how would you deal with this family issue

[ummsayfullah]

Assalamu alaikum

Scenario: Imagine your brother got engaged to your cousin 2 years ago but now he does not want to get married to her.

So your parents are extremely stressed out because the girl is your dad's sister's daughter and your family is super close to them.

Your dad threatens your brother that he will leave your mom if he says no to the marriage. Your brother definitely doesn't want to change his mind.

So in this case if the dad leaves the mom should the mother accept this as part of qadr?

Isn't the dad committing a huge sin for divorcing his wife ?

What is the best thing to do? And the girl's mom has mental health probs, so if she gets to know about this she will not able to handle such news, pretty sad and her older daughter is also not married and she is always worried about her so that will make it even worse.

[Grimmjow]

Re: how would you deal with this family issue

The father is willing to leave the mother whom he's been married to for so long just because the son doesn't want to marry his cousin?
That is taking divorce way too lightly. I would get an imam to explain to the dad how much of a sin it is to force people to get married through emotional blackmail and to tell him the consequences of taking divorce lightly.

If you can't get an imam involved, either do it yourself or get perhaps an uncle to shake that idea out of him.

Sorry that's all I know enough to say.

[neelu]

Re: how would you deal with this family issue

If your brother is absolutely certain about not wanting to marry his cousin then he should stand his ground and not be swayed by threats. The dad is unbelievably pathetic and needs to be in a locked psyche ward or maybe have some sense beaten into him with a baseball bat until he apologises to his wife.

It's fine that the dad is concerned about his sister, but there are better ways of helping his nieces get married than this kinda stupidity.

[~Salma~]

Re: how would you deal with this family issue

Subahnallah this is so wrong.
What did the son do wrong for refusing to marry his cousin and why is his dad making the poor mom pay for what his own son doesn't want.

The father is oppressing his family he needs to be stopped. Get someone he'll listen to involved like an imam or someone older than him who can stop him from wronging his family.