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    :salams

    I'm sure all of us have been through and dealt with people like this at one point throughout our lives. You've had someone who wronged and mistreated you, which has affected you considerably. This person might realize their mistake and ask you to forgive them, or they might carry on like normal and act as if nothing has happened.

    Either way, how do you react and deal with people like that? I realized there are two types of ways many of us fit into:

    The first type: Easily forgives others and forgets all what they've done (no matter how bad it is), and just moves on.

    The second type: Sruggles to forgive others and finds it difficult to forget what they've done, and keeps dwelling on what's happened in the past.

    So, which type best describes you?
    “And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers to him, and We are closer to him than (his) jugular vein.” (Quran 50:16)

  • #2
    Re: Which type of person are you?

    :wswrwb:

    If they regret what they did then I'm more likely to forgive and forget.

    If they don't, then I'm more likely to hold a grudge.

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    • #3
      Re: Which type of person are you?

      و عليكم السلام والرحمة الله وبركاته

      The Rock says,

      I am the type to get mad and Rock-Bottom that roody poo, candy ass jabroni through a table. And then after a while when my anger has dissipated, I forgive them and hold no bad feelings. But remnants of my former anger may prevent me from showing them kindness [for a while] but Alhamdulillah I am still able to forgive. Unless it's something like black magic in which case I'll never forgive and I'll curse he person everyday.

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      • #4
        Re: Which type of person are you?

        If it's minor things, then I'm the first person.
        Otherwise I'm the second person. I don't forget that often. I might forgive, but I will still remember what they have done, and keep it in mind, and I think that is the natural and correct way.
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        • #5
          Re: Which type of person are you?

          Originally posted by Morose View Post
          و عليكم السلام والرحمة الله وبركاته

          The Rock says,

          I am the type to get mad and Rock-Bottom that roody poo, candy ass jabroni through a table. And then after a while when my anger has dissipated, I forgive them and hold no bad feelings. But remnants of my former anger may prevent me from showing them kindness [for a while] but Alhamdulillah I am still able to forgive. Unless it's something like black magic in which case I'll never forgive and I'll curse he person everyday.
          Wait a second, you are srahman33? The srahman33? Subhanallah I just realized. Sorry for the neg.
          You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

          You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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          • #6
            Re: Which type of person are you?

            I'm a very forgiving person generally speaking. That's not to say i don't get really angry about it, and it may take a few days to cool down anger wise...

            That has happened on a few occasions here, when certain people openly slandered me and persisted upon doing so, refusing to apologise for it,but i let it go and forgave them regardless...

            If someone has wronged me in some pretty major way, then i honestly don't know how forgiving I'd be. It'd have to depend upon how bad it was, how remorseful they were....something like that has not happened yet
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            • #7
              Re: Which type of person are you?

              This thread is so made for [MENTION=7414]RaNdOm[/MENTION].

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              • #8
                Re: Which type of person are you?

                Wa Alaykumussalam
                If it's someone random that I don't know, it makes no difference to me.
                if it's someone that I care about, I try to forgive and forget..always
                But sometimes it's not that easy, especially if someone close to you that you trusted, betrayed you, or weren't there when you really needed them..
                I do forgive, but depending on who it was, the severity of the situation, and how they act after it, are all matters which determine to what extent I can forget.
                I do try to move on, but I am a lil emotional and sensitive, and it hurts me when someone treats me continually in a way that I would never dream of treating them.. but recently I have learnt to not let myself get hurt like this anymore.. and keep my distance.
                And with Him are the keys of the Ghayb (all that is hidden), none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record”
                [al-An’aam 6:59]

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                • #9
                  Re: Which type of person are you?

                  I don't forgive easily but I don't dwell on things anymore
                  وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

                  And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


                  أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

                  Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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                  • #10
                    Re: Which type of person are you?

                    First but more cautious.
                    You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

                    You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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                    • #11
                      Re: Which type of person are you?

                      honestly they don't have to apologize like 'im sorry i did blah blah blah' if they are kind to me in their actions and words and don't go back to their old ways, then i forgive and forget. but if they do it again, then i forgive and be polite but my wall will go up with them.
                      Indeed we belong to Allah,
                      and indeed to Him we will return.


                      Quran 2:156

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                      • #12
                        Re: Which type of person are you?

                        When it comes to my siblings I'm extreamly forgiving, I can't hold a grudge for too long. Even if what they done was completely out of order.

                        I think it's a blessing cause wallahi I could be devastatingly angry and upset with them, but a day or few later Allah rids all anger and Ill feelings from my heart alhamdulilah. Even if they never apologised.

                        I think it's because I HATE awkwardness and you're not allowed to cut ties with your family so might as well try and get along.

                        Alhamdulilah my husband never gets me upset really.

                        But if you're an associate or so called 'friend' and you do me wrong I will give you a fair shot. Then I have no trouble cutting you off.
                        Last edited by Amaana; 16-10-16, 07:05 PM.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Which type of person are you?

                          Originally posted by The Poet View Post
                          :salams

                          I'm sure all of us have been through and dealt with people like this at one point throughout our lives. You've had someone who wronged and mistreated you, which has affected you considerably. This person might realize their mistake and ask you to forgive them, or they might carry on like normal and act as if nothing has happened.

                          Either way, how do you react and deal with people like that? I realized there are two types of ways many of us fit into:

                          The first type: Easily forgives others and forgets all what they've done (no matter how bad it is), and just moves on.

                          The second type: Sruggles to forgive others and finds it difficult to forget what they've done, and keeps dwelling on what's happened in the past.

                          So, which type best describes you?
                          I'd say, Alhumdulilah, the first one, if you hold negative things they can impact your heart, soul and mind. It's better to forgive and move on.
                          He who loses money, loses much.

                          He who loses a friend, loses more.

                          He who loses faith, loses ALL.

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