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    Prophet (saw) said:

    “The most blessed marriage (nikah) is the one with the least expenses.”
    (al-Bayhaqi in his Shu’ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih)

    “The worst food is that of a wedding banquet (walima) to which only the rich are invited whilst the poor are not invited. And he who refuses an invitation (to a banquet) disobeys Allah and His Messenger (Allah bless him & give him peace).”
    (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4882)

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    Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

    :jkk:

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      Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

      Originally posted by ahaneefah View Post
      Prophet (saw) said:



      (al-Bayhaqi in his Shu’ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih)



      (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4882)
      Word :up:

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        Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

        Originally posted by ahaneefah View Post
        Prophet (saw) said:



        (al-Bayhaqi in his Shu’ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih)



        (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4882)
        "Well heard, less practiced"
        islamway
        اللهم ارزقنا حُسن الخاتِمة

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          Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

          Originally posted by ahaneefah View Post
          Prophet (saw) said:



          (al-Bayhaqi in his Shu’ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih)



          (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4882)
          I have always believed that would get married over a packet of digestive biscuits any day.

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            Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

            Originally posted by Abu Jaffar View Post
            "Well heard, less practiced"
            :masha: very astute.

            People throwing their money on wedding dresses and engagement dresses and veils and tiaras and makeup artists and hairstylists and cakes and flowers and photographers and airbrushers and and and.. wow I could be here all day.

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            • #7
              Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

              Originally posted by *Sarah View Post
              :masha: very astute.

              People throwing their money on wedding dresses and engagement dresses and veils and tiaras and makeup artists and hairstylists and cakes and flowers and photographers and airbrushers and and and.. wow I could be here all day.
              I have been to some very very posh Muslim weddings. If that is how people want to celebrate and can afford it then I think we should respect their rights.

              But also I want to be respected and have the same rights when I have a simple wedding to according to the Sunnah. If people start moaning that there is no music, no free mixing, no fireworks, no DJ, no dancing, no £2000 Sharwani, no hiring of an Aston Martin, no grand Hall, and no dodgy film producer who waves his camera whilst your eating then my Muslim Bouncers will simply escort them outta d building.

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                Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                Extravagance in dowry payments and wedding celebrations are all in conflict with the Islamic Law, because the most blessed marriage is the least expensive one; and the more the expenses are decreased, the more the blessing are increased.

                In most cases, this is a matter which falls upon the women, because it is the women who impose excessive dowries on their husbands. Likewise, extravagance in wedding celebrations is one of those things which Islamic Law has prohibited, and it is included in the Words of Allah subhanahu wa ta'aala, Most High in Chapter 7 verse 31 which means; but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allah subhanahu wa ta'aala) likes not al-Musrifun (those who waste by extravagance).

                We must be in accordance with Islamic Law and a person should not exceed its limits nor be extravagance because Allah subhanahu wa ta'aala, Most High has prohibited extravagance.

                As for what is said regarding the honeymoon, it is more evil and more hated because it is imitation of non-Muslims, and a great amount of wealth wasted by it.

                It is also causes loss in many religious matters especially if they spend it in non-Islamic countries because they return with habits and customs which are harmful to them and to their society. These matters are causes of anxiety for the Muslim community. It is not the matter if they traveled to perform umrah or to Madinah.
                - Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen (Rahimullah)
                Fatawa Islamiyah- ;The book of Marriage;Volume 5,pg.300

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                  Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                  :jkk: Good reminder, :insha: the rest of us will take heed.
                  "Meet people in such a manner that if you die, they should weep for you, and if you live, they should long for you." Hadhrat Ali-Ibn-Talib (RadiAllaah Anhu)
                  Shan-e-Aisha

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                    Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                    Originally posted by *Sarah View Post
                    :masha: very astute.

                    People throwing their money on wedding dresses and engagement dresses and veils and tiaras and makeup artists and hairstylists and cakes and flowers and photographers and airbrushers and and and.. wow I could be here all day.
                    its also the mahr ukhti, not just the wedding.

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                    • #11
                      Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                      ppl try to justify by using the words like 'culture'.

                      islam is not against the culture..... yada yada yada
                      Last edited by truepath; 11-12-09, 04:52 PM.
                      لا أريد مِنْكُمْ جَزَاء وَلا شُكُورًا

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                        Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                        spend according to what's within your capacity...

                        if you have been blessed with wealth (or cursed... according to some) then it's better to feed more people rather than go all out on luxuries.
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                          Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                          Amazing:

                          Buraydah bin al-Hasib (ra) reported that when Ali (ra) married Fatimah (ra), Allah's messenger (saws) said,

                          "Indeed a wedding must have a walima."

                          So Sa'd said "I will bring a ram." and another man said "I will bring so much of corn."
                          Recorded by Ahmad, verified as authentic by al-albani.

                          Anas (ra) reported Allah's messenger (saws) camped between Khaybar and Al Madinah for three nights, comsummatiing his marriage with Saffiyyah (ra). I invited the Muslims to his Walimah, and it had no bread or meat. Leather sheets were spread on the ground and dates and dried yogurt and butter were tossed over them, and the people ate their fill."
                          Recorded by Abu Ya'laa. Verified as Hasan by Al-Albani.

                          Anas (ra) said, "while we were on our way (from Khaybar to Al-Madinah), Umm Sulaym prepared Safiyyah for the prophet (saws) and presented her to him during the night. On the following morning, after the Prophet (saws) had consummated his marriage, he said...

                          "whoever has any extra provision, let him bring it to us."

                          Leather sheets were laid down. Some men brought dried yogurt, others dates, and others butter. They hade hays from these items. And the people ate of that hays and drank rain water gathered in the basins next to them. Thus was Allah's messenger's (saws) Walimah."
                          Recorded in Bukhari and Muslim.

                          Anas b. Malik (Allah be pleased with him) reported: Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) gave no better wedding feast than the one he did (on the occasion of his marriage with) Zainab. Thabit al-Bunani (one of the narrators) said: What did he serve in the wedding feast? He (Anas) said: He fed them bread and meat (so lavishly) that they (the guests) abandoned it (of their own accord after having taken them to their hearts' content).
                          Recorded in Muslim

                          Anas (Allah be pleased with him) reported: I did not see Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) giving a wedding feast (on the marriage) of any one (of his wives) as he did in the case of (his marriage with) Zainab, for then he sacrificed a goat (on this occasion).
                          Recorded in Muslim

                          So the biggest Walimah of the prophet Muhammad (saws) was the slaughtering and cooking of a goat accompanied by Bread.

                          So the Sunnah is between these two examples, according to what you can afford.

                          If however we can find other examples from the Sahabah with no rebuke from Rasoolullah (saws) then we could argue such examples are also not extravagance.

                          Narrated Ibrahim bin Sad from his father from his grand-father:

                          Abdur Rahman bin Auf said, "When we came to Medina as emigrants, Allah's Apostle established a bond of brotherhood between me and Sad bin Ar-Rabi'. Sad bin Ar-Rabi' said (to me), 'I am the richest among the Ansar, so I will give you half of my wealth and you may look at my two wives and whichever of the two you may choose I will divorce her, and when she has completed the prescribed period (before marriage) you may marry her.' Abdur-Rahman replied, "I am not in need of all that. Is there any market-place where trade is practiced?' He replied, "The market of Qainuqa." Abdur-Rahman went to that market the following day and brought some dried butter-milk (yogurt) and butter, and then he continued going there regularly. Few days later, 'AbdurRahman came having traces of yellow (scent) on his body. Allah's Apostle asked him whether he had got married. He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet said, 'Whom have you married?' He replied, 'A woman from the Ansar.' Then the Prophet asked, 'How much did you pay her?' He replied, '(I gave her) a gold piece equal in weigh to a date stone (or a date stone of gold)! The Prophet said, 'Give a Walima (wedding banquet) even if with one sheep .' "
                          Recorded in Bukhari

                          Narrated Sahl bin Sad:

                          Abu Usaid As-Sa'di invited Allah's Apostle to his wedding party and his wife who was the bride, served them on that day. Do you know what drink she gave Allah's Apostle? She had soaked some dates for him (in water) overnight, and when he had finished his meal she gave him that drink (of soaked dates).
                          Recorded in Bukhari

                          Yazid b. al-Asamm reported: A newly wedded person of Medina invited us to a wedding feast, and he served us thirteen lizards. There were those who ate it and those who abandoned it. I met Ibn 'Abbas the next day, and informed him (about this) in the presence of many persons. Some of them said that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) had observed: I neither eat it nor forbid (anyone) from eating it, nor declare it to be unlawful. Thereupon Ibn 'Abbas said: Sad it is what you say! Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) has not been sent, but (to declare in clear words) the lawful and the unlawful (things). We were once with Allah's Messenger (may peace be. upon him) as he was with Maimuna, and there were with him al-Fadl b. 'Abbas, Khalid b. Walid and some women (also) when a tray of food containing flesh was presented to him. As Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) was about to eat that, Maimuna said: It is the flesh of the lizard. He withdrew his hand saying: That is the flesh which I never eat; but he said to them (those who were present there): You may eat. Al-Fadl ate out of that, so did Khalid b Walid, and the women. Maimuna (however) said: I do not eat anything but that which Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) eats.
                          Recorded in Muslim

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                            Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                            Here is an opinion on extravagance from Muhammad al Jibaly, from page 115-116, "The Quest for love and mercy"

                            AVOIDING EXTRAVAGANCE AND SHOW-OFF

                            Some people like to impress others by their wealth and status through being extravagant and wasteful in holding banquets, receptions, or other occassions. They invite their guests to expensive hotels and offer them costly food and services, all of which is often beyond their means and extremely straining to their resources for a long time to follow.

                            All of that is prohibited, and constitutes clear defiance to Allah's limits. Allah (swt) says:

                            And spend not wastefully, indeed the wasteful are brothers of the devils, and the devil has ever been ungrateful to his Lord.

                            Surah al Isra 17.26-27

                            And Allah (swt) says:

                            Eat and drink, but do not be excessive; verily, He does not like the extravagant.

                            Surah al A'raf 7.31

                            Al-Mughirah bin Shu'bah (ra) reported that Allah's Messenger (saws) said:

                            "Allah verily hates three qualities for you, gossiping, wasting money, and begging."

                            Bukhari and Muslim

                            Jundub bin Abdillah and ibn Abbas (ra) reported that Allah's messenger (saws) said:

                            "Whoever does things for others to hear, Allah will make the people hear about his sins (on the day of judgement). And whoever does things for others to see, Allah will show his sins to others (on the day of judgement)."

                            Bukhari and Muslim

                            Once two men visited Salman, Salman brought before them bread and salt, which was all that he had at home, and said:

                            "Had Allah's Messenger (saws) not prohibited us from being excessive in what we offer to our guests, we would have burdened ourselves for your sake."

                            Recorded by Ahmad, Al-Hakim, verfied as Sahih by Al-Albani.

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                              Re: The Most Blessed Marriage is the Least Expensive One

                              Originally posted by islam4u View Post
                              and no dodgy film producer who waves his camera whilst your eating
                              :rotfl:

                              and then they turn that picture into a 3D rotating kaleidoscope image
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