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  • #2
    Why are you even considering him?

    You didnt mention any positives about this guy.

    He seems very sketchy based on what you wrote.

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    • #3
      dont marry him
      too many red flags

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      • #4
        What are you confused about? Just read back what you typed and and think what advice would you give to someone else if they asked you the same.

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        • #5
          Run for the hills on this one.
          "When a man sees the road as long he weakens in his walk." Ibn Qayyim

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Musbah View Post
            Run for the hills on this one.
            With him? Like a honeymoon in the mountains? So romantic!

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            • #7
              Expect you to be the man?

              That rings alarm Bells, its a mans responsibility to financially support the family, not the other way round.

              Ukthi this story has multiple issues.

              Look for a pious husband who doesn't have baggage and who you have no doubts about his character or deen.

              جزاك الله خيرا
              Last edited by Saif-Uddin; 13-03-19, 06:11 PM.
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              "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

              – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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              • #8
                Originally posted by aelmo View Post
                Why are you even considering him?

                You didnt mention any positives about this guy.

                He seems very sketchy based on what you wrote.
                Yeah, way too many red flags.
                http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Musbah View Post
                  Run for the hills on this one.
                  Lol,

                  جزاك الله خيرا
                  http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                  "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                  – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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                  • #10
                    Lol nah. You can do better.

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                    • #11
                      I am religious I keep away from haram things, pray, do fasting etc. I also have a good stable work Alhamdulila
                      So why are you deciding to settle for much less?
                      Women lost their modesty when men lost their gheerah..” .

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                      • #12
                        Although everyone is saying no, there's a reason you must be considering it. Pray istakhara and give it some time to see how it goes. It doesn't seem like a good match, but why else would you be considering it enough to type out such a long message online for advice?

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                          • #14
                            It's probably for the best.

                            And just because someone is a hafiz of the Quran and knows how to lead a prayer it doesn't mean that they are pious. You need to look at their actions to see if they are actually religious or if they are just talk.

                            May Allah give you a good religious husband soon.

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                            • #15
                              Sis, I understand you may feel pressure to marry asap due to age (speaking as a 30 year old singleton myself) but this guy sounds like a liability. Getting married is the easy part, but whats life gonna be like with this guy? Imagine the anger, stress if you have a child with him and he doesn't pull his weight. No offence sis, im sure you're special in your own way but its rare that a man will completely change his ways for a woman. If he was gonna make ALL these changes; he would've made them for himself first and THEN made himself available for marriage. This guy needs to sort himself out before bringing someone down with him.

                              Saying all this, I have nothing against building with a man. So when he says help him out with half of the bills etc. Its not the worst thing in the world if he's actually doing his best (especially in an expensive city like London for e.g) but this dude sounds like he hasn't got himself together at all. But then look at all the struggling immigrant men that brought their wives over and provided for them like real men and never made their wives work. This is the sunnah afterall.

                              Also, as a woman, usually (not all the time) but usually if a woman isn't letting you see your kids, something is off. Way off.

                              I get sucked in with these type of guys sometimes too (because there is an abundance of them) thinking might aswell, getting old etc. But i really believe life is good as a single, independant, stress free woman than being a struggling married mum with a headache of a husband.

                              Sorry for the long winded reply, just really felt you on this post. Sis maybe pray istikhara inshallah, may Allah give you what is best for you ameen x

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