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    Mixed Gatherings: A detailed response regarding gender interaction
    Answered by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari






    "And We reveal of the Qur'an that which is a healing and a mercy for believers though it increase the evil-doers in naught save ruin."

    (Qur'an, 17:82)

    "We sent you (O Prophet!) not except as a mercy for all people."

    (Qur'an,21:107)

    The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) is a manifestation of the Mercy of Allah Most High. he was sent as a mercy to all humanity, as the Qur'an states. The Shariah is the guidance Allah Most High sent the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) with, to bring humanity out from darkness of confusion and bewilderment to the light of charity. Its rulings are all for the benefit of humanity, for, as Allah reminds us,

    "O mankind! You are the poor in your relation to Allah. And Allah! he is Absolutely Free of Need, the Owner of Praise." (Qur'an, 35:15)

    The regulations related to male-female interaction are essential to the very soundness of human civilization. If ignored, they threaten its very survival.

    Islam is not just a true religion but also a social order that enables individuals to attain the cherished goal of material happiness and welfare in the world and to prepare them for the next world through righteousness and virtuous deeds.

    Islam removes the possible causes which may breed corruption. It strikes hard at the root of evil and suggests measures which may bring about peaceful, happy and harmonious relations among the Muslims.

    It discourage s free and unbridled contact between men and women in order to check the consequences of undesirable impulses. It puts restraint to such impelling forces which might play a disastrous role in degenerating the mind of young men and women.

    The sexual instinct is the greatest weakness of the human race. That is why Shaytan selected this weak spot for his attack on the believer.

    In the present-day society, we see that the family system has been totally shattered. [ at http://www.masud.co.uk]al-Jami` li Ahkam al-Qur'anal-JamiEdited by Faraz Rabbani.

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    Last edited by Salman Al-Farsi; 17-08-05, 01:43 AM.
    "The objective behind Shari'ah is to liberate individuals from his desires in order to be a true Abd (slave) of Allah and that is the legitimate Maslaha... Violating the Shari'ah under the pretext of following Maqasid al-Shari'ah is like the one who cares about the spirit without the body and since the body without the spirit is useless therefore the spirit without the body is useless too." ~ Imam Shatibi - The greatest intellectual founder of Maqasid al-Shari'ah

  • #2
    Segregation between men and women
    Answered by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari


    I have heard that at wedding functions it is obligatory to separate men and women so that they do not mix freely, and so this does not lead to fitna. If this is correct does it mean that they have to be in separate rooms - or should their be some barrier between them if at all possible.


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    "The objective behind Shari'ah is to liberate individuals from his desires in order to be a true Abd (slave) of Allah and that is the legitimate Maslaha... Violating the Shari'ah under the pretext of following Maqasid al-Shari'ah is like the one who cares about the spirit without the body and since the body without the spirit is useless therefore the spirit without the body is useless too." ~ Imam Shatibi - The greatest intellectual founder of Maqasid al-Shari'ah

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    • #3
      Its really sad nowdasy that Muslims do not care about segregation especially at wedding ceremony's and have adopted concepts like mixed tables, match making, eyeing up, churbsing, and unnecessary interaction between sexes. :(
      Last edited by Salman Al-Farsi; 17-08-05, 01:53 AM.
      "The objective behind Shari'ah is to liberate individuals from his desires in order to be a true Abd (slave) of Allah and that is the legitimate Maslaha... Violating the Shari'ah under the pretext of following Maqasid al-Shari'ah is like the one who cares about the spirit without the body and since the body without the spirit is useless therefore the spirit without the body is useless too." ~ Imam Shatibi - The greatest intellectual founder of Maqasid al-Shari'ah

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      • #4
        i know, its really haraam what theyre doing nowadays, a while ago in a isna conference IMO had this little program where they would let the young people call out to a member of the oposite sex to talk to, they would go in a corner and talk to each other if they were interested... really, really sad. and the sad thing is that some of the ppl actually came to this and since it was under imam supervision.. they now believe its halal. just clearin this thing up IT IS HARAM TO TALK ALONE WITHOUT A WALI TO A NON MIHRAM. And that is not even the main haram that was going on u walk in the conference no separatio whatesoever having brothers walk past u, bump into u its all so digusting how the muslims are comprimising theyre islam for medernization.
        "Islam began as something strange and will return as it was, so give glad tidings to the strangers."
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        • #5
          Originally posted by Mujaheedah
          i know, its really haraam what theyre doing nowadays, a while ago in a isna conference IMO had this little program where they would let the young people call out to a member of the oposite sex to talk to, they would go in a corner and talk to each other if they were interested... really, really sad. and the sad thing is that some of the ppl actually came to this and since it was under imam supervision.. they now believe its halal. just clearin this thing up IT IS HARAM TO TALK ALONE WITHOUT A WALI TO A NON MIHRAM. And that is not even the main haram that was going on u walk in the conference no separatio whatesoever having brothers walk past u, bump into u its all so digusting how the muslims are comprimising theyre islam for medernization.
          Its absolutely forbidden for a man and women to be alone because prophet (saw) said the third will be shaytaan.

          However alot of Muslims think its ok in mixed gatherings like islamic conferences, weddings, etc to exchange numbers, fix others/match making, unnecessary chats etc.

          Weddings nowdays are astaghfirullah just pure fitnah, i stopped going to weddings long time ago unless they are segregatd. :)

          And this ISNA is really bad :(
          "The objective behind Shari'ah is to liberate individuals from his desires in order to be a true Abd (slave) of Allah and that is the legitimate Maslaha... Violating the Shari'ah under the pretext of following Maqasid al-Shari'ah is like the one who cares about the spirit without the body and since the body without the spirit is useless therefore the spirit without the body is useless too." ~ Imam Shatibi - The greatest intellectual founder of Maqasid al-Shari'ah

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Salman Al-Farsi
            Its absolutely forbidden for a man and women to be alone because prophet (saw) said the third will be shaytaan.

            However alot of Muslims think its ok in mixed gatherings like islamic conferences, weddings, etc to exchange numbers, fix others/match making, unnecessary chats etc.

            Weddings nowdays are astaghfirullah just pure fitnah, i stopped going to weddings long time ago unless they are segregatd. :)

            And this ISNA is really bad :(
            :) alhamdulillah its good to hear you've stopped going, something i need to do.

            Wedding can really annoy you, especially ones where they have to dance, arrghhhhhhhhhh. you just think what the heck!! whats's wrong with them

            May Allah give us the strength to speak to our families and guide them to what's right, so we can make a statement to the inviters. and from that inshaAllah more people will refuse to come to such weddings and they will resort to segregated weddings.
            In the past i know of families who refuse to go to weddings which aren't segregated and thats excellent, as it makes a statement to them.

            InshaAllah we can be examples of sunnah weddings
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            • #7
              Originally posted by Voyager
              :) alhamdulillah its good to hear you've stopped going, something i need to do.

              Wedding can really annoy you, especially ones where they have to dance, arrghhhhhhhhhh. you just think what the heck!! whats's wrong with them

              May Allah give us the strength to speak to our families and guide them to what's right, so we can make a statement to the inviters. and from that inshaAllah more people will refuse to come to such weddings and they will resort to segregated weddings.
              In the past i know of families who refuse to go to weddings which aren't segregated and thats excellent, as it makes a statement to them.

              InshaAllah we can be examples of sunnah weddings
              Inshalah I agree.

              we need to make a statement about these gatherings, because if we dont they will get worse and worse. :(
              "The objective behind Shari'ah is to liberate individuals from his desires in order to be a true Abd (slave) of Allah and that is the legitimate Maslaha... Violating the Shari'ah under the pretext of following Maqasid al-Shari'ah is like the one who cares about the spirit without the body and since the body without the spirit is useless therefore the spirit without the body is useless too." ~ Imam Shatibi - The greatest intellectual founder of Maqasid al-Shari'ah

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              • #8
                I havent been to a wedding in a decade Can't stand them. I hate people getting dressed up for one day (and most of the time, the women are hardly dressed) and i disagree with holding mass gatherings.. If we are muslims, we should emulate the Prophet's daughter Fatima's marriage to Ali which was very simple.
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                • #9
                  Originally posted by witty
                  I havent been to a wedding in a decade Can't stand them. I hate people getting dressed up for one day (and most of the time, the women are hardly dressed) and i disagree with holding mass gatherings.. If we are muslims, we should emulate the Prophet's daughter Fatima's marriage to Ali which was very simple.
                  However, Walima is a Sunnah and one should celeberate is by organising a feast inviting as many people as he can afford. This should be done in moderation, nowdays its just getting extravagant by the day :(

                  I ve missed loads of weddings before for this reason, but last weekend was my cousins wedding and I did not go, so the heat was on me and alhamdulilah things are cooling down :)
                  "The objective behind Shari'ah is to liberate individuals from his desires in order to be a true Abd (slave) of Allah and that is the legitimate Maslaha... Violating the Shari'ah under the pretext of following Maqasid al-Shari'ah is like the one who cares about the spirit without the body and since the body without the spirit is useless therefore the spirit without the body is useless too." ~ Imam Shatibi - The greatest intellectual founder of Maqasid al-Shari'ah

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                  • #10
                    Well.. hmm.. I suppose you could hold a walima or give half the money or all of it to charity and hold a small gathering of close family and friends.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by witty
                      Well.. hmm.. I suppose you could hold a walima or give half the money or all of it to charity and hold a small gathering of close family and friends.
                      No, the sunnah is to celeberate it after consumating the marriage and make it public by inviting loads of people. :)

                      I think what we need to change is what goes on in these gatherings, rather than socialising, its perfect oppertunity to reach a large number of Muslims to have islamic discussions and create awareness of whats happening around.
                      "The objective behind Shari'ah is to liberate individuals from his desires in order to be a true Abd (slave) of Allah and that is the legitimate Maslaha... Violating the Shari'ah under the pretext of following Maqasid al-Shari'ah is like the one who cares about the spirit without the body and since the body without the spirit is useless therefore the spirit without the body is useless too." ~ Imam Shatibi - The greatest intellectual founder of Maqasid al-Shari'ah

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                      • #12
                        :start:

                        :salams

                        SubhanAllah i cannot stand weddings nowadays.

                        People have no Hayaa, you walk in and you feel like a lab experiment, people look at what you're wearing, who your with, if your married or not, if there are tell tale signs of being some sort of loose person and off they go to move onto the next victim.

                        People dance around and sometimes there is no segregation

                        It's sickening.

                        :salams
                        Allah and His angels call down blessings on the Prophet . O you who believe! call down blessings on him and ask for complete peace and safety for him :inlove: (33:56)

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by *IslamicGirl*
                          :start:

                          :salams

                          SubhanAllah i cannot stand weddings nowadays.

                          People have no Hayaa, you walk in and you feel like a lab experiment, people look at what you're wearing, who your with, if your married or not, if there are tell tale signs of being some sort of loose person and off they go to move onto the next victim.

                          People dance around and sometimes there is no segregation

                          It's sickening.

                          :salams
                          last wedding i went to all was fine until they brought the belly dancers out
                          "Islam began as something strange and will return as it was, so give glad tidings to the strangers."
                          "Don't ever argue with an idiot....
                          they'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience."

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                          • #14
                            :start:

                            :salams

                            LOL! @ belly dancers :p


                            :S eek

                            I remember going to my first segregated Arab wedding, it was cool, yes there was dancing and so on, but there was not a guy in sight and it the atmosphere was relaxing cuz there was no guy coming up with the excuse 'to pass a message to mum'

                            :salams
                            Allah and His angels call down blessings on the Prophet . O you who believe! call down blessings on him and ask for complete peace and safety for him :inlove: (33:56)

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                            • #15
                              I dont like people or socialising, period :(

                              If they're nice, then okay. But if their the extravagent type showing off nonstop and careerdriven money making kind of people with a bad attitude and opinionated, i'd rather not talk to them.
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