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  • Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

    The whole cutting ties thing.

    I know how big of a sin it is and I understand it however, if say someone hurt you and they never apologized, Why should one wish peace upon them when seeing out and about? Would a situation like this not be an exception to the cutting ties rule? I'm a forgiving person however some things are very hard to forgive, especially when the person never said sorry.
    Last edited by Faith1; 25-04-15, 08:21 PM.
    "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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    Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

    Originally posted by Faith1 View Post
    The whole cutting ties thing.. It's like haunting me :/

    I know how big of a sin it is and I understand it however, if say a relative hurt you and I don't mean something small but in a very serious way, and he never apologized, never even owned up to it.. Why should one wish peace upon him when seeing him out and about? Would a situation like this not be an exception to the cutting ties rule? I'm a forgiving person however some things are very hard to forgive, especially when the person never said sorry.
    :salams

    I don't think there are any exceptions for the cutting ties ruling.
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    Away for a bit :wavey:

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    • #3
      Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

      Wa alaykum assalam

      But why not? It's a choice for us to forgive others (though its definitely better to forgive than not) so I don't understand why I have to maintain ties... I'm a sincere person therefore if I really don't wish peace upon you, I'm not gonna greet you with it. I would always return the Salam bcos its obligatory but if someone hurt you in a horrible way, I don't see why I should have to say Salam to that person.
      "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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      • #4
        Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

        Originally posted by Faith1 View Post
        Wa alaykum assalam

        But why not? It's a choice for us to forgive others (though its definitely better to forgive than not) so I don't understand why I have to maintain ties... I'm a sincere person therefore if I really don't wish peace upon you, I'm not gonna greet you with it. I would always return the Salam bcos its obligatory but if someone hurt you in a horrible way, I don't see why I should have to say Salam to that person.
        Why not ?, because we are commanded not to sever family ties.
        You will have to speak to the person and try to resolve your issues. Don't think your doing it for them, your doing it for yourself to please Allah .
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        Away for a bit :wavey:

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        • #5
          Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

          It's more complicated than that.. Even if I do forgive him... I cant sit with him as if what he did wasnt so bad and It's also caused me a lot of problems but ok
          "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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            Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

            Originally posted by Faith1 View Post
            It's more complicated than that.. Even if I do forgive him... I cant sit with him as if what he did wasnt so bad and It's also caused me a lot of problems but ok
            I understand that, but remember things take time.
            Start with salams, and then from there :insha: things will improve. You don't have to invite him to dinner right away.
            A step at a time.
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            Away for a bit :wavey:

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            • #7
              Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

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              Last edited by Faith1; 21-07-14, 09:05 AM.
              "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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              • #8
                Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

                All you need to do is keep salams...that's it insha Allah. Take the most lenient option you were provided. Try to keep away from that person and his mischief.
                Humiliating people in the name of religion is the practice of someone deprived of the first fruit of religion, humility.-Nouman Ali Khan

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                • #9
                  Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

                  So until I say Salam to him, nothing I do counts for me? Like I feel no matter how much Quran I read, or how many times I pray etc that none of it is counting for me. Bcos of the whole cutting ties I feel Allah turned away from me (bcos of my own actions) and that devastates me
                  "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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                  • #10
                    Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

                    Originally posted by Faith1 View Post
                    So until I say Salam to him, nothing I do counts for me? Like I feel no matter how much Quran I read, or how many times I pray etc that none of it is counting for me. Bcos of the whole cutting ties I feel Allah turned away from me (bcos of my own actions) and that devastates me
                    Woa, do it like once a week/month, give a quick salams and then stay away from him as much as possible.....
                    Humiliating people in the name of religion is the practice of someone deprived of the first fruit of religion, humility.-Nouman Ali Khan

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                      Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

                      Yea
                      Last edited by Faith1; 21-07-14, 09:06 AM.
                      "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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                      • #12
                        Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

                        How could you wish peace to Yazid if you were to meet him ? How can you wish peace to mass murderers if you are to meet them?
                        Last edited by i.carrim; 25-11-13, 07:36 AM. Reason: meet instead of met

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                        • #13
                          Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

                          Idk who yazid is but that has nothing to do with anything...

                          Maintaining ties (at least by saying Salam) goes for family/relatives.. Not strangers or ghair mahrams
                          "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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                          • #14
                            Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

                            Originally posted by Faith1 View Post
                            The whole cutting ties thing.. It's like haunting me :/

                            I know how big of a sin it is and I understand it however, if say a relative hurt you and I don't mean something small but in a very serious way, and he never apologized, never even owned up to it.. Why should one wish peace upon him when seeing him out and about? Would a situation like this not be an exception to the cutting ties rule? I'm a forgiving person however some things are very hard to forgive, especially when the person never said sorry.
                            Because perhaps if you take the islamic route and ignore his sins against you, Allah would forgive one of your huge sins on al qiyama. That's reason enough to return his salams, even if you hate him.

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                              Re: Why should I have to wish peace to someone I don't want to?

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                              Last edited by Faith1; 21-07-14, 09:06 AM.
                              "Why Do We Fill Our Hearts With Everything But Allah And Expect Not To Fall Apart"

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