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Re: Bad Parents
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[MENTION=140448]Zainab70x[/MENTION]
It's not a lie to not say everything you think, do and intend.
Tell your future spouse to take a break from eachother until the marriage.
Tell your parents you stopped talking to him. It isn't a lie even if you resume it later on.
Basically "tell them what they want to hear" if they're such control freaks, if you get cornered or accidentally lie or the situation presses you into it, don't worry too much because you didn't intend it, ask forgiveness from Allah(subhanahu wa ta'aala) if you do something wrong.
That way you save yourself some nerves.
In the meantime, if you know that something they're propagating is bad, you should pinpoint to yourself what that is, then show them by action why it is bad, because I'm presuming they won't just take your word for it nor reason it out.
I don't know your entire situation, I haven't heard your parents' side of the story.
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Speak to somebody, a relative or imam nearby or someone who knows the situation better and can discern better, to correct whoever of you is in the wrong. Because you're not going to just get away from their "walihood", and this needs to be solved, not just postponed or filibustered around.
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[MENTION=140448]Zainab70x[/MENTION]
It's not a lie to not say everything you think, do and intend.
Tell your future spouse to take a break from eachother until the marriage.
Tell your parents you stopped talking to him. It isn't a lie even if you resume it later on.
Basically "tell them what they want to hear" if they're such control freaks, if you get cornered or accidentally lie or the situation presses you into it, don't worry too much because you didn't intend it, ask forgiveness from Allah(subhanahu wa ta'aala) if you do something wrong.
That way you save yourself some nerves.
In the meantime, if you know that something they're propagating is bad, you should pinpoint to yourself what that is, then show them by action why it is bad, because I'm presuming they won't just take your word for it nor reason it out.
I don't know your entire situation, I haven't heard your parents' side of the story.
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Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians is void. (He said these words) three times. If there is cohabitation, she gets her dower for the intercourse her husband has had. If there is a dispute, the sultan (man in authority) is the guardian of one who has none.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians is void. (He said these words) three times. If there is cohabitation, she gets her dower for the intercourse her husband has had. If there is a dispute, the sultan (man in authority) is the guardian of one who has none.
Speak to somebody, a relative or imam nearby or someone who knows the situation better and can discern better, to correct whoever of you is in the wrong. Because you're not going to just get away from their "walihood", and this needs to be solved, not just postponed or filibustered around.
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