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    To all the parents, please teach your daughters physical activities before they hit puberty. Spend extra time to teach them swimming and biking & sports even if they don't want to. Unlike boys they don't have long childhood & can not pick up these skills as grown women.

    I am saying this because I wish my parents went out of their way to force me to learn basic skills like swimming and biking. I was chubby kid who didn't like physical activity & they were desi parents that believed kids just learn. By the time I was interested in being like other kids, I already hit puberty & many things were off-limit to me. I couldn't take swimming class in middle or high school because its mix-gender. I didn't mind back then but when I can't go jet skiing & scared of taking more then 2 steps in water and can't bike around to see beautiful park....I wish my parents were tiger parents who forced me to learn things.

    So go ahead and be tiger parents who force her to learn as much as possible before she needs to cover up

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    You can still learn to swim. Get just get a really big bucket, fill it with lukewarm water, jump in, and start swimming.
    They say good things come to those who wait, so imma be at least an hour late

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      #3
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      I do believe you would be able to find a swimming teacher now, andd u can definitely learn how to ride a bike
      يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

      O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

      Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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        #4
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        Good idea sis :)
        Especially swimming, riding a bike etc... fab exercise, comes in handy, lifeskills etc, and muchhhh easier to pick up as a kid and learn pre puberty
        Like there are NO womens only swimming classes in my city for me to learn... I did learn in primary school but it's been like 13 years lol I must have forgotten
        Tbh home domestics too... sewing, cooking, chores etc.. I was given stuff way too easy and didn't learn this stuff properly
        And with Him are the keys of the Ghayb (all that is hidden), none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record”
        [al-An’aam 6:59]

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          #5
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          Originally posted by Creamcake View Post
          Good idea sis :)
          Especially swimming, riding a bike etc... fab exercise, comes in handy, lifeskills etc, and muchhhh easier to pick up as a kid and learn pre puberty
          Like there are NO womens only swimming classes in my city for me to learn... I did learn in primary school but it's been like 13 years lol I must have forgotten
          Tbh home domestics too... sewing, cooking, chores etc.. I was given stuff way too easy and didn't learn this stuff properly
          Yea finding women only swimming pool is so difficult. They finally started a session in my city after several request but its 3pm on Monday, I am at work but majority of women looking for women only swimming session are stay home. Yes riding bike can be learned later in life but there is so much restriction for muslima especially if you live in highly Muslim populated city in west. Too many people will stop and watch. I am always looking for empty area to run (with baggy sports wear) then I worry about the danger of being in empty route. Life just gets tricky as we grow up.

          I feel like there was lot of emphasis on domestic skill for me as pre-teen, teenager. I agree those are important and many other life skill but they don't have deadline. A teenager can learn those or if a girl wakes up one day and says I want to learn xyz, she can. But if she says I want to learn to play tennis, it won't be so easy. She will have to find woman only group that doesn't play among man, find outfits that are conservative, which are not readily available in store. I think physical skills are more important than domestic skills for young girls. Youtube can teach many of the domestic skills, maybe except sewing that was tough & I am glad I learned when I was young

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            #6
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            Originally posted by Kya View Post
            Yea finding women only swimming pool is so difficult. They finally started a session in my city after several request but its 3pm on Monday, I am at work but majority of women looking for women only swimming session are stay home. Yes riding bike can be learned later in life but there is so much restriction for muslima especially if you live in highly Muslim populated city in west. Too many people will stop and watch. I am always looking for empty area to run (with baggy sports wear) then I worry about the danger of being in empty route. Life just gets tricky as we grow up.

            I feel like there was lot of emphasis on domestic skill for me as pre-teen, teenager. I agree those are important and many other life skill but they don't have deadline. A teenager can learn those or if a girl wakes up one day and says I want to learn xyz, she can. But if she says I want to learn to play tennis, it won't be so easy. She will have to find woman only group that doesn't play among man, find outfits that are conservative, which are not readily available in store. I think physical skills are more important than domestic skills for young girls. Youtube can teach many of the domestic skills, maybe except sewing that was tough & I am glad I learned when I was young
            yeah I understand what you mean sis, it becomes tough as we grow older.
            And with Him are the keys of the Ghayb (all that is hidden), none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record”
            [al-An’aam 6:59]

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              I think one of the reasons parents are reluctant to teach girls these things is because they worry that if the girl loves those things and takes a very passionate interest in those activities, then it'll be that much harder to say when they turn 12ish that they can't do those things anymore. I'm not saying they shouldn't be taught those things as they help children to learn to be active from a young age, it's healthy and knowing how to swim could even save lives, but it has to be done in a careful way to ensure it doesn't become too difficult to steer girls away from such things as they get older.

              I also think (and some may find this controversial) that younger girls (under 10s) should get some vitamin D through sun exposure before the age where they have to cover up. I mean little things like wearing short sleeves when they go out in Spring, wearing 3/4 length skirts or dresses. I read somewhere that such a young age is the optimum time for absorption of vitamin D anyway. Of course this has to be done carefully as well because too much exposure can cause sunburn or other skin damage, but a healthy manageable amount of exposure is good and helps prevent diseases as well. I personally am quite distrustful of sunblock. My Dr says they can block beneficial UV, not just harmful UV, but at the same time I'm not oblivious to the dangers of excessive sun exposure either so it's a balancing act but I am convinced that exposure at a young age (that the child can tolerate and doesn't cause heat rash or sunburn) is healthy.

              The length of time depends on the child as some kids can play outside for hours with no problems and some get sunburn within ten minutes. Avoid high noon strong summer sun as that's often more damaging, but morning sun in summer or afternoon sun in spring tends to be more manageable. You'll know your own child and how much time is appropriate for her (boys don't have to worry as much as they can easily get sun exposure when they're older anyway)./
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                #8
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                I agree, alhamdulillah my parents put me into all sorts of activities as a child. At least now I can say i've done those things once but can't do them now because of restrictions.
                But the kids generation today just don't want to do these things, they would rather watch tv or play on phones, boys and girls.
                شَكَوْتُ إلَى وَكِيعٍ سُوءَ حِفْظِي
                فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
                وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ
                ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي

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                  #9
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                  Thing is swimming is just one thing, there are plenty of exercises and solutions you can get and workout with at home. And I mean really tough workouts, but that is if space at home is available.
                  والمبادرة إلى التكفير إنما تغلب على طباع من يغلب عليهم الجهل - ابن تيمية رحمه الله - بغية المرتاد

                  "Rushing towards takfir is an attitude which is dominant over those who are defeated by ignorance." - Ibn Taymiyyah Rahimahullah [Bughyatul Murtaad, page 354]

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                    #10
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                    Originally posted by ibzy View Post
                    You can still learn to swim. Get just get a really big bucket, fill it with lukewarm water, jump in, and start swimming.
                    lol
                    ".......He giveth and spendeth (of His bounty) as He pleaseth. But the revelation that cometh to thee from Allah increaseth in most of them (kuffar) their obstinate rebellion and blasphemy.Amongst them we have placed enmity and hatred till the Day of Judgment. Every time they kindle the fire of war, Allah doth extinguish it;but they (ever) strive to do mischief on earth. And Allah loveth not those who do mischief."(5:64)

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                      #11
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                      I send my little daughter to martial arts classes.

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                        Originally posted by Kya View Post
                        To all the parents, please teach your daughters physical activities before they hit puberty. Spend extra time to teach them swimming and biking & sports even if they don't want to. Unlike boys they don't have long childhood & can not pick up these skills as grown women.

                        I am saying this because I wish my parents went out of their way to force me to learn basic skills like swimming and biking. I was chubby kid who didn't like physical activity & they were desi parents that believed kids just learn. By the time I was interested in being like other kids, I already hit puberty & many things were off-limit to me. I couldn't take swimming class in middle or high school because its mix-gender. I didn't mind back then but when I can't go jet skiing & scared of taking more then 2 steps in water and can't bike around to see beautiful park....I wish my parents were tiger parents who forced me to learn things.

                        So go ahead and be tiger parents who force her to learn as much as possible before she needs to cover up
                        i see where you are coming from and i agree to an extent however if it is to lose weight then there isn't any point in doing all the things at a young age as she will only grow love for these things and then eventually might actually argue with parents on why she cant do these things since likes them soo much. i am not a parent not am i married yet but if i do marry and have kids id raise them how i guess my mother raised my sister, all at home and was taught quran at age 5 etc taught her how to be a good house woman and would always keep her busy in chores etc
                        biking etc is all good stuff but you can do that anyway if you have a big enough house or if there are women only parks in your area.
                        other forms of entertainment i suggest would be reading books
                        going to women boxing or other forms of martial arts classes (escorted with a mahrem)

                        there's just soo many other things that can be done even at a later age if not then just pick up something else as long as it doesn't jeopardize your hijab and identity.

                        fyi home workouts are another alternative

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                          #13
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                          Originally posted by علي View Post
                          Thing is swimming is just one thing, there are plenty of exercises and solutions you can get and workout with at home. And I mean really tough workouts, but that is if space at home is available.
                          It is not really about working out or losing weight. As others have pointed out, there are options. Its about learning basic skills that's expected & enjoying life with those skills. Such as cruise around the park on a bike to cover more distance vs. walking. Running I feel is not always appropriate for women. But also having the mindset of being physically active.

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                            #14
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                            Originally posted by neelu View Post
                            I think one of the reasons parents are reluctant to teach girls these things is because they worry that if the girl loves those things and takes a very passionate interest in those activities, then it'll be that much harder to say when they turn 12ish that they can't do those things anymore. I'm not saying they shouldn't be taught those things as they help children to learn to be active from a young age, it's healthy and knowing how to swim could even save lives, but it has to be done in a careful way to ensure it doesn't become too difficult to steer girls away from such things as they get older.

                            /
                            That is a good point, I didn't think about it. But it reminded me of something my mom always said when we were young or when I tried getting my younger siblings more active. she would say "don't make kids too smart (independent/street smart/active), they get out of control later". She used this philosophy for sons and daughters & that is probably why we weren't involved in much growing up. School & Masjid were the only things we had to do. Rest was upto us whether we wanted to play with other kids or sit home and watch tv all day.

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                              #15
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                              Yeah I can't ride a bike. My fault though. Cos I didn't get to grips of it though my family always have and still offer to teach me it. I can swim and have a Muslim swimsuit, but I'm not very comfortable in mixed pools.

                              There is only an hour per week offered for women's martial arts at my local sports centre, too.

                              I think there are hijab friendly motorbikes out there. In Morocco women with hijab drove vespa bikes, but the design of their bikes covered their modesty.

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                              Last edited by LailaTheMuslim; 21-04-17, 02:08 PM.
                              وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

                              And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


                              أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

                              Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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