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  • Victim Mentality vs. Victor Mentality

    Assalmualaikum,

    Interesting article on how to identify and move beyond having a victim mentality.
    A mentality which many of us carry forward from childhood and has to actively be addressed in order to face issues in our lives directly.

    The victim mentality is characterized by an attitude of blaming and complaining. The secret agenda of blaming and complaining is to manipulate and control others to be responsible for you by rationalizations and excuses.



    From victim to victor



    The first step in transforming the victim mentality is to transform your identity from victim to victor, one who conquers and overcomes defeat. The victim mentality causes you to feel weak and therefore give up and giving in to external pressures. This attitude comes from within not without. As long as you perceive yourself as powerless, worthless, weak, and this makes you feel insecure, doubtful and hesitant, you will not effort to succeed in meeting life’s challenges.


    When you think like and victim you feel weak because your fears and self-loading are strong. The victor is not afraid to fail, or feel uncomfortable by the effort required to work hard and succeed.


    The victor holds nothing back; she does the best that she can. Therefore, to embody the mentality of the victor you must be discipline in taking action, and commit to a set of values that you know will counteract the habit of being irresponsible and dependent.



    The values of the victim include among others: focusing on feeling comfortable, taking the easy way out, striving for safety by avoiding conflicts and confrontations, being deceitful, and most of all being irresponsible by blaming and complaining.



    The values of the victor include: being responsible and disciplined, being courageous and brave demonstrating an unwavering commitment to face all fears, being loyal, honest, and having honor and integrity which lead to self-respect.



    Steps for transforming the victim mentality



    1-Claim your power by choosing responsibility expressed through consistent action to handle your needs. This builds your self-esteem.

    2-Recognize the victim mentality and victim identity and interrupt blaming, complaining and rationalizing why you can’t do something.

    3-Love who you are and eradicate the habit of self-judgments and criticism.

    4-Be strong, trusting and confident in your abilities, no matter what your mind is thinking. Command your will by focusing your attention on the task at hand and declare to yourself: “I can and I will succeed”.

    5-Know your values and use them as guidelines for the choices you make and the behavior you engage.

    6-Commit to be loyal to you, and live by principles that honor, respect and promote well-being for everyone.

    7-Create a vision of yourself as an impeccable individual driven by honor and integrity.

    8-Be forgiving when you fail to live up to your new standards, particularly at the beginning of this self-transformation.

    9-Be creative and resourceful and add to this list whatever you need to ensure you succeed in becoming more powerful.
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    Last edited by SheSaid; 22-08-15, 09:00 PM.
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    Re: Victim Mentality vs. Victor Mentality

    Originally posted by SheSaid View Post
    Assalmualaikum,

    Interesting article on how to identify and move beyond having a victim mentality.
    A mentality which many of us carry forward from childhood and has to actively be addressed in order to face issues in our lives directly.
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    Wa laikum ah salam.
    Great psychological thread sis

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      Re: Victim Mentality vs. Victor Mentality

      Wa alaykumussalam. Really good thread. x
      And with Him are the keys of the Ghayb (all that is hidden), none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record”
      [al-An’aam 6:59]

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        Re: Victim Mentality vs. Victor Mentality

        :salams
        Good insight!
        Pray. Fast. Zakat. Pilgrimage. Allah.

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