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    Take the surname of her husband? Me and some brothers here were discussing it recently and we couldnt find a reason as to why not but we weren't confident enough to claim or assume otherwise. Hopefully some people here are more knowledgeable about this question
    If you read this closely enough you might spot the secret message hidden in it

    Mr President, You Are Wrong

  • #2
    Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

    She doesn't have to, you dont need to change names to show you are married, the only reason people do this is in countries like UK where you have to go to the registration office to prove you are married, that is why Islam is easy for us all, we go to the masjid, we get married thats it, Alhamdulillah.

    InshaAllah someone else will be able to explain this in more detail :)
    A small Du'a can make a big difference :D
    Make Dua for your brothers and sisters, wouldn't you want good things to happen to them as much as good things happening to you?

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    • #3
      Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

      Question:

      I have read your responses to the following questions 2537 and 4362 concerning a wife retaining her father's name upon marriage. The Ayaat mentioned from Surah Al-Ahzaab states that adopted sons (and hence daughters?) should not be called as sons of the step-fathers. However, how exactly does this apply to a wife simply changing her name for marriage; as she is not actually claiming to belong to her husband, but just taking his name. If it is a question of lineage, I would appreciate specific references from the Qur'an and hadith.
      Thank you for your help and clarification.
      Jazak'Allah Khayr.

      Answer:

      Praise be to Allaah.

      The effects of imitating the west in naming ourselves are many. One of them is the way in which people have got used to omitting the word ‘ibn’ (son of) or ‘ibnatu’ (daughter of) between their own names and the name of their fathers. The reason for this is, firstly, because some families have adopted children and given them their surname, so that the adopted child is called Foolaan Foolan [where ‘Foolaan (=So and so)’ stands for a name] and their real children are called Foolaan ibn Foolaan (So and so the son of So and so). Now in the fourteenth century AH, people have dropped the word ‘ibn’ or ‘ibnatu’ – which is unacceptable according to linguistics, custom and sharee’ah. May Allaah help us.

      Another effect is the habit of women taking their husband’s surnames.

      Originally, the woman is So and so the Daughter of So and so, not So and so the wife of So and so! Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

      “Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah…” [al-Ahzaab 33:5].

      As it is in this world, so it will also be in the Hereafter, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

      “On the Day of Resurrection, each betrayer will have a banner raised beside him, and it will be said, this is the betrayer of So and so the son of So and so.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5709, and Muslim, 3265).

      Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd (may Allaah preserve him) said: This is one of the beauties of sharee’ah, because calling a person by his father’s name is more appropriate for knowing who is who and telling people apart. The father is the protector and maintainer of the child and his mother both inside and outside the home. This is why the father mixes with people in the marketplaces and takes risks by travelling to earn a halaal living and strive for their sakes. So the child is given the name of the father, not of the mother who is hidden away and who is one of those whom Allaah commanded (interpretation of the meaning):

      “And stay in your houses…” [al-Ahzaab 33:33]

      (Tasmiyat al-Mawlood, 30, 31).

      On the basis of the above, there is no blood tie between the husband and wife, so how can she take his surname as if she is part of the same lineage? Moreover, she may get divorced, or her husband may die, and she may marry another man. Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries another man? Furthermore, there are rulings attached to her being named after her father, which have to do with inheritance, spending and who is a mahram, etc. Taking her husband’s surname overlooks all that. The husband is named after his own father, and what does she have to do with the lineage of her husband’s father? This goes against common sense and true facts. The husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife so that she should take his surname, whilst he takes his father’s name.

      Hence everyone who has gone against this and taken her husband’s name should put matters right. We ask Allaah to put all the affairs of the Muslims right.


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      Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
      وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ فَلْيَسْتَجِيبُواْ لِي وَلْيُؤْمِنُواْ بِي لَعَلَّهُمْ يَرْشُدُونَ
      "And when My servants ask you (O Muhammad concerning Me, then answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor). So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright."
      Surah al-Baqarah ayah 186
      [2:186]

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      • #4
        Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

        some scholars have said it is haraam for her to take her husbands name and others have discouraged it, in islam we are to be identified by our fathers name, the same reasons why an adopted child should only be called by his/her biological fathers name, and we will be addressed by our fathers names on the day of resurrection.

        It was not a practice of the prophet SAW or the salaf for women to take the name of their husband

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        • #5
          Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

          :start:

          :salams

          Allah says in the Qur’an: “Call them by the names of their fathers: that is more just in the sight of Allah, but if you know not their father’s names, (then call them) your brothers in faith, or your wards.” {Noble Qur'an 33:5}

          The Prophet (:saw: said, "Whosoever will claim the name of anyone other than his father will not even get the smell of Paradise." [Sunan Ibn Majah, Musnad Imam Ahmad and others]
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          • #6
            Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

            Thank you all
            If you read this closely enough you might spot the secret message hidden in it

            Mr President, You Are Wrong

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            • #7
              Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

              Straight to the point..yes she can.
              ربِ إشرح لي صدري ويسر لي أمري

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              • #8
                Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                Originally posted by Reema View Post
                Straight to the point..yes she can.
                That contradicts everything that's been said here
                If you read this closely enough you might spot the secret message hidden in it

                Mr President, You Are Wrong

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                • #9
                  Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                  Originally posted by Kal-El View Post
                  That contradicts everything that's been said here
                  I like to be different. ;)
                  ربِ إشرح لي صدري ويسر لي أمري

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                  • #10
                    Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                    Come on, it's a serious topic
                    If you read this closely enough you might spot the secret message hidden in it

                    Mr President, You Are Wrong

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                    • #11
                      Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                      in islam it aint compulsary to take on the husbands surname, its a choice if she wants to have it or not

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                      • #12
                        Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                        The hadith the brother above shared with us contradicts you both however
                        If you read this closely enough you might spot the secret message hidden in it

                        Mr President, You Are Wrong

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                        • #13
                          Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                          i'd keep my father's name...... thank u!!!!!!!!!!

                          the only reason that women started to take their husbands surname in the west was bcoz they believed that the women became the husbands "property" after marriage!! So she had to take his last name, no choice!women had no rights at all....
                          this is like in the 1800's (not that loong ago).

                          Whereas in islam women were/are liberated thus have their own identity!!! isn't islam so beautiful???????/ Alhamdullilllah!!
                          Verily Allah(s.w.t) is with the Patient ones!

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                          • #14
                            Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                            Originally posted by Reema View Post
                            I like to be different. ;)
                            I don't know whether you're joking or not but, very silly thing to say
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                              Re: Can The Muslim Wife...?

                              http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?pg...list=10&ln=eng
                              http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?re...ng&txt=surname

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