'ideal') and my current situation/frame of mind, are enough to make me bhe able to say 'okay, I'm ready!'...Well, I've felt that way a loooooong time...
    I know I must have Sabr, I just felt a lot of people thought I was 'quitting' mission: get married too soon when I said 'resigned myself' - which is where this whole storm seems to have begun.

    I'm very proud of where I am at for my age:
    Learning my deen to expand on what I already have in way of knowledge and trying to better myself constantly, steady and growing career, good living, experience taking care of myself and others (in terms of housework, nurturing, caring), can provide a home without aid of parents or in-laws, all quite comfortably. Alhamdulillah.

    I don't say this to anyone in person, cos I fear they'll think I'll be full of myself...But I think I'm fairly tough cookie. Alhamdulillah.
    Last edited by ,, -alwaysbeme!; 28-07-10, 02:52 PM.

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  • sum5
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    Subana'Allah brother May Allah make things easy for you. I know a few people in your situation I know it's not easy.

    Alhumdulilah we have Ramadan just around the corner. A time for us to reflect and be occupied with Worship Insha'Allah use this time to get closer to Allah and ask Allah to give you that which is best for you. We may want something so bad but right now that thing is not a good thing for us. Allah knows best and surely we want what is best for us?

    Use this forum as a little meet way for having interaction with Muslims. Like sister Asiya said it helped her a lot. Alhumulilah.

    Being married young is a little hard but it can be done Insha'Allah my hubby was 22 when we got married he is a "revert kinda". So am I. He was well grounded in his deen and with very good brothers he was "ready" Allah aukbar. So until an opportunity comes along for marriage really get into your studies of the deen build yourself up in the path of knowledge Insha'Allah.

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  • uncle umar
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    Allah blessed me with this test. i dunno if you read about what happens next but things went downhill real fast (almost made into a terroisim scapegoat) but through that test i came on the right path inshallah. before i was married i wasent practicing correctly, i had wrong ideas about islam (like i was modernist) but because of jail and everything alhamdulilah my heart got washed clean of the batil that was in it.

    but getting married young isint easy. it takes alot of sabr and you need a spouse thats compatable otherwise its gonna be a real rough ride especally when your young cause finacial issues and social issues are more prevelant when you are younger and not esablished. not saying that it cant be done but one must really have lots of sabr because the situation dose eventually change.

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  • Abdullah_Yusuf
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    Originally posted by uncle umar View Post
    sorry it was just my honest oppinion. no hurt was intended bro.
    Wow masha Allah bro. Congratulations on doing that at that age-nothing wrong with it. Masha Allah, may Allah continue to bless you.
    Wasalaam.

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  • uncle umar
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    Re: why hatin on the white guys?

    sorry it was just my honest oppinion. no hurt was intended bro.

    bro just from a lesson in life that i learned. i got married when i was 20. and as good as it was, i wish i waited. i have a pretty uniqe experience when it come to marrage but just take my word for it, you have time. im not saying this out of disobidenece to Allah, i dont know when either of us will die. what im saying is that even though nikah is very impornat ther are still more important things to worry about. and this is what i mean by sorting out.

    really, work on sabr, because sabr is the gluw that holds and man and wife together through all those rough patches and stops needless arguments and is the key to forgivness. withour proper sabr, the marrage will probably fail.

    and i dont say that to hurt or anything just maybe somthing to reflect on if you havent yet already.

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  • ,, -alwaysbeme!
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    Originally posted by uncle umar View Post
    bro i think your confused and dont know yourself what you ar feeling.

    i suggest you take some time to sort tht out.
    Brother, let's face it. I have nothing but time to figure it out. Even though, I do disagree with your assessment and agree with Sr. *Asiya*, I think I have where I am in life pretty worked out.
    I just worry about the time I have being far too legnthy for me to really be able to cope with. :(
    Kheir inshaAllah!

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  • *asiya*
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    i think the brother has a pretty clear on where hes at, he knows he has to have sabr, he takes solace in Allah and his deen, cos knows his situation will change insha Allah, and hes learnt to just go with the flow which shows maturity masha Allah. it is hard being alone even if u accept all of that, humans aren't meant to be alone. and when u come to islam, leave your freinds behind, dont fit in with family its tough, may Allah ta ala give our bro sabr and continued courage amin.

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  • uncle umar
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    bro i think your confused and dont know yourself what you ar feeling.

    i suggest you take some time to sort tht out.

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