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Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters. So I want to clarify the ruling on spying and backbiting.
Backbiting: If I am telling other people about someone else in order to make them aware of something is it haraam? Like a precaution. You know there are certain people who are deceptive, seductive etc. For example, if there is a seductive muslim girl and she strikes up a seeming harmless conversation with a friend of mine, (and she had previously seduced/deceived another guy in the same way), and if I warn him about her character, will it be considered to be backbiting?
Spying: If I am gathering information to make a better decision and not disclosing it to other people, will it be haraam?Take this hypothetical situation for example. I am 25 (not really) and my parents have chosen a girl who seems to be religious, like ya know wears hijab and stuff. Is it okay for me to do the following things-
1. Check her Facebook or other accounts to see the kind of things she posts to get an idea of her character
2. Ask people who know her about her
3. See how she treats those lower than her to reveal her real character
4. Use strategies to see through any facade that she may be putting on. Like letting her overreach by appearing to be weak etc
5.Befriend or get into her friend circle to see whether she has any guy "friends"
6. This might seem a bit extreme--Telling someone else to hack into her social media accounts to see whether she is in a hidden relationship with another guy.
7. Use my knowledge about human psychology and psychoanalysis to discover her real character.
8. See whether she has certain virues like patience, humility, loyalty, being reasonable, femininity, etc alongside of having remembrance of Allah.
I know it is weird but the girls in the place where I live often wear facade of piety. Some are extemely deceptive. Sometimes they wear it to gain approval of the elders and do not fear Allah. They would sometimes do haraam things when no one is looking and such. So is spying in this case haram? If so then can I use no. 7 to avoid making a wrong decision?
It might be weird that both cases are about girls but you know I, being a guy, can easily understand another guy. Females are a foreign land so the precautions are more if you know what i mean.
Thanks in advance for your assistance. Allah bless you all!
Backbiting: If I am telling other people about someone else in order to make them aware of something is it haraam? Like a precaution. You know there are certain people who are deceptive, seductive etc. For example, if there is a seductive muslim girl and she strikes up a seeming harmless conversation with a friend of mine, (and she had previously seduced/deceived another guy in the same way), and if I warn him about her character, will it be considered to be backbiting?
Spying: If I am gathering information to make a better decision and not disclosing it to other people, will it be haraam?Take this hypothetical situation for example. I am 25 (not really) and my parents have chosen a girl who seems to be religious, like ya know wears hijab and stuff. Is it okay for me to do the following things-
1. Check her Facebook or other accounts to see the kind of things she posts to get an idea of her character
2. Ask people who know her about her
3. See how she treats those lower than her to reveal her real character
4. Use strategies to see through any facade that she may be putting on. Like letting her overreach by appearing to be weak etc
5.Befriend or get into her friend circle to see whether she has any guy "friends"
6. This might seem a bit extreme--Telling someone else to hack into her social media accounts to see whether she is in a hidden relationship with another guy.
7. Use my knowledge about human psychology and psychoanalysis to discover her real character.
8. See whether she has certain virues like patience, humility, loyalty, being reasonable, femininity, etc alongside of having remembrance of Allah.
I know it is weird but the girls in the place where I live often wear facade of piety. Some are extemely deceptive. Sometimes they wear it to gain approval of the elders and do not fear Allah. They would sometimes do haraam things when no one is looking and such. So is spying in this case haram? If so then can I use no. 7 to avoid making a wrong decision?
It might be weird that both cases are about girls but you know I, being a guy, can easily understand another guy. Females are a foreign land so the precautions are more if you know what i mean.
Thanks in advance for your assistance. Allah bless you all!
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