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    Assalamo alaikum iam Currently divorced and was wondering if i should get remarried in the west or the east where i currently reside . I have citizenship of a western country but made Hijrah back East quite a while ago mashALLAH. My first marriage wasnt good and ended after i discovered that my ex partner who was supposed to be religious had an ex Hindu e boyfriend and used to play games with men on facebook whilst i was away for work. She was from the East. I dont know how religious women are in the west now a days or what one defines as Religious now days. I have seen a surplus of women and men to for that matter who pray 5 or 4 times a day whilst doing all other haram activities like watching T.V. , movies,music, causally conversing with the opposite sex(with out reason) and so forth and also being lax about their hijab . Is that the norm now because they are some prospects in the picture in the east mashALLAH but they all watch tv Dramas Etc . they may stop after marriage if i tell them to but like i learnt from my previous experience people who stop doing what they enjoy for some one else get very frustrated and want to fight a lot . Also i live primarily in a rural area so aside from going out for picnics occasionally any girl i marry wont have the same entertainment that she has in the west . Unless she is a daiee or a talibatu or ailima and gets busy spreading dawah and ilm inshALLAH.

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    If you're in the East I would focus on finding someone locally. Just way easier.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
      If you're in the East I would focus on finding someone locally. Just way easier.
      Yea thats true finding some one locally may be easier ALLAH o alam. Most of my immediate family lives in the west though so they could find some one for me if they tried hard. but maybe the girls in the west are more inherently liberal even though they are seen as Religious and conservative in their society. That liberalism could stem from living in an 'open' society. One of my cousins who isnt very Religious but prays mashALLAH may ALLAH increase him in good . Says that the type of women I am looking for cant be found here in the East either and i should compromise on some things such as watching t.v,movies and other things that i believe a lot of Muslims see as acceptable sins.I believe The problem with television and movies is that aside from the filth that is in it is that it propagates a hedonistic world view . Which the watcher finds acceptable even if they pray and do hijab or have a beard and this not only reflects in their actions but also in every other aspect of their lives.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by thefirstofthe
        Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
        If you're in the East I would focus on finding someone locally. Just way easier.
        Yea thats true finding some one locally may be easier ALLAH o alam. Most of my immediate family lives in the west though so they could find some one for me if they tried hard. but maybe the girls in the west are more inherently liberal even though they are seen as Religious and conservative in their society. That liberalism could stem from living in an 'open' society. One of my cousins who isnt very Religious but prays mashALLAH may ALLAH increase him in good . Says that the type of women I am looking for cant be found here in the East either and i should compromise on some things such as watching t.v,movies and other things that i believe a lot of Muslims see as acceptable sins.I believe The problem with television and movies is that aside from the filth that is in it is that it propagates a hedonistic world view . Which the watcher finds acceptable even if they pray and do hijab or have a beard and this not only reflects in their actions but also in every other aspect of their lives.
        I think what you're looking for will be difficult in both east and west. I'd say keep your options open to both, then.

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        • #5
          Your views surprise me, considering your past experience. And your posts contain many generalisations.

          East or west, what is most important is learning about the sister, her family, reputation in the community and otherwise, her interests and goals in life. Speaking with her and relaying your expectations and the way you lead your life. It is not so simple as east or west, if you are really seeking great compatibility.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post

            I think what you're looking for will be difficult in both east and west. I'd say keep your options open to both, then.
            yes maybe i should inshALLAH may ALLAH give you success in both lives . I dont mind if the girl does halal things on the internet though or watches halal videos but thats very dangerous also if a person isnt aided by ALLAH or has strong eman. a person i knew who was a Qari and a Hafiz wanted me to put some QURANIC recitations in his phone that were on my computer .whilst in the process of doing so Pornographic material was found on his mobile phone. This person was a Qari with an ijaaza and a Hafiz which goes to show that it could happen to any one. Thats why we must always make dua to ALLAH and keep our gaurd up and keep as far away from sin as possible especially in todays 'modern' society . Ill give you a good tip to avoid fitna on the internet disable images on your brower and if you can find a good video stopper add on on your browser then get it inshALLAH.

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