Ya'sin your posts nail this on the head. I can't wrap my mind around this.
Your work schedule is something you would have to disclose before nikah. Brother there is so much more that goes into a marriage than sex.
You cannot spend the entire day out and then come home, maybe do the deed, wham bam thank you ma'am, and then fall asleep for the next day. She may come to resent you no matter how good of a life you give her. I know I would. I would feel used and realize I'm always second to work.
It doesn't matter if you marry a woman from back home as you say. She's human as well and may struggle with the same issues.
And as for kids realizing you have to work hard to have a certain kind of life. Hah I've heard this so often but Yknow what the kids of rich kids often say after turning out disfunctional? They didn't want the money, they wanted the memories. They wanted the time, the connection, the love. If you keep this schedule you may never even see your children until those vacation times! What kind of life is that? Authubillah.
Remember, the poor believers enter jannah first. Prioritize the right things in life akhi.
Your work schedule is something you would have to disclose before nikah. Brother there is so much more that goes into a marriage than sex.
You cannot spend the entire day out and then come home, maybe do the deed, wham bam thank you ma'am, and then fall asleep for the next day. She may come to resent you no matter how good of a life you give her. I know I would. I would feel used and realize I'm always second to work.
It doesn't matter if you marry a woman from back home as you say. She's human as well and may struggle with the same issues.
And as for kids realizing you have to work hard to have a certain kind of life. Hah I've heard this so often but Yknow what the kids of rich kids often say after turning out disfunctional? They didn't want the money, they wanted the memories. They wanted the time, the connection, the love. If you keep this schedule you may never even see your children until those vacation times! What kind of life is that? Authubillah.
Remember, the poor believers enter jannah first. Prioritize the right things in life akhi.
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