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  • #31
    Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

    Pray tahajjud. Do it.
    You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

    You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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    • #32
      Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

      Originally posted by bhshawon View Post
      BTW I am interested in tafseer, I was listening to Nouman Ali Khan(I have bayyinah membership), then I found Abu Mussab's video where he shows how NAK can be misleading, may Allah guide him. Can you guys recommend someone on youtube for listening tafseer? Specially surah Kahaaf, Nouman Ali Khan built a great interest for that surah in me.
      Nouman Ali Khan is good and informative. I wouldn't really listen to Abu Mussab's views on him or others, to be honest.
      Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

      "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
      - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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      • #33
        Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

        Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
        Nouman Ali Khan is good and informative. I wouldn't really listen to Abu Mussab's views on him or others, to be honest.
        It's not about Abu Mussab's views, I watched the whole video and he spoke with reference and logic.

        And the recent incident where he(NAK) mentioned a fabricated hadith and calls a companion 'pokieman' is pretty disheartening.
        Winning an argument doesn't mean you're on truth, losing an argument doesn't mean you're on falsehood.

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        • #34
          Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

          constant zikr; heart and brainwash yourself from wicked thoughts entering you ... and soon you would have forgot!

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          • #35
            Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

            I just realized there's a lot of young people in this forum and this thread might be inappropriate for a lot of them. They could just out of curiosity look up the explicit terms I have used in my first post and get waswasa from Shaytan. Also this thread should have been in the counselling section and there's a nice sticky thread already (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...-t-I-Just-Quit!).

            So I'm requesting the moderators to delete this thread.

            And about my current update, the router block is somewhat working, I also decided to use Internet on phone with images off.
            Winning an argument doesn't mean you're on truth, losing an argument doesn't mean you're on falsehood.

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            • #36
              Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

              You can report the thread using the report button on bottom under REP Power.
              Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

              "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
              - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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              • #37
                Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

                Originally posted by bhshawon View Post
                Assalamu Alaikum, I'm a 22 yo male. I've been addicted to pornography for about 5-6 years. And in the last 3-4 years I mostly watched twisted pornography like rape, torture, bondage, humiliation, degradation etc. I became a friday muslim(I didn't even used to attend every jummah, rather once in 2-3 weeks, because I heard a hadith that a person becomes disbeliever if he doesn't attend 3 jummahs in a row). However, even though I prayed little, I asked in my prayer often to be able to get rid of these things. And for 3-4 months I had been trying to reduce the amount of porn I watch gradually. I was able to reduce it from daily to twice a week, but after a while I forgot the plan to eventually get rid of it, and rather started to feel I deserved those 2 days of porn and masturbation each week.

                About two months ago, some events(including death of a friend) in my life made me realize how dire my situation is, and how I wouldn't have anything to answer to Allah if I die now. So I stopped watching porn completely. I also stopped watching movies, listening music. I also used to be an avid gamer, but I don't play much now(a racing game in my PC, and a couple of casual games in my phone. I used to hate these kind of games and was into fantasy/action RPGs). However I can't delete the porns I already watched, and I'm often thinking of those things. Sometimes I'm justifying my thoughts by imagining I'm doing this with my future wife. I realize myself how crazy it sounds.

                But recently 2-3 days ago, I was browsing amazon, and after a while found myself browsing sex toys, fetish wears and bdsm devices, I after about 2 months, I relapsed and masturbated. The same thing happened yesterday(I even watched 2-3 minutes of porn) and after that I was wrecked and ashamed of myself. I offered salat-al-tawba and prayed for guidance. After all that, I found myself searching for and looking at bdsm devices today morning, although I was able to stop myself this time alhamdulillah.

                I don't know if these things are plot of shaytan or are they from myself. And I don't know how to get rid of them. These thoughts are eating my insides.

                I do offer salat 5 times everyday, and I spend a great deal of time watching islamic lectures and reading islamic materials. I finished reading 'The Sealed Necter' few days ago alhamdulillah. Stories of the sacrifices of prophet(SAW) brought me to tears a couple of times, but it also brought moments of weak faith where I was questioning why the prophet(SAW) did such and such. I also don't look at girls at street anymore and and trying to stay away from wrongdoings and lies.

                Please help me with any advice you can. I'm also interested in knowing there is anyone who had gone through what I'm going through. Am I going to hard on myself? From my experience as I already mentioned, going through steps doesn't work for me. Can I ever be normal again about my sexual fantasies and live a normal life? Zazakallah khair.
                Ask Allah for protection sincerely.

                Pray on time. And I mean dead spot on exactly on time. Prayers protect you from shameful acts. Fajr,Zuhur,Asar,Maghrib,Isha..

                Pray with khushooh(commitment). Pray All the sunnah, nawafil or tuhujjud if you can. Do as many good deeds as you can, in hope that it'll erase the bad ones.

                Such as: dhikr (easiest, check this link ) , charity etc

                http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?453748

                Stay away from bad influence. Distance yourself and turn people down if they invite to anything which brings you away from prayers.

                Just know that the feeling you have now (to repent) is a sign you heart hasn't hardened. Don't let shaitaan tell you otherwise. No matter how many times you fall, don't fail to get up.

                Whenever you get such thoughts, start reciting the quran, even if it's like surah fatiha. Recite it slowly and beautifully. It might help change your mind. Just know that it's all in your mind. Those urges etc, you're in control. Fear death and know that Allah is always watching everything you do.

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                • #38
                  Re: How do I get rid of twisted fetishes?

                  Originally posted by bhshawon View Post
                  BTW I am interested in tafseer, I was listening to Nouman Ali Khan(I have bayyinah membership), then I found Abu Mussab's video where he shows how NAK can be misleading, may Allah guide him. Can you guys recommend someone on youtube for listening tafseer? Specially surah Kahaaf, Nouman Ali Khan built a great interest for that surah in me.
                  Not sure about that but you can try search for Mufti Ismail Menk and Zakir Naik

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