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    Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

    Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

    The Messenger of Allah salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam was telling his uncle Al Abaas the story of Mugheeth and Bareerah, he said: "O Abbas! Isn't it amazing how much Mugheeth loves Bareerah/Barirah and how much Bareerah hates? Mugheeth?"

    Bareerah was a female slave and A'isha was interested in buying her. She was married to Mugheer, and Ai'sha freed her (they were married in slavery); a free woman cannot marry a slave man, so after she became free, she had the choice to keep this marriage or to ask for the dissolvent of the marriage. She said, "Alhamdulillah, I'm tired of this marriage, I'm going to get out." Mugheer loved her so much, sincerely and honestly. After she left him, he couldn't take it, so he went in public weeping, chasing her, asking her "Ya Bareera just look at me or talk to me." He went to sahaba and said, "Please talk to her for me (to Abu Bakr and Umar and at the end, even to the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wassalam) to ask him to intercede. So Prophet (peace be upon him) (as the mercy for mankind) felt sorry for him, and he said he'd do it. When he went to Bareerah, she asked, "Are you commanding me or are you just interceding?" The Prophet said, "I'm interceding." She replied, "If this is the case, then I don't want him", and since all else failed, he spent his life chasing after her and crying for her.

    What to gain from the hadith:

    Excessive love sometimes causes the forgetfulness of shyness. Just like in his example, he could not hide his love for Bareerah, but the Prophet (peace be upon him) didn't chastise him for it (becuse it wasn't in his hands.) He wouldn't have been chastised for it unless he totally crossed the limits. Imam Ibn Hajr said that it is permissible if it's out of someone's hands.

    In the story above, Mugeeth even went to the extent that he asked the Prophet to intercede for him. Mugheeth loved her so much that the Prophet didn't deny that love, and he didn't say, "You can't because she's not your wife anymore."

    *Love is a secret and it's an amazing secret from Allah (Subhanaw wa Ta'Ala!)*

    [Sahih Al Bukhari - Book 63 [of divorce] #206]

    #2
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    where are u getting these amazing stories from !
    for those who say love does not exist ...think again.
    but also "love is blind" for him to go to a weeping place..in public I dont think nowadays men would cry in public
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      #3
      Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

      Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (10/129):

      Love is a psychological sickness, and if it grows strong it affects the body, and becomes a physical sickness, either as diseases of the brain, which are said to be diseases caused by waswaas, or diseases of the body such as weakness, emaciation and so on

      Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (10/185):

      If a man is in love with a woman, even if she is permissible for him, his heart remains enslaved to her, and she can control him as she wishes, even though outwardly he appears to be her master, because he is her husband; but in fact he is her prisoner and slave, especially if she is aware of his need and love for her. In that case, she will control him like a harsh and oppressive master controls his abject slave who cannot free himself from him. Rather he is worse off than that, because enslavement of the heart is worse than enslavement of the body.


      - Also is it Ibn Hajir explanation to the hadeeth which is the point to benefit?? Because there a few problems with the post inregards to what message it is giving out, one narraton does not lead to a complete understadning of any subject within the deen....for example the emotion which was there was not blameworthy but action upon it etc is not to be made permissable , as though its ok to chase a sister in public if she is not your mahram and other then this.

      Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (11/10):

      If that does not result from carelessness or transgression on his part, then there is no sin on him for what befalls him

      Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Rawdat al-Muhibbeen (147):

      If love occurs for a reason that is not haraam, the person is not to be blamed, such as one who loved his wife or slave woman, then he separated from her but the love remained and did not leave him. He is not to be blamed for that. Similarly if there was a sudden glance then he averted his gaze, but love took hold of his heart without him meaning it to, he must, however, ward it off and resist it.

      Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (10/133):

      If he is tested with love but he remains chaste and is patient, then he will be rewarded for fearing Allaah. It is known from shar’i evidence that if a person remains chaste and avoids haraam things in looking, word and deeds, and he keeps quiet about it and does not speak of it, so that there will be haraam talk about that, whether by complaining to another person or committing evil openly, or pursuing the beloved one in any way, and he is patient in obeying Allaah and avoiding sin, despite the pain of love that he feels in his heart, just as one who is afflicted with a calamity bears the pain of it with patience, then he will be one of those who fear Allaah and are patient, “Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good deeds), and is patient, then surely, Allaah makes not the reward of the Muhsinoon (good‑doers) to be lost” [Yoosuf 12:90].

      also something else which needs to be pointed out, especially with the actions of the beloved Prophet (saw) is the fact, they were married, and this narrations explanaiton has to do with Divorce and that which can be explained inregards to that subject.
      Last edited by aG123; 16-03-10, 09:51 AM.

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        #4
        Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

        Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah states;

        Compatibility between souls is one of the strongest causes of love. Every person is attracted towards that which is compatible with him, and this compatibility is of two types: original compatibility which is ingrained in the essence and that which comes later because of because of living together or having something in common.

        If your aims match his aims, there will be harmony between your soul and his, but if the aims are different, then harmony will no longer exist.

        As for original compatibility, it is a kind of similarity in attitude and similarity of souls. Each soul longs for other souls that are similar to it, because what is similar to something is naturally attracted to it, so the two souls may be similar in original creation, thus there will be a natural attraction to one another.

        This is what made some people say that love is not only caused by physical beauty, and the lack of physical beauty does not mean that there can be no love; rather it is similarity between souls and similarity in their characteristics which are created in them that matter.

        The reality of love is that it is like a mirror in which the lover sees his characteristics and kindness in the image of the one he loves, so in reality he loves nothing but himself and his characteristics and the one who has similar characteristics.

        Hence noble, pure and sublime souls love the characteristics of perfection in particular, so the dearest things to them are knowledge, bravery, dignity, generosity, kindness, patience and steadfastness, because these characteristics are compatible with the essence of these souls, unlike base and mean souls, which are far away from loving these characteristics

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          #5
          Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

          If the love relationship is based on similarity and harmony, then it will be reinforced and become stronger, and nothing could remove it except something stronger than the cause of it, and if it is not based on similarity and harmony, then it is no more than love for a reason, which will disappear when the reason disappears.

          Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (may Allaah have mercy on him) narrated in his Musnad the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her): A woman used to go to Quraysh and make them laugh. She came to Madeenah and stayed with a woman who also made people laugh. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: With whom is So and so staying? She said: With So and so, who makes people laugh. He said: “Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.” The original version of this hadeeth is in al-Saheeh.

          With all this in the context of the narration above,makes you think what that relationship was based on.

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            #6
            Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

            Nice post brother

            yes I agree, people seem to be confused about love for the sake of Allah and loving your spouse, it is natural to love your spouse and that is for the sake of Allah

            I think it is very nice how he loved her, but very sad she did not :( why
            " O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. And if not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy, not one of you would have been pure, ever, but Allah purifies whom He wills, and Allah is Hearing and Knowing. "
            Surah An-Nur, Verse 21

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              #7
              Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

              ag123 don't ruin that love story!!!
              وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

              And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


              أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

              Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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                #8
                Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

                Funnily enough, the only thing i have ever learnt from this narration and the only explanantion i continuosly read about it in various Islamic books is that its an example of how Women have a choice and free will in deciding who they are married to and that people should try and intercede and help as did Nabi SAW but the final decision is still hers.
                *~* Learn Patience from Aasiyah (RA); Loyalty from Khadhija (RA); Sincerity from Aisha (RA) and Steadfastness from Fatima (RA).*~*

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                  #9
                  Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

                  Originally posted by aG123 View Post

                  With all this in the context of the narration above,makes you think what that relationship was based on.
                  ideally you should love everyone not just those you are compatible with

                  so the fact that Mugheeth loved her is nothing unusual, you choose to love someone and it does not matter whether they are bautiful, or funny or intelligent, or anything like that, you love without conditions, you love them and wish them well, you fall in love with the soul of that person, so what are you saying Mugheeth had no reason to love her when he fell in love with her soul and yes as a result liked her beauty also, she was his wife so how can you say what did he love her for

                  I dont agree with those things you said, love for the sake of Allah means loving someone not because they make you feel good, doing good to them not to show off or to expect anything in return, but just loving them selflessly, when yuo dont love them for your personal gains, you love them for the sake of Allah, so I dont see why people have to go and make "the for the sake of Allah" love, as if that means something veyr robotic
                  " O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. And if not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy, not one of you would have been pure, ever, but Allah purifies whom He wills, and Allah is Hearing and Knowing. "
                  Surah An-Nur, Verse 21

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                    #10
                    Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

                    what does "wala" mean?

                    Narrated Al-Aswad: Aisha intended to buy Barira, but her masters stipulated that her wala wound be for them. Aisha mentioned that to the Prophet who said (to 'Aisha), "Buy and manumit her, for the wala is for the one who manumits." Once some me; was brought to the Prophet and was said, "This meat was given in charity to Barira. " The Prophet said, "It an object of charity for Barira and present for us."
                    " O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. And if not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy, not one of you would have been pure, ever, but Allah purifies whom He wills, and Allah is Hearing and Knowing. "
                    Surah An-Nur, Verse 21

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                      #11
                      Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

                      Originally posted by IDK View Post
                      what does "wala" mean?

                      Narrated Al-Aswad: Aisha intended to buy Barira, but her masters stipulated that her wala wound be for them. Aisha mentioned that to the Prophet who said (to 'Aisha), "Buy and manumit her, for the wala is for the one who manumits." Once some me; was brought to the Prophet and was said, "This meat was given in charity to Barira. " The Prophet said, "It an object of charity for Barira and present for us."
                      After the slave is freed they are called Mawali موالي meaning that who frees this slave, this freed person will give his allegiance to the former master. e.g inheritance if there are no one to inherit a person this freed slave will inherit him.
                      islamway
                      اللهم ارزقنا حُسن الخاتِمة

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                        #12
                        Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

                        Why doesnt someboday post a happy love story?

                        Like the love between Nabi :saw: and Aisha r.a.
                        وَالْعَصْرِ

                        إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ

                        إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ

                        "If Allah (swt) only sent this Surah to us, for the guidance of Mankind, this will be enough for us” - Imam Shaafi'ee r.a.

                        "Yeh dunya daar e faani hain, Tum apna dil mat lagaon, Ganimat samaj zinadagee ki bahar, aana na hoga, yahaa baar baar......"

                        Khanqah Habibiyah

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                          #13
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                          Maybe I should, Jennica.
                          وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

                          And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


                          أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

                          Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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                            #14
                            Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

                            Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
                            Why doesnt someboday post a happy love story?

                            Like the love between Nabi :saw: and Aisha r.a.
                            because it has been posted many times lol
                            " O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. And if not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy, not one of you would have been pure, ever, but Allah purifies whom He wills, and Allah is Hearing and Knowing. "
                            Surah An-Nur, Verse 21

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                              #15
                              Re: Mugeeth & Bareerah - The Sad Love Story

                              Originally posted by Abu Jaffar View Post
                              After the slave is freed they are called Mawali موالي meaning that who frees this slave, this freed person will give his allegiance to the former master. e.g inheritance if there are no one to inherit a person this freed slave will inherit him.
                              ok jazakAllah
                              " O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. And if not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy, not one of you would have been pure, ever, but Allah purifies whom He wills, and Allah is Hearing and Knowing. "
                              Surah An-Nur, Verse 21

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