This is not about having a bad temper, because that's another topic. But this one's about how you can communicate with others ( friends, colleagues or family) that you are dissatisfied with something. I think for me, the way I was brought up shaped me to think that expressing any form of anger is not a nice thing to do. I grew up numbing my emotions instead, or just being emotionally inexpressive, and it's probably made me feel like frowning made me unpretty or unladylike. It made me hold grudges against people I'm currently nice to. 
I do notice a similar trend when I work in all-female groups too. The girls I worked with are reserved types who'd always be nice to work with and easy to talk to. Until recently, one of them started to burst out in anger over something that's happened a long time ago. Even when expressing anger through text, there's always other girls who look down on her for "causing drama", being "petty" and creating tension in the group. Eventually she got talked about, and ostracized, just because of that.
I personally think her anger was valid, especially knowing her that she's going through a tough time, dealing with parents' divorce. Eventually no fair deal was made, just the leader of the group convincing her that it is what it is.
I'm just wondering if this is just the way culture grooms us to be that way, like a "fake harmony", but actually, there's a lot surpressed emotions behind all of that.
Is there a healthy way to show you're angry? Without making others feel bad and making it known your feelings are validated?

I do notice a similar trend when I work in all-female groups too. The girls I worked with are reserved types who'd always be nice to work with and easy to talk to. Until recently, one of them started to burst out in anger over something that's happened a long time ago. Even when expressing anger through text, there's always other girls who look down on her for "causing drama", being "petty" and creating tension in the group. Eventually she got talked about, and ostracized, just because of that.
I personally think her anger was valid, especially knowing her that she's going through a tough time, dealing with parents' divorce. Eventually no fair deal was made, just the leader of the group convincing her that it is what it is.
I'm just wondering if this is just the way culture grooms us to be that way, like a "fake harmony", but actually, there's a lot surpressed emotions behind all of that.
Is there a healthy way to show you're angry? Without making others feel bad and making it known your feelings are validated?
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