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    The following are notes and points taken from an article called

    20 Ways to Show Offby Sheikh Salman b. Fahd al-Oadah
    To read the whole article go to:


    A person can receive great rewards from Allah on account of his good intentions alone, even if he is prevented from carrying out the intended deed. On the other hand, the deeds that he performs can become bereft of blessings if they are not accompanied by a good intention. Such deeds can actually be sinful.

    Some people might get the idea that this man was punished because he enjoined what is right and forbade what is wrong while he had many shortcomings in his own deeds. This is a big mistake, because the task of enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong is inherently worthy of reward as long as the person engaged in it is sincere and has the right intention. This man was being punished because he did the very evil deeds he forbade others from doing and spurned the very duties he called others towards. He was merely beautifying his outward conduct while his inner being remained corrupt. His punishment was for his sins, not because he enjoined what is right and forbade what is wrong.

    : 44], it means that Allah rebukes them and punishes them because they turned away from the truth though they knew it full well. This makes them different from those who are ignorant of the truth, who if they come to know it would most likely follow it.

    Therefore, we should know that enjoining what is right is something we owe to the people, even if we fail to do what is right ourselves. The same goes for forbidding what is wrong.

    1. To do what is right.

    2. To enjoin others to what is right.

    3. To abstain from what is wrong.

    4. To forbid others from doing wrong.

    Failure to perform one of these four duties does not give us the right to neglect any of the others. Therefore, someone who commits a sin still has the duty to call others to avoid it.

    Showing off in words and deeds is a sickness that can get a person thrown into the Hellfire. Such a person, on the outside, appears to be righteous. His concern for what others think of him earns him the reward of their high esteem but not the pleasure of Allah. The praise of the people is sufficient for him.

    : 2]

    Twenty Ways to Show Off

    There are twenty ways that this ignoble quality can creep up on a person.

    I cannot cope with fasting every day, so I must suffice with fasting on Mondays and

    2. Speaking about matters in a way that alludes to the idea that one is engaged in them:





    How to handle this problem

    The reason he mentioned that he had been stung by a scorpion was to dispel the obvious conclusion that his companions would come to: that he had been praying throughout the night. The early Muslims were very careful to avoid praising themselves and did not like mentioning their own virtues.

    3. Bringing attention to the faults of others:

    This is a very dangerous way of showing off because it usually combines with the sin of backbiting others. Sometimes while one might not mean to show off, he ends up praising himself by showing the faults of others.






    3 Another person makes his slander of others appear in the form of jest, as if his only intention is to make people laugh. However, what he does in order to make his companions laugh is to ridicule another person, belittle him, and mock him.



    6 Then there is the person who makes a show of anger and righteous indignation in order to backbite another. He may use the most eloquent words possible with the seeming intent of condemning an act of wrongdoing, but his true intentions are vile indeed.

    4. Making a show of religious zeal:

    5. Making worship noticeable in a subtle way:

    : 13-14]

    When a person becomes known for righteousness and piety, he tends to love building his reputation further in the same manner. He begins to fear losing the esteem of others that he presently enjoys. He guards himself from any apparent laxity in his conduct. He makes sure to keep pace with others or to outdo them in good works, at least publicly. He does not do this out of any religious devotion, but in order to earn respect.

    He may speak to the people, preach to them, and exhort them to do what is right, not because he feels that they need it but because he feels that they expect it from him. The meaning of what he says is not his concern. It is only his reputation and status that matter.

    8. Putting oneself on a pedestal:


    9. Seeking knowledge to acquire fame:

    A person may be incited by Satan to seek religious knowledge and to study it extensively with the sole purpose of becoming a who people will come to with their questions, or a scholar whose name will go down in history, or maybe an Islamic activist who people will rally around.

    10. Refuting the people of knowledge:

    On the other hand,

    11. Overemphasizing certain conspicuous works, even to the point of going against the Sunnah:

    12. Conspicuous humility:

    This is about showing humility with words and complains.

    A person might make a show of deprecating himself, stating all the time how deficient he is. He says how he does no good works and how his deeds are not enough. What he means by all this is to make a display of his humility.

    Whether or not he actually believes himself deficient, he goes on in this way until Satan makes him believe that he is free from showing off, when actually Satan has been accompanying him in his absurd display all along. What is needed for a person to be balanced, neither deprecating himself for public viewing, nor praising himself.

    13. Feigning humility:

    This is about showing humility with physical moves and actions.

    To make a pretentious show of modesty and humbleness, (a person) will clasp his hands together, raise his shoulders, and lower his head in an insincere and inordinate display of submissiveness. Often the behaviors exhibited in these displays go against the Sunnah

    (Refer to the article - point # 13 - for the full story)

    As another example, satan might sometimes come to a reciter of the and encourage him to cry during his recitation with the notion of making the listeners feel humbled before his recitation and to inspire them to weep as well.

    How should you act?

    (peace be upon him) were neither deviant nor were they like dead people. They used to recite poetry in their gatherings and talk about the times of ignorance.

    Kahmas b. al-Husayn relates that a man in the company of `Umar breathed sighing breaths as if he was trying to show grief, so `Umar struck him.

    This is about showing humility by the appearance.

    Satan might inspire an individual to go about with disheveled hair and humble attire and make an ostentatious display of asceticism and humility. The Sunnah, on the other hand, encourages a person to care about his appearance. The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to take good care of his hair. He would comb it and apply scent to it.

    15. Being deceived by some fleeting act of devotion:


    For example, satan convinces them that this made up for everything wrong that they have so far committed. In this way, he encourages them to keep up their sinful ways.

    16. Becoming a show-off after having been sincere:

    Some people fall victim to the opposite affliction. They become so scared of showing off that they avoid performing good deeds because of it. They have jumped from the frying pan into the fire, so to speak. True sincerity is to be concerned with Allah and to disregard the people altogether, neither performing deeds because of them nor abstaining from deeds on their account. This brings us to the fourth way of showing off:

    17. Abandoning deeds because of the people:

    Some people once they start a good deed, they become afraid of showing off. As a result, they stop doing that good deed.

    is showing off.

    In other words,

    As a solution the person should strive to overcome his sins and rectify himself

    : 114]

    19. Withdrawing from the company of others and going into seclusion:

    It is wrong to renounce the company of people out of a sense of superiority to them. This is nothing but pride and arrogance. It is a way of praising oneself. In a

    20. Making false claims:

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  • #2
    JZK that was benecial

    too many people come to this forum to show off, makes u think why nobody has replied to this thread.

    again, it's appreciated

    May Allah make us of those who learn
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    • #3
      :masha:, that was an excellent article and one that is very relevant.

      So many times, when we think of sinning, we just recall such sins as fornication, adultery, drinking alcohol, etc. But hardly do we ever think of the sins mentioned in this article which are grave indeed.

      Indeed, the article was very, very beneficial.

      I genuinely believe we can all take something from this.

      :love: "I am pleased with Allah as Lord, with Islam as religion and with Muhammad :saw: as prophet." :love:


      • #4
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        • #5
          This is the firts positive thing I've seen posted on these boards. Many would do well to remember that common sense doesn't change much regardless of it's provenance.
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          • #6
            Originally posted by Huda

            16. Becoming a show-off after having been sincere:

            LOL, I like that one.
            'God does not change the condition of a people unless they change their inner selves' (Ar-Ra'd 13:11),

            This means that a community's political and economic status cannot be lastingly improved unless the community as a whole grows in moral stature. (Muhammad Asad)


            • #7
              Masha Allah sis, May Allah (swt) reward you for such a needed and useful reminder:)

              3:103 And hold fast, all together, unto the bond with God, and do not draw apart from one another. And remember the blessings which God has bestowed upon you: how, when you were enemies, He brought your hearts together, so that through His blessing you became brethren; and [how, when] you were on the brink of a fiery abyss. He saved you from it. In this way God makes clear His messages unto you, so that you might find guidance.


              • #8

                very useful information.





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