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    Asalaamualaikum

    Today i have finally decided to speak about this issue. I wanted to discuss this issue with some imam/aalim but i couldnt.i was really scared/ashamed as to what their response would be after they hear about my disgusting and filthy problem.
    Getting to the point i want to say that i am badly addicted to pornography. i have tried many things but i have always failed. My nafs is killing me and i am really worried about it. Situation has gone very bad.it is at such a point that whenever i see a female evil thoughts come into my mind right away. i feel as if i want to have sex with them.it was not like that before but overtime situation has gone from bad to worst.every female to me looks like a sex object. whenever u see a female with evil intention it is as if you have committed zina with her.i do know it but i cant stop my self.i have lost the count as to how many time i have looked at females with evil intention.Allah will definitely punish me.at time i just want to kill myself to avoid further sins...
    I am literally destroyed from inside. nothing seems to be helpful.i just cant get rid of these evil thoughts.
    i am really concerned with my bad habit.what face will i show to almighty on the day of judgement? what will i tell him?
    i am really scared and i dont know what to do.

    please help me...please guide me....before its too late....
    i am begging you....kindly assist me

    Jazakumullah Khair

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    Re: Addiction....need help please.....

    Originally posted by zuhaib916 View Post
    Asalaamualaikum

    Today i have finally decided to speak about this issue. I wanted to discuss this issue with some imam/aalim but i couldnt.i was really scared/ashamed as to what their response would be after they hear about my disgusting and filthy problem.
    Getting to the point i want to say that i am badly addicted to pornography. i have tried many things but i have always failed. My nafs is killing me and i am really worried about it. Situation has gone very bad.it is at such a point that whenever i see a female evil thoughts come into my mind right away. i feel as if i want to have sex with them.it was not like that before but overtime situation has gone from bad to worst.every female to me looks like a sex object. whenever u see a female with evil intention it is as if you have committed zina with her.i do know it but i cant stop my self.i have lost the count as to how many time i have looked at females with evil intention.Allah will definitely punish me.at time i just want to kill myself to avoid further sins...
    I am literally destroyed from inside. nothing seems to be helpful.i just cant get rid of these evil thoughts.
    i am really concerned with my bad habit.what face will i show to almighty on the day of judgement? what will i tell him?
    i am really scared and i dont know what to do.

    please help me...please guide me....before its too late....
    i am begging you....kindly assist me

    Jazakumullah Khair
    Asslamo Aleikum

    Tahajjad solves everything! Believe me!
    Start with Tahajjad, and then pray Frajr, After Fajr, go out for a walk. It really helps.

    I was once addicted to pornography (Gay), and after prating Tahajjud , it got so much easier

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    • #3
      Re: Addiction....need help please.....

      Addiction is hard to overcome, but its not impossible and its never too late.

      First off you should fear allah (swt) and stop it. If this doesn't work, then think of other things, like these girls you watch in porn, or the girls you have bad thoughts about, there someones daughter, mother, sister, aunt, etc. Would you like it if men were looking at the females in your house like this? If your at home surround yourself around family members or close to them rather then going into the basement or your room and closing the door.

      Are you a student? Try to stay at school and work on assignment, do revision, etc. Your less likely to watch porn there as you'll get caught or sites are blocked.

      Find activities, like a sport, hit the gym, read books, read quran or try memorizing a surah you haven't memorized yet. If your close to a masjid walk there or drive to one for all prayers. I know some people who get off college/university they go to the masjid with there school work and work there and get to pray all the namaz with jammat also.

      Whenever you get the urge to watch porn or bad thoughts when a sister is walking by keep repeating, "astaghfirullah" in your head.

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      • #4
        Re: Addiction....need help please.....

        http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...-t-I-Just-Quit!
        Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

        "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
        - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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        • #5
          Re: Addiction....need help please.....

          Bro, probably you feel very bad but please lets remember that we shouldnt expose our secret sins to others. So i hope you never mention/expose your real idendity to anyone on here...
          Last edited by Ernshrk; 07-04-15, 09:45 AM.

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          • #6
            Re: Addiction....need help please.....

            When there's a will there's a way ~ SaidBySomeoneVeryKnowledgeableWhomICannotRememberA tThisPresentTime.

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            • #7
              Re: Addiction....need help please.....

              What you're experiencing is a natural curiosity that became fascination with sexual acts worsening into an addiction/obsession with pornography. You're focusing on things you wish to experience physically. The worst thing you could do is force yourself to get married especially if you're still an immature young man in the vain hope that your extreme sexual desires will dissipate or disappear overnight. Nothing could be further from the truth and it's absolutely the wrong reason to seek marriage. Since as a male your brain is practically "hard wired" to be preoccupied women and sex, in a case such as yours it went haywire, so now you must go through the process of recognising how all of it began, what is the attraction and how to gradually control it first before stopping "cold turkey", which will only make it more difficult to eliminate the need to watch. Sometimes single brothers will start watching porn before they get married as a release of sexual frustration or tension and once they're happily married it usually ceases then there are those few for whom it becomes an addiction/obsession. You'd think that perhaps after viewing the same thing repeatedly it would lose the thrill and excitement you initially felt and for many it usually does. But for those few it becomes a regular habit that could become very quickly an addiction/obsession. When you have long stretches of lonely idleness (as the saying goes "idle hands (or minds) are the devils playground") this is what can usually occur so one of the best things to do is if you live close to masjid then spend most of your time there and develop interests outside of yourself that will keep you as busy as possible with something much more important and meaningful.
              Last edited by @fedayeen; 31-08-15, 12:43 PM.

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              • #8
                Re: Addiction....need help please.....

                Originally posted by UmmAbdulMalik View Post
                When there's a will there's a way ~ SaidBySomeoneVeryKnowledgeableWhomICannotRememberA tThisPresentTime.
                Bismallah, yes sis, it was my mum who said it lol. Probably another wise women! Aren't they all?
                BismAllah. Slave of Allah swt forever Forever a slave of Allah swt

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                • #9
                  Re: Addiction....need help please.....

                  Originally posted by Abdur al Rahman View Post
                  Bismallah, yes sis, it was my mum who said it lol. Probably another wise women! Aren't they all?
                  lol?
                  Earth is not a place to make life perfect. So please never complain.

                  Perfect and Happy life can only be in Paradise. Have Patience. :banan:

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                  • #10
                    Re: Addiction....need help please.....

                    watch these
                    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7Ol7-HFaPc

                    then https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OShHXWiRRuw
                    My cooking Youtube channel:
                    https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvc...UgRZfc4r8YJ0iQ

                    Don't abuse your body just to feel good, use your body right and you'll feel better - Sparty

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