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  • .Hajar.
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    Originally posted by Ansaariyah View Post
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    u aint no mehmaan so no nawazi shawaazi for u :p

    so from diamond you have demoted me to gold? :(

    ..
    you should be happy voman, gold is synonymous with desi'ness..now don't tell me you've already forgotten that thread.. *sad*

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  • neelu
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    Thanks for the dhokla image, I've heard of them but never knew what they were.

    Sounds like it all went well with the guests then- it's nice that there were two gorgeously edible kids there:) I think as long as you put in a sincere effort you did good and the rest depends on what sort of guests you had. Some guests are snobby (as mentioned in the other 'bad guests' thread) that even if you serve them appropriate simple nice things they go to the gossip circuit complaining that you were a bad host for not giving them a five course meal on the finest crockery whereas other guests are reasonable and understanding.

    One time some years ago I organised an iftar dinner for some friends and some relatives who live locally. I hadn't really prepared a full meal for guests before as that was usually mum's department so this was new to me but I did my best. I think my mum was a bit embarrassed cos' although I made fairly good food but it wasn't as elaborate as the OTT lengths she was used to going to. Towards the end of the evening mum sheepishly approached my aunty and was trying to apologise for the food not meeting my mum's excessive standards and the aunty said the food was absolutely fine I don't know what you're apologising for and besides, there are very few people I know who are your daughter's age and can cook even the basic things you'd expect to find in a decent Pakistani meal I think she did really well (then came her inevitable quip to her own daughters "See! These are skills you should learn too!" :P ). My mum refuses to invite snobby demanding guests anyway so that makes life easier.

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  • i.badat
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    Originally posted by Ansaariyah View Post
    ahh we call it paatraa, and you do know its not easy to make yea?

    :alhumdull it went good
    Paatra! Thats what everyone else calls it! lol..we freeze them at home once they're boiled, ready for frying..

    EDIT: Not boiled, steamed..

    Yeh Dunya Bohot Choti Hai......
    Last edited by i.badat; 10-11-13, 06:25 PM.

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  • F_R
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    Awwwwwwww :masha: glad it went well for you

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  • Ansaariyah
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    Originally posted by Muslima London View Post
    Savouries

    Puff pastries, got time for that??
    Breadsticks n dips
    Pakora
    Egg fried rice/pasta

    N I was thinking about good rather then the washing up gloves :p
    pasta? PASTA? you call pasta as munchies? lol its a whole meal for me :p

    if you love me, you would help me, that sound so cheesy :o

    Originally posted by Meriadoc View Post
    Nachos :love:
    Or tortilla crisps with a choice of salsa and hummus (however you spell it- I love hummus).
    Or gathiya and bombay mix
    i browsed this thread in store and bought asian snacks lol shukran :)

    Originally posted by noobz View Post
    halwa
    gulab jaman
    laddoo
    they already had jamuns in dawat,


    Originally posted by neelu View Post
    I'd add some savoury stuff to that. Take ur pic: mini kebabs, roast tandoori drumsticks, baked spring rolls or mini filo samosas- stuff along those lines as well as a cake or biscuits. I dunno what khamar is so guessing ur not pakistani?
    yea not pakistani and khamar is dhokla basically yellow savoury cake?

    like this>> Click image for larger version

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    :jkk: them were some heavy suggestions :o

    Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
    Ukti....as much as hosting guests is a big sunnah and carries a great reward if done with the correct intentions, bear in mind the sunnah of simplicity.

    These days we go overboard when hosting and as guests we expect a lot too.

    Bear in mind they have probably had a lavish meal at a wedding.

    Dont hold back when hosting but do not go to extremes either.

    You'll be fine inshaAllah :love:
    jee, i agree, :alhumdull it went well atleast for me lol shukran :love:

    Originally posted by F_R View Post
    Dudey take some tips from these lot, the first bit about "bad host", we don't want you scaring away the guests or leaving a bad impression

    am gonna need tht clip SPECIFICALLY when you come over up north @)

    Originally posted by .Hajar. View Post
    :wswrwb:

    oh em gee!
    such mehman-nawazi for me!!

    my love for you increaseth mani-fold,
    you, my laKri, are pure gold ~~
    u aint no mehmaan so no nawazi shawaazi for u :p

    so from diamond you have demoted me to gold? :(

    Originally posted by .Hajar. View Post
    ps. chocolate toffees won't do, now molten lava cake..yumm!
    toffees are practical when you have to serve the masses and particularly for kids

    Originally posted by faatima18 View Post
    whatever you do, don't forget the shaax lol
    in cha Allaah i did not :o

    Originally posted by i.badat View Post
    Ali Radiyallahu anho - the occasion of Abu Zar radiyallahu anho accepting Islam.

    Everyday - Abdullah bin Umar Radiyallahu anho would not sit to eat unless he had a peraon to eat with. Because of this trait of his, the needy would line outside his house when he came home to eat. Seeing this, Abdullah bin Umar Radiyallahu anho would eat little and feed the needy. Once, the wife of Abdullah bin Umar radiyallahu Anho, fearing the lack of eating byher husband, told the needy to go away. When Abdullah bin Umar Radiyallahu anho came home and saw he had no one to eat with, he never ate what was made for him. (Hayaatus Sahabah, somewhere in volume 2)

    Thats the benchmark. How close/far are we...?

    Pateriya..I've forgot the other names that the gujjis of other villages use. Its corn flour-masala paste rolled in bay leaves, fried.

    Anyway, I hope it all went well!
    :sub: thats beautiful :jkk: for sharing

    ahh we call it paatraa, and you do know its not easy to make yea?

    :alhumdull it went good

    Originally posted by Fairy View Post
    how did it go
    Originally posted by whisperofimaan View Post
    I think you'll do awesome :up: hope it all went well inshaAllah :)
    :alhumdull i think i did good, no complaints from my side atleast lol they were suppose to come after dhuhr but being asian, they came nearly asr time so that give me good time to make cutlets.

    Most time iwas simply nodding head to whatever was said cos i couldnt understand their language well, so one lady asked me qibla direction and i llike a fool was nodding head and saying yes yes then when her DIL came to me with prayer mat, i realised shes asking for qibla :o they were makin fun of my broken gujji language lol

    one even had a quite chubby baby boy :masha: i could so bite his cheeks lol he drooled on my arms when i hold him and his sister shes a toddler she was sucha chatter box :masha: sat on my lap and started fidgeting with my fone having bunch of kids around was the best bit.

    over all i would mark meself 6.5 :fairy:

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  • Ya'sin
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    @ F_R That video me me laugh!!!

    I think I'm more of a bad guest than host :-/ I do the poking thing sometimes loool and playing your it!!!

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  • whisperofimaan
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    I think you'll do awesome :up: hope it all went well inshaAllah :)

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  • Fairy
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    how did it go

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  • i.badat
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    Originally posted by truepath
    people obviously are saying it seriously when they joking about locking the house and turning off the lights to avoid the guest... but this was a special character of sayyiduna Ibrahim alayhis salaam, whenever he used to sit to eat, he would invite a guest to have a meal with him. It comes about him that not a single day would pass that he would not have a guest that he would serve on his sufrah. A very special trait, I think something similar is said about Ali (ra) although not sure if was everyday in Ali (ra)'s case.
    Ali Radiyallahu anho - the occasion of Abu Zar radiyallahu anho accepting Islam.

    Everyday - Abdullah bin Umar Radiyallahu anho would not sit to eat unless he had a peraon to eat with. Because of this trait of his, the needy would line outside his house when he came home to eat. Seeing this, Abdullah bin Umar Radiyallahu anho would eat little and feed the needy. Once, the wife of Abdullah bin Umar radiyallahu Anho, fearing the lack of eating byher husband, told the needy to go away. When Abdullah bin Umar Radiyallahu anho came home and saw he had no one to eat with, he never ate what was made for him. (Hayaatus Sahabah, somewhere in volume 2)

    Thats the benchmark. How close/far are we...?

    Originally posted by Ansaariyah View Post
    what is pateriya? :scratch:

    they will be here for couple of hours, and i wont be alone all the time, but only at the beginning when i have to serve snacks and drinks, i will be alone as my fam will be @walimah venue.
    Pateriya..I've forgot the other names that the gujjis of other villages use. Its corn flour-masala paste rolled in bay leaves, fried.

    Anyway, I hope it all went well!

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  • faatima18
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    Last edited by faatima18; 10-11-13, 09:56 AM.

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  • .Hajar.
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    ps. chocolate toffees won't do, now molten lava cake..yumm!

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  • .Hajar.
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    :wswrwb:

    oh em gee!
    such mehman-nawazi for me!!

    my love for you increaseth mani-fold,
    you, my laKri, are pure gold ~~

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  • F_R
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    Dudey take some tips from these lot, the first bit about "bad host", we don't want you scaring away the guests or leaving a bad impression

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  • Jenicca
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    Ukti....as much as hosting guests is a big sunnah and carries a great reward if done with the correct intentions, bear in mind the sunnah of simplicity.

    These days we go overboard when hosting and as guests we expect a lot too.

    Bear in mind they have probably had a lavish meal at a wedding.

    Dont hold back when hosting but do not go to extremes either.

    You'll be fine inshaAllah :love:

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  • Rebel101
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    Originally posted by truepath View Post
    people obviously are saying it seriously when they joking about locking the house and turning off the lights to avoid the guest... but this was a special character of sayyiduna Ibrahim alayhis salaam, whenever he used to sit to eat, he would invite a guest to have a meal with him. It comes about him that not a single day would pass that he would not have a guest that he would serve on his sufrah. A very special trait, I think something similar is said about Ali (ra) although not sure if was everyday in Ali (ra)'s case.
    LOL I'm referring to the un-wanted guests, like the same preachers that never want to stop talking or hear your side, advertisers that want to make money of you and drunk-heads that want to use the ''phone''.

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