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  • #31
    Originally posted by Simply_Logical View Post
    i kinda agree with Creamcake and Layla_ that surely if youre giving away your daughter why should there be a limit in protecting her?

    i dont mean someone follow someone and spy but say for example a guy says hes got no criminal record then you find it out through PI via DBS check then surely that could save you a lot of trouble right?
    If anyone wants a PI, I’m at your services.

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    • #32
      Originally posted by Simply_Logical View Post

      that is the definition of skeletons in the closet
      Really? Prostitutes and going to pubs? Oh dear.

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      • #33
        Originally posted by Layla_ View Post

        If anyone wants a PI, I’m at your services.
        how much you charge? lol

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        • #34
          Originally posted by UmmAbdullah86 View Post

          Really? Prostitutes and going to pubs? Oh dear.
          well what does skeletons in the closet mean to you then?

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          • #35
            Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
            Lol if I found out the father had hired a private investigator I would walk away.
            If i found out AFTER, i would walk away

            who wants to be married into such a deceptive family?
            .لا نريد زعيما يخاف البيت الإبيض
            نريد زعيما يخاف الواحد الأحد
            دولة الإسلامية باقية





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            • #36
              Originally posted by AbuMubarak
              Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
              Lol if I found out the father had hired a private investigator I would walk away.
              If i found out AFTER, i would walk away

              who wants to be married into such a deceptive family?
              How is it deception if you tell them whilst you're getting it done?

              Like if you've got nothing (don't you personally grandpa, generally speaking) to hide, you got nothing to worry be about, right?

              Well these days you have marriage cv's,
              Which essentially is just a CV which you'd give to potential employers when applying for a job,
              So then if a CV is used for marriage purposes,
              why can't a background check whether it be for criminal record history of bankruptcy be done?

              You know @abumubarak its a bit like how when you get a job but whilst waiting for a start date a dbs background check is getting done and you'll get the job once all is clear

              I'm not saying I'd do this, obviously only Allah swt knows the future, I'm just putting it out there to hear your thoughts and opinions on this...

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              • #37
                i would not do it

                would you tell the brother you are hiring a private investigator?
                .لا نريد زعيما يخاف البيت الإبيض
                نريد زعيما يخاف الواحد الأحد
                دولة الإسلامية باقية





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                • #38
                  creamcake, would you tell the brother?

                  if the brother is coming from another country,, thats an entirely different story

                  first off, i aint doing it unless he is already a citizen and has shown he is not enamored by the West

                  thats just the beginning
                  .لا نريد زعيما يخاف البيت الإبيض
                  نريد زعيما يخاف الواحد الأحد
                  دولة الإسلامية باقية





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                  • #39
                    Originally posted by AbuMubarak View Post

                    If i found out AFTER, i would walk away

                    who wants to be married into such a deceptive family?
                    For Arabs living in Arab countries this is normal. You don't need to hire a PI, your friends will do it for you. I don't mean literally following him around with a magnifying glass, but they will check out where he claims to work/socialise. The family will know that no stone will be unturned. I don't think think this is an issue at all, unless it becomes a violation of his personal privacy such as hacking.

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                    • #40
                      Originally posted by Simply_Logical View Post

                      well what does skeletons in the closet mean to you then?
                      To me it means something that you do in private that you wouldn't want others to know about. Going to bars and prostitutes are public activities, so hardly in the closet.

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by Simply_Logical View Post

                        How is it deception if you tell them whilst you're getting it done?

                        Like if you've got nothing (don't you personally grandpa, generally speaking) to hide, you got nothing to worry be about, right?

                        Well these days you have marriage cv's,
                        Which essentially is just a CV which you'd give to potential employers when applying for a job,
                        So then if a CV is used for marriage purposes,
                        why can't a background check whether it be for criminal record history of bankruptcy be done?

                        You know AbuMubarak its a bit like how when you get a job but whilst waiting for a start date a dbs background check is getting done and you'll get the job once all is clear

                        I'm not saying I'd do this, obviously only Allah swt knows the future, I'm just putting it out there to hear your thoughts and opinions on this...
                        But if you tell him you’re doing it, the brother would be more careful so what would be the point? A private investigator follows people about….

                        personally I wouldn’t get a private investigator involved. If someone seems to be that untrustworthy that a private investigator needs to be involved then it’s a no brainer really - just don’t marry them

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                        • #42
                          Originally posted by Simply_Logical View Post

                          well what does skeletons in the closet mean to you then?
                          To me skeletons in the closet means something that was done in the past that the person wants to keep hidden, not something that someone is still actively engaging in
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                          • #43
                            I dont have any skeletons in my closet

                            only clothes

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                            • #44
                              Originally posted by Faith reloaded 2 View Post
                              I dont have any skeletons in my closet

                              only clothes
                              And a few ps5
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                              • #45
                                You know Simply_Logical I hope you don't ask the "do you lurvvve...." questions?

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