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    #16
    Re: How does a man raise a child?

    Originally posted by A500DaBest View Post
    My understanding that the child obeys the mother over the father. Does that mean have no responsibility at all in raising the children and his responsibility holds only exclusively in financial and material things of this world only? What if he finds that the mother is unable to raise a son correctly or she is doing wrong in raising them or whatever, or she is extremely controlling or whatever, he does nothing or he have some power in raising them?
    Ideally find out about a woman's thought about how to raise a child before deciding to marry her. If you get married to a woman who is extremely controlling, she will basically destroy your child's life.

    It's not true that a child obeys the mother over the father, both parents have equal responsibilities over the child.

    But if you get married to the wrong woman, your life and your child's life will become hell'like.

    From the sisters perspective, just reverse the order of the male and female wording above. It works or fails both ways.

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      #17
      Re: How does a man raise a child?

      Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post
      Ideally find out about a woman's thought about how to raise a child before deciding to marry her. If you get married to a woman who is extremely controlling, she will basically destroy your child's life.

      It's not true that a child obeys the mother over the father, both parents have equal responsibilities over the child.

      But if you get married to the wrong woman, your life and your child's life will become hell'like.

      From the sisters perspective, just reverse the order of the male and female wording above. It works or fails both ways.
      What are the different ways a women would take care of a child and what kind of questions would you ask

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        #18
        Re: How does a man raise a child?

        Originally posted by Thunderstorm View Post
        Dad is the fun parent, mom is the police. You don't go play football, build pillow forts or watch scary movies with your mom, you watch some cheesy TV drama, solve crossword puzzles with her or talk about dem diddly feelerinos, stuff like that. And you get different advice from dad than from mom.
        Also, dad stands for the competitive- and overall survival competence(mom doesn't teach you how to fix the sink, catch an animal, even change the lightbulb), mom stands for empathy and mannerisms.
        You been watching tv too much

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          #19
          Re: How does a man raise a child?

          Today my mom told me that my oldest brother told his wife in full conclusion that fathers are not necessary and the most important one and to a child's life is the mother. That if he disappears and goes away from the lives of his children they will be fine, since our dad died when we where babies and he said that he is fine. I don't think he is fine though. Because he doesn't pray. He have sex outside of marriage, he had sex with his wife before marriage, then married her when she got pregnant with his 1st child. He deals with so many things in religion that is wrong. So I don't think what he says is true. But this mentality is the very reason why you see so many men leave home, divorce, find someone else and the ex-wife is left alone to raise children on her own. Because society have taught us...that well...fathers are not necessary. We don't need fathers. However, if that was the case to be true, then arises this question. Why in America with the highest divorce rate ever, with women having children on their own, even lesbian having children on their own...I am not saying all mind you....but majority of the children grow from single mother home as drug dealers, murders, car thieves, school drop outs, pregnant teenage girls, high suicide rate, anti-social behavior, the list goes on. Some people say, well...we don't need fathers....just a male role model will do. Yes, but when you get stranger men to replace the real father you increase the risk chance of child molestation, child abuse, rape, murder, etc. Even grandfather can rape or molest a child or abuse a child higher than said real father.

          So, the question arises why did my brother say this today? Because we have it imprinted in our inner bone that we don't need fathers and we just need mothers. If we don't change this thinking and imprint the new changes to future generation, the violence and single mothers and etc will never change. Women will always complain men are not helping enough and children will grow up thinking it is only the women's role to raise children and what we see today will remain this way until end of time.

          I am saying, we need to stop give this idea that fathers are not necessary and children will be fine without them.
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            #20
            Re: How does a man raise a child?

            Brother you do realize there is an entire day dedicated to celebrating/appreciating fathers and letting them know how important they are to the kids life....... Its called FATHERS DAY ( I know silly example but your thought process and doubts are the main reason this type of holiday is created). Because it is so easy for people to forget to thank, especially or parents. Mothers get little bit more thanks mainly because religion points it out & there has been lot of movement/awareness toward it. But most mothers will say how thankless their life has been.

            I think the reason you and your brother feel this way is because of you not growing up with father figure. DADDY issue is big underlying psychological issue that takes years to work out & most normal people don't even notice it. I don't think most people feel this way. I think this feeling is special to your circumstance that needs to be talked about. Maybe you and your brother need to talk about how your life would have been different with father & how much you needed him. I can imagine kids who lost their mother in young age and turned out "fine" might feel the same way that biological mothers in older kids life is not required for good life or maybe those who had terrible mother will surely say.

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              #21
              Re: How does a man raise a child?

              The mother herself comes under the authority of the father so how does it make sense to say that the child has to listen to the mother over the father. Good parents don't put their children in that situation to start with, rather if there is an issue in parenting styles they talk about it and they agree on how they will raise their children.
              Fathers are needed just as much as mothers are, the children should be a priority to both. The father is basically what hold the family together.
              شَكَوْتُ إلَى وَكِيعٍ سُوءَ حِفْظِي
              فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
              وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ
              ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي

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                #22
                Re: How does a man raise a child?

                Remember to not reveal a persons sins

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