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    Assalamu alaykum warahmatallahi wabarakahtu




    Recently, I found out that my brother, who is a "muslim", drinks khamr (beer) through facebook. I told my parents about this and we all sat down together. there was a huge discussion about his school work and how beer is going to affect his life. He hasnt been praying for a few months so we talked about that..Then we started talking about deen. we asked him,

    "Do you believe in islam?"

    he said yes

    "Do you have any doubts? of islam?"

    he said "no, I know its the truth"

    " so why do you do the haraam?"

    he said " because I dont care even though I know its the truth."

    Then we tell him that aren't you scared of jahannam? he told us that he knows what he's doing is wrong islamically ,but he doesn't mind entering jahannam. he says he doesnt CARE enough. He says " if i enter jahannam i will accept all my responsibilities". ya allah please guide him

    So basically he accepted the idea that he will enter jahannam....It breaks my heart. what can I do brothers and sisters?

  • #2
    Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

    Tell him that jahannam is not temparory but permanent. And it's not a detention room where they tell you to say 'I'm sorry' 1,000 times. Rather, it's just sever punishment for eternity.

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    • #3
      Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

      i did tell him that, but he said he doesnt care. I just don't understand his mindset. How could anyone NOT CARE ABOUT ENTERING JAHANAMM. it scares me wallahi

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      • #4
        Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

        Maybe....

        Go here http://www.kalamullah.com/anwar-alawlaki.html

        Scroll down to the Hereafter Series & download it. Listen to the series yourself and pick out what you think are the most likely lectures to affect your brother.

        THEN: Let your choices play through your PC speakers continually while your brother is in the house & in'sha'Allah they'll quietly melt your brother's heart until it is soft again.

        Do not tell him to "sit & listen to this!!" Let him hear it as background noise. You're listening to it not him (wink wink) He's just over-hearing by accident.
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        • #5
          Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

          He hasn't tasted anything yet he's still a kid. Once he gets himself into a serious situation then hell change his position trust me when I tell you.

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          • #6
            Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

            It seems as if there is an outsider influence to his behaviour.

            Has he got friends and what kind of friends are they?

            And how old is he?
            Bye...

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            • #7
              Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

              So far you've done well to speak to him about this, but my hunch is that he's probably just going through a rebellious phase that he will eventually grow out of.

              What you could do is continue to try to speak to him but also be there for him- make sure whatever he's doing, he's safe (ie. no drink driving, getting involved in ASB etc). The last thing you or he will want is involvement from authorities or some kind of police record.
              "Think for yourselves and let others enjoy the privilege to do so too" Essay on Tolerance, Voltaire

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              • #8
                Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

                Make him read this:

                1.Kufr ul-'Inad: Disbelief out of stubborness. This applies to someone who knows the truth and admits to knowing the truth and admits to knowing it with his tongue, but refuses to accept it and refrains from making a declaration. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "Throw into Hell every stubborn disbeliever." [Surah Qaf (50), ayah 24]

                2.Kufr ul-Inkar: Disbelief out of denial. This applies to someone who denies with both heart and tongue. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "They recognize the favors of Allah, yet they deny them. Most of them are disbelievers." [Surah Nahl (16), ayah 83]

                3.Kufr ul-Kibr: Disbelief out of arrogance and pride. The disbelief by the devils (e.g. Iblis) is an example of this type of kufr.

                4.Kufr ul-Juhud: Disbelief out of rejection.This applies to someone who aknowledges the truth in his heart, but rejects it with his tongue. This types of kufr is applicable to those who calls themselves Muslims but who reject any necessary and accepted norms of Islam such as salat and zakat. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "They denied them (i.e. the signs) even though their hearts believed in them, out of spite and arrogance." [Surah Naml (27), ayah 14]

                5.Kufr ul-Nifaq: Disbelief out of hypocrisy.This applies to someone who pretends to be a believer but conceals his disbelief. Such a person is called a munafiq or hypocrite. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "Verily the hypocrites will be in the lowest depths of Hell. You will find no one to help them." [SurahAn-Nisa (4), ayah 145]

                6.Kufr ul-Istihal: Disbelief out of trying to make haram into halal. This applies to someone who accepts as lawful (halal) that which Allah has made unlawful (haram) like alcohol or adultery. Only Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, has the prerogative to make things halal and haram and those who seek to interfere with His right are like rivals to Him and therefore fall outside the boundries of faith.

                7.Kufr ul-Kurh: Disbelief out of detesting any of Allah's Commands. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "Perdition (destruction) has been consigned to those who disbelieve and He will render their actions void. This is because they are averse to that which Allah has revealed so He has made their actions fruitless." [Surah Muhammad (47), ayah 8-9]

                8.Kufr ul-Istihzaha: Disbelief due to mockery and derision. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "Say: Was it at Allah, His signs and His apostles that you were mocking? Make no excuses. You have disbelieved after you have believed." [Surah Taubah (9), ayah 65-66]

                9.Kufr ul-I'radh: Disbelief due to avoidance. This applies to those who turn away and avoid the truth. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "And who is more unjust than he who is reminded of his Lord's Signs but then turns away from them. Then he forgets what he has sent forward (for the Day of Judgment)." [Surah Kahf (18), ayah 57]

                10.Kufr ul-Istibdal: Disbelief because of trying to substitute Allah's Laws. This could take the form of (a) rejection of Allah's Law (shari'ah) without denying it, (b) denial of Allah's law and therefore rejecting it, or (c) substituting Allah's laws with man-made laws. Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "Or have they partners with Allah who have instituted for them a religion which Allah has not allowed." [Surah Shura (42), ayah 8] Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says, "Say not concerning that which your tongues put forth falsely (that) is lawful and this is forbidden so as to invent a lie against Allah. Verily, those who invent a lie against Allah will never prosper." [Surah Nahl (16), ayah 116]

                Source: Adapted from Tafsir ibn Kathir
                Knowing it is the truth doesn't stop someone being a Kaffir. Might seem harsh but hey that's the bottomline.
                By Him in whose Hand is the Soul of Muhammad, there is not one from the nations of the Jews and the Christians who hears about me and then dies while he has not believed in what I have been sent with except that he will be one of the companions of the Fire”. (Reported by Muslim in kitaabul Imaan)
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                • #9
                  Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

                  problem is...he's 22. he's a grown man and im scared he won't grow out of this phase. He always goes out with his friends and comes back at around 3-4 am. He has lots of non muslim-arab friends. I feel like they are influencing him too much as ive seen posts from him saying he went to a hookah bar with them. In High school he was socially awkward but when he hit college and met these arab friends he changed 180 degrees.

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                  • #10
                    Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

                    Originally posted by hamza823 View Post
                    problem is...he's 22. he's a grown man and im scared he won't grow out of this phase. He always goes out with his friends and comes back at around 3-4 am. He has lots of non muslim-arab friends. I feel like they are influencing him too much as ive seen posts from him saying he went to a hookah bar with them. In High school he was socially awkward but when he hit college and met these arab friends he changed 180 degrees.
                    I knew it would be friends. Well tell him straight since he is old enough to understand. Tell him to stop sucking up to his "friends" which are not going to benefit him now or ever.

                    But as a brother try to be patient but subtly continue to lead him to the right way because those friends are probably going to leave him in a state and atleast he will have you to come back to.
                    Bye...

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                    • #11
                      Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

                      Originally posted by hamza823 View Post
                      Assalamu alaykum warahmatallahi wabarakahtu




                      Recently, I found out that my brother, who is a "muslim", drinks khamr (beer) through facebook. I told my parents about this and we all sat down together. there was a huge discussion about his school work and how beer is going to affect his life. He hasnt been praying for a few months so we talked about that..Then we started talking about deen. we asked him,

                      "Do you believe in islam?"

                      he said yes

                      "Do you have any doubts? of islam?"

                      he said "no, I know its the truth"

                      " so why do you do the haraam?"

                      he said " because I dont care even though I know its the truth."

                      Then we tell him that aren't you scared of jahannam? he told us that he knows what he's doing is wrong islamically ,but he doesn't mind entering jahannam. he says he doesnt CARE enough. He says " if i enter jahannam i will accept all my responsibilities". ya allah please guide him

                      So basically he accepted the idea that he will enter jahannam....It breaks my heart. what can I do brothers and sisters?
                      sss

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                      • #12
                        Re: My brother doesn't care about islam

                        Honestly, all you can do is to pray for him. Ask Allah to guide him and to save him from the hell fire. Believe me this will help. Also, maybe he doesn't understand Islam very much so if possible, just teach him. Also pray to Allah to protect him from the Shaytan. Remember to be patient. This may seem like very small advice but believe me this is a lot and Inshallah, Allah will protect him.

                        I ask Allah to guide your brother and bring him back to the straight path.

                        Assalamu Alykum

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