Salamu Alaykom,
I am a middle eastern muslim who lives abroad. I am telling my story and am asking for advice as i have no one to turn to :'(
I moved away from my parents 8 years ago to go to university, there I met a lovely muslim man whom i fell in love with, we were best friends before falling in love with each other we knew everything about each other. I come from a upper middle class family, and he was an orphan from a poor family. with little education, he was working minimum wage jobs and barely making ends meet; it didnt matter to me how much money he had; these things meant nothing to us, 8 years after being in a close relationship; my parents (while visiting me) found out about our relationship and he came to my parents and asked for my hand in marriage. My parents refused (because he was an orphan and because he was just an employee with low salary) and told me to stop talking to him and threatened to take me back home with them if i kept talking to him. When they went back i kept seeing him because we are deeply in love and i didnt want to break my heart. During that time I secretly took money that my parents had invested to help him start a business (it was solely my decision, he did not want to but i insisted) it had been our dream for years. but we had no way of doing it with very little income. My parents do not know about this, and i would die if they ever find out!! I know what I did was a big mistake! So, we begin constructing our business and he receives a refusal from immigration, which means he has to leave the country within a set period of time. we spoke to his lawyer and the lawyer said he must leave and cannot come back until after 1 year. The business is still in the construction process, I am head over my heels in a loan. And now that he is leaving I have to start this business all by myself. I know I put myself in this situation, and i probably deserve it. But I dont know what to do!! Allah said he never puts his slaves in situations they cant handle, but this honestly is something I cannot handle! I am so afraid and i feel so alone. If my parents ever find out i would have to run away from them than face them and see their disappointment! please someone give me advice as i have no one to turn to .
thank you
I am a middle eastern muslim who lives abroad. I am telling my story and am asking for advice as i have no one to turn to :'(
I moved away from my parents 8 years ago to go to university, there I met a lovely muslim man whom i fell in love with, we were best friends before falling in love with each other we knew everything about each other. I come from a upper middle class family, and he was an orphan from a poor family. with little education, he was working minimum wage jobs and barely making ends meet; it didnt matter to me how much money he had; these things meant nothing to us, 8 years after being in a close relationship; my parents (while visiting me) found out about our relationship and he came to my parents and asked for my hand in marriage. My parents refused (because he was an orphan and because he was just an employee with low salary) and told me to stop talking to him and threatened to take me back home with them if i kept talking to him. When they went back i kept seeing him because we are deeply in love and i didnt want to break my heart. During that time I secretly took money that my parents had invested to help him start a business (it was solely my decision, he did not want to but i insisted) it had been our dream for years. but we had no way of doing it with very little income. My parents do not know about this, and i would die if they ever find out!! I know what I did was a big mistake! So, we begin constructing our business and he receives a refusal from immigration, which means he has to leave the country within a set period of time. we spoke to his lawyer and the lawyer said he must leave and cannot come back until after 1 year. The business is still in the construction process, I am head over my heels in a loan. And now that he is leaving I have to start this business all by myself. I know I put myself in this situation, and i probably deserve it. But I dont know what to do!! Allah said he never puts his slaves in situations they cant handle, but this honestly is something I cannot handle! I am so afraid and i feel so alone. If my parents ever find out i would have to run away from them than face them and see their disappointment! please someone give me advice as i have no one to turn to .
thank you
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