Saving my female friend

[Ryanz]

Re: Saving my female friend

I'm back!

It might be that shaytan is just playing with your mind, trying to give you an "excuse" to talk with her some more. You say that you're thinking about her all the time, that's not good.

My intention is to save her, not fulfill my passion... But, if I can't, it's fine, I'm tired...

i agree

Maybe, you can get some islamic literature and just give them to her. Just give them, walk away. no need for chit chat.............oh sister, you need to read this, yes sure - meet me after school so we can discuss or better still just leave it on her desk

Somehow you say "Yes", to my previous question: Is it okay if I'm sending her a text with something like "don't go near me, don't go near any boys, don't do anything that could put you to hell" ?

Stay her friend, leave when she is doing haram. Every day give her a spoonful of stuff to pull her away from that life, thats what I do with my non-muslim friends.

How did you do that? Is your friends is a boy or a girl?
I really can't get too close to her, she could overly attached to me, this was happened to me once, long time ago...
Somehow, you also said "Yes" to my previous question...

So being friends with someone you're not attracted to is okay? :scratch:

I didn't really like hanging out with girls, but this is school, boys and girls, they're all my friends... I just keep everything under control...

Ma sha' Allah it is very kind of you to care for your sister in Islam. Instead of texting her can you maybe tell a female teacher that the girl might be subjecting herself to peer pressure. Naivety and wanting to be with the 'cool kids' can surely get one in trouble.
Apart from that distance yourself from anything that can lead to haraam.

And remember the hadeeth that aas mentioned by brother hadid.

May Allah reward you, and keep you and us steadfast.

Amen :)
I can't do a serious talk with every people (I guess), that's why I'm an ignorant...


I got another idea... What if, I send her a message (on twitter, she's there), but with an account that doesn't show myself... Is that okay?

Remember, her childish personality makes her easily affected with bad things, she's getting worst, that's why I wanted to help her, no other reason...

The last thing I wanna do is "ignore her until we're both graduated and never met again", because I'm getting tired from all of this "helping stuff"...
Just like Muslima London said "You can't save her. Only she can save herself from hellfire but that comes with allah's mercy", and ignoring helps...

[Muslima London]

Re: Saving my female friend

Texting leads to one text n another n then another

Just give her some books.
Leave them on her desk/ locker whatever

[Ryanz]

Re: Saving my female friend

Texting leads to one text n another n then another

Just give her some books.
Leave them on her desk/ locker whatever

That's the problem... We have a moving class system, changing class, desk, and sit, everytime, no locker, the only thing that permanent to her is her bag, which is placed in a class full of my other classmate, sorry I should've told that before...

I'm gonna send her a url, a link, or a site with islamic literature... I won't send anything other than that, I promise...
Please don't think I fell in love to her, I've been holding something like that for my whole life and will keep doing that until I have my wife or until I die, whichever comes first...
This is the last thing I could think of, the other thing is ignore her forever... I can't talk to her because I can't do a serious talk...

[rainbow*~]

Re: Saving my female friend

Please don't think I fell in love to her, I've been holding something like that for my whole life and will keep doing that until I have my wife or until I die, whichever comes first...
This is the last thing I could think of, the other thing is ignore her forever... I can't talk to her because I can't do a serious talk...

Aww that's cute :inlove: but remember bro sometimes we don't have control over who we do/don't fall in love with it just happens. I'd still be weary and guard my heart.

In a similar predicament as you tbh with that respect. Really want to tell these girls I know that guys and girls can't just be friends in Islam but don't know how to go about it. I'm worried they'll think that I'm just jealous that they have guy mates and thus more male attention, when that's not really the case. I used to have guy friends before too but I learnt my lesson, male-female friendships are a slippery slope.

[neelu]

Re: Saving my female friend

I think you should approach her with some sincere advice. You don't need to get close to her to do that as that sounds like more trouble than its worth.

[Ryanz]

Re: Saving my female friend

Aww that's cute :inlove: but remember bro sometimes we don't have control over who we do/don't fall in love with it just happens. I'd still be weary and guard my heart.

In a similar predicament as you tbh with that respect. Really want to tell these girls I know that guys and girls can't just be friends in Islam but don't know how to go about it. I'm worried they'll think that I'm just jealous that they have guy mates and thus more male attention, when that's not really the case. I used to have guy friends before too but I learnt my lesson, male-female friendships are a slippery slope.

I think you should approach her with some sincere advice. You don't need to get close to her to do that as that sounds like more trouble than its worth.

Well, It's kinda similar to you, rainbow*~ ...
In my case, If I tell her or approach her with some sincere advice (as neelu said), I'm worried that she might think "Oh, so you do have feelings for me"
Her childish personality will make it worse...
My character will also make it worse, because I never talk serious to anyone... never talk serious because I was known like that by everyone...
I ever express my feelings to a girl once (when I was 10th grade), it end with unhappy ending (of course)...
That's why I never express my feelings to anyone...

Anyone agree with my "mysterious message plan"?
The plan is... I make a twitter account, that does not have my name on it... send her a url/link/websites of an Islamic literature that she need... that's it... no other thing...

I'm very confident that I can control my emotion or feelings... It is very easy :)

[Muslima London]

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Well, It's kinda similar to you, rainbow*~ ...
In my case, If I tell her or approach her with some sincere advice (as neelu said), I'm worried that she might think "Oh, so you do have feelings for me"
Her childish personality will make it worse...
My character will also make it worse, because I never talk serious to anyone... never talk serious because I was known like that by everyone...
I ever express my feelings to a girl once (when I was 10th grade), it end with unhappy ending (of course)...
That's why I never express my feelings to anyone...

Anyone agree with my "mysterious message plan"?
The plan is... I make a twitter account, that does not have my name on it... send her a url/link/websites of an Islamic literature that she need... that's it... no other thing...

I'm very confident that I can control my emotion or feelings... It is very easy :)

NO, you think its gonna be easy but the shaitan is a very enemy of ours, always giving us ideas and making us go that little bit step forward in sinning.

Look, if you donot do anything fine. The best thing you can do for a fellow muslim is pray for them.

personally - what i'm picking up here is ..........you seem to be a bit fixated by her and are using this excuse to get close to her. If i've got that right - then pls accept my apologies

[Ryanz]

Re: Saving my female friend

NO, you think its gonna be easy but the shaitan is a very enemy of ours, always giving us ideas and making us go that little bit step forward in sinning.

Look, if you donot do anything fine. The best thing you can do for a fellow muslim is pray for them.

personally - what i'm picking up here is ..........you seem to be a bit fixated by her and are using this excuse to get close to her. If i've got that right - then pls accept my apologies

I said it's 80:20, so I am kinda fixated, I got fixated because this girl, she's really put herself on the edge of a cliff... Making me feels like "Oh, God please save her"...
In my plan, I won't tell my name, that's why I won't get close to her... The purpose is to save her, not to get close to her... I also wanted to send that thing, to my other friends who also put their life on the edge of a hell, that way I could affect them with a good Islamic literature... It's okay right?