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  • How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

    Since marraige is so central to Islam, how far can a Muslim go to stop a marriage he knows for certain shouldn't happen?

    Does sharia or Sunnah address this issue?

    Should you jump up and down and scream in the masjid, "STOP! DON'T DO IT!"?

    To whom can you disclose the damaging information?

  • #2
    Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

    will you elaborate a bit please >> own marriage or others?
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    • #3
      Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

      text,e mail,phone,talk, to the groom or bride or their families and friends:D

      why the ISSUE ?:zzz:
      :salams

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      • #4
        Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

        But a possible problem that could arise...

        Person A hates or is jealous of Person B who is marrying Person C... so decides to sabotage the wedding by telling Person B, "Person C is this and that and did this and that and don't marry him/her"

        And just like that a marriage is ended...

        How can we be CERTAIN a marriage won't work out? I believe if 2 people are getting married they have worked out everything that needs to be worked out and understand that it is a union for LIFE and I am sure their intention at the time of marriage is to be together for life.

        I don't think we should meddle in other's affairs and break up marriages, as shaytan tries his hardest to break up unions between Muslims anyway.
        The Torah- Old Testament
        The Bible- New Testament
        The Quran- FINAL TESTAMENT!!

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        • #5
          Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

          Originally posted by Cashew View Post
          Since marraige is so central to Islam, how far can a Muslim go to stop a marriage he knows for certain shouldn't happen?

          Does sharia or Sunnah address this issue?

          Should you jump up and down and scream in the masjid, "STOP! DON'T DO IT!"?

          To whom can you disclose the damaging information?
          Any examples of when that might be the case?

          And no you can't use something like "if brother A wants to marry sister B but sister B is actually brother B " :p

          -Rashid
          :hidban:

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          • #6
            Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

            Intervening at the last minute is the most unwise thing you could possibly do.. do something beforehand, talk to whoever you are concerned about, and talk to the elders involved also..

            Leaving it til the masjid would be a DEEEzaster.
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            • #7
              Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

              Too much Eastenders for some people..
              If you read this closely enough you might spot the secret message hidden in it

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              • #8
                Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                Originally posted by THE PATH 2 View Post
                text,e mail,phone,talk, to the groom or bride or their families and friends:D

                why the ISSUE ?:zzz:
                oh..and before the cards are printed:)

                dates arranged,publicized etc
                :salams

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                • #9
                  Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                  Originally posted by Kal-El View Post
                  Too much Eastenders for some people..
                  lool thats exactly what popped into my head when I read his post

                  But err I don't think they have Eastenders across the pond...wherever Cashew lives...

                  -Rashid
                  :hidban:

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                  • #10
                    Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                    Originally posted by Kal-El View Post
                    Too much Eastenders for some people..
                    LOL :rotfl:
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                    • #11
                      Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                      Well, no.

                      I'm talking about a situation in which a person knows for certain that, for example, the groom is not and will not remain faithful to his bride.

                      Or a situation in which you know for certain that a person is marrying only to get a passport, and plans to divorce as soon as the passport is obtained.

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                      • #12
                        Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                        Simple. If you know that *........* is marrying you just to get a passport or that *.....* is not going to remain, faithful, you dont marry them! How would knowingly go into such a marriage to begin with?



                        Originally posted by Kal-El View Post
                        Too much Eastenders for some people..
                        :rotfl: :rotfl:
                        What we fail to recogonize in others, is what we will never see and understand in ourselves..Keep it real.

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                        • #13
                          Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                          Originally posted by Cashew View Post
                          Well, no.

                          I'm talking about a situation in which a person knows for certain that, for example, the groom is not and will not remain faithful to his bride.

                          Or a situation in which you know for certain that a person is marrying only to get a passport, and plans to divorce as soon as the passport is obtained.
                          If the person has told you personally, in confidential or whatever... then I think it's advisable to advise him not to do such a thing... ie. to hurt a person. If he doesn't wish to listen to you, tell him you are going to tell the bride because you do not wish the bride to be hurt. Then it's up to her to go along with it or pull out. You have done your job, but the decision is still in their hands.
                          "There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path." - Morpheus, The Matrix. :hidban:

                          "It would not be reasonable in me if I did not serve Him Who created me, and to Whom ye shall (all) be brought back." Surah 36:22. Ya Sin (Yusuf Ali Translation)

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                          • #14
                            Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                            The reason I ask this is because a number of bad marriages have been discussed in this forum.

                            A number of these bad marriages were bad marriages for obvious practical reasons.

                            These bad marriages could possibly have been prevented had someone come forward and presented the bride or groom with the damaging information.

                            I was wondering whether a Muslim, in posession of unquestionable evidence, had a religious obligation to prevent a bad marriage from happening.

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                            • #15
                              Re: How Far Can a Muslim Go to Stop a Bad Marriage?

                              Cashew - do you mean for example..

                              "The guy your about to get married to having a relationship with so and so aswell at the moment"?

                              Our bring up someones past? - bad idea, especially if the present is different.
                              "If you speak, then consider your words, articulate your speech and make clear what you intend; do not allow them to carry a number of meanings, and do not use words that may be misunderstood, or words that are ambiguous and will need further explanations and clarifications, for your opponent will not remember your explanation, and if his heart is diseased he will release your words and direct them where he pleases."

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