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Me and my ''friend'' are having problems with our friendship. (Really wish I could end it, but we can't because of oath...)
We are friends on the internet, both Muslim reverts, same age, both members of this forum. We became friends in April 2012.
Most problems come from him. He doesn't feel no emotions or anything at all. I remember in 2013 when we played games ''together'' whenever there was another or 2 other guys, I was ignored and left alone, always would go kicking with someone else. Also have fun with others, but not with me. It hurts so much, because I have never had any reals friends really, and all have betrayed me, with whomever I could have any closer ties and such. I'm an anti-social person, quiet and shy, just like he is. Basically he has never have had any friends too. Also when playing games, we are playing Team Fortress 2 mostly, it's something like Counter Strike, where there are 2 teams and everything. When we play together we often avoid each other there. Whenever I just something fun to do, he totally rejects it and says it's bad etc. Like using a bug to get into enemy spawn camp using high 5, like it was dunn in one video, but no... Also totally ignoring when I finally succeeded to freeze into high 5 pose and slide like that, I saw that as such a cool thing, but no, he doesn't care, rather he later says that he finds it annoying that I do it... But watching videos where others do such things is totally fine and funny to him, but not when do some activities together... Always rejected, but will always find fun with someone else... And this is just example with games, since we can't be together we can't do many activities, but I don't expect different results there.
Also he says that he has no feelings at all. He feels nothing, no love or anything. Well when feeling bad and we argue, he says that. And sometimes says things like ''there can't be real friendship on internet'' ''go find a better friend'' etc. I sometimes say ''wish we couldn't be friends anymore''
So yeah, we argue often as well, sometimes about silly things. He also says that he doesn't really find any interest to talk with me and is playing games too much (especially now that his army ended) and he does it to kill time. At 1st when we became friends, we weren't Muslims, but I was interested in Islam and kinda knowing that it's the truth. I always have supported him as much as I can, but he often has sided against me nor shown support, doing a lot of for like ''free'' for him, used to say nice words (can't say much anymore). Because of this, I have became less kind, I have lost a lot of trust in him, I'm kinda suspicious on him, more aggressive (generally). Basically it has touched heart a lot, but Allah (SWT) through me guided him to Islam in February/March 2013, made him stay away from secular trash, sects and supporting the right side (Y'all know who I mean). Together we have quit music, learned a lot of knowledge about Islam, learned how to pray, quit other sins as well and improve simply, all thanks to Allah (SWT). But yet seems like he doesn't even like me...
We have made a lot of duas, while sometimes we sometimes can have a good time, it's short and goes back how it was. Actually it hasn't been really good since middle of March 2013. The best time actually was when he wasn't even a Muslim. From then, somehow everything has went downhill. It was actually the best time... But it wasn't because he reverted, can't really say what. Is shaytan on us? I don't know. Is Allah (SWT) testing us? Is Allah (SWT) punishing us?
Also we plan to meet up in Finland (his country) after a month for 3-4 days, In Shaa Allah. (I'm from Latvia)
Well maybe this all looks too one sided, but he In Shaa Allah tomorrow will write about me. (I was giving permission to write it now, so we can see replies in the morning, In Shaa Allah)
Also maybe I made it now a bit too bad than it actually is, but that's because we are out of ideas and would like to see our family's (y'all) help. Any suggestions and also duas would be appreciated.
Me and my ''friend'' are having problems with our friendship. (Really wish I could end it, but we can't because of oath...)
We are friends on the internet, both Muslim reverts, same age, both members of this forum. We became friends in April 2012.
Most problems come from him. He doesn't feel no emotions or anything at all. I remember in 2013 when we played games ''together'' whenever there was another or 2 other guys, I was ignored and left alone, always would go kicking with someone else. Also have fun with others, but not with me. It hurts so much, because I have never had any reals friends really, and all have betrayed me, with whomever I could have any closer ties and such. I'm an anti-social person, quiet and shy, just like he is. Basically he has never have had any friends too. Also when playing games, we are playing Team Fortress 2 mostly, it's something like Counter Strike, where there are 2 teams and everything. When we play together we often avoid each other there. Whenever I just something fun to do, he totally rejects it and says it's bad etc. Like using a bug to get into enemy spawn camp using high 5, like it was dunn in one video, but no... Also totally ignoring when I finally succeeded to freeze into high 5 pose and slide like that, I saw that as such a cool thing, but no, he doesn't care, rather he later says that he finds it annoying that I do it... But watching videos where others do such things is totally fine and funny to him, but not when do some activities together... Always rejected, but will always find fun with someone else... And this is just example with games, since we can't be together we can't do many activities, but I don't expect different results there.
Also he says that he has no feelings at all. He feels nothing, no love or anything. Well when feeling bad and we argue, he says that. And sometimes says things like ''there can't be real friendship on internet'' ''go find a better friend'' etc. I sometimes say ''wish we couldn't be friends anymore''
So yeah, we argue often as well, sometimes about silly things. He also says that he doesn't really find any interest to talk with me and is playing games too much (especially now that his army ended) and he does it to kill time. At 1st when we became friends, we weren't Muslims, but I was interested in Islam and kinda knowing that it's the truth. I always have supported him as much as I can, but he often has sided against me nor shown support, doing a lot of for like ''free'' for him, used to say nice words (can't say much anymore). Because of this, I have became less kind, I have lost a lot of trust in him, I'm kinda suspicious on him, more aggressive (generally). Basically it has touched heart a lot, but Allah (SWT) through me guided him to Islam in February/March 2013, made him stay away from secular trash, sects and supporting the right side (Y'all know who I mean). Together we have quit music, learned a lot of knowledge about Islam, learned how to pray, quit other sins as well and improve simply, all thanks to Allah (SWT). But yet seems like he doesn't even like me...
We have made a lot of duas, while sometimes we sometimes can have a good time, it's short and goes back how it was. Actually it hasn't been really good since middle of March 2013. The best time actually was when he wasn't even a Muslim. From then, somehow everything has went downhill. It was actually the best time... But it wasn't because he reverted, can't really say what. Is shaytan on us? I don't know. Is Allah (SWT) testing us? Is Allah (SWT) punishing us?
Also we plan to meet up in Finland (his country) after a month for 3-4 days, In Shaa Allah. (I'm from Latvia)
Well maybe this all looks too one sided, but he In Shaa Allah tomorrow will write about me. (I was giving permission to write it now, so we can see replies in the morning, In Shaa Allah)
Also maybe I made it now a bit too bad than it actually is, but that's because we are out of ideas and would like to see our family's (y'all) help. Any suggestions and also duas would be appreciated.
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