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    I'm tired of dunya. I always had ''extreme social anxiety''. I don't wanna go on details because it will take time to explain the problems I faced throughout my life and still facing it. (My problems aren't very simple as some of you might think, you would understand if you were in my shoes). All I could say is that my mentality is too different from others, I feel lost and disconnected. I don't know how to communicate with people properly and I can't socialize with people. I'm always alone. Everyone looks down at me and tell me that I'm a useless human being. Tell me how can you survive with extreme psychological issue? I made thousands of supplications to Allah, so that he can guide me and free me from this darkness I'm living in. Nobody helps me, not even my parents. I cry every night to Allah, and there's no response from him. I keep begging Allah to give me intellect and make me normal like everyone else. Has he forgotten me? What did I do? Is there any du'as where I can ask Him to take my life and lift me from this dunya?
    Last edited by shinee; 31-01-13, 11:47 PM.

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    Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

    Allah(swt) always hears and accepts your du'as, and He never forgets about anyone. Stay firm and InchaAllah you'll get rewarded plenty for your trials. I suggest you find anyinterest/hobby to keep yourself from feeling alone, you have to be interested in something. What makes you happy? On your profile you've written that you enjoy weightlifting, that's good, maybe it can help you strengthen your self confidence. You should also focus on your school, try to get a good career and things will get easier. Sorry for not being to much help, can't really say I'm good at talking myself, but I felt I should atleast try.

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    • #3
      Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

      Originally posted by Hadid View Post
      Allah(swt) always hears and accepts your du'as, and He never forgets about anyone. Stay firm and InchaAllah you'll get rewarded plenty for your trials. I suggest you find anyinterest/hobby to keep yourself from feeling alone, you have to be interested in something. What makes you happy? On your profile you've written that you enjoy weightlifting, that's good, maybe it can help you strengthen your self confidence. You should also focus on your school, try to get a good career and things will get easier. Sorry for not being to much help, can't really say I'm good at talking myself, but I felt I should atleast try.
      Salam brother, I appreciate what you suggested me to do, but it doesn't seem simple as it sounds. Please search ''Social Anxiety Disorder'' on google. You'll get the info.

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      • #4
        Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

        No matter how hard life gets, you will pull through If you put your trust in Allah. Always remember there's people in much worst situation in life. People that over come hardship come out much stronger. Have faith in Allah. There's people that right about now going throug abuse, some starving, some are don't have nothing yet are so thankful. Non of us know, or understand what you are going through, but as your sister all I can tell you is, what ever you are going through will come to an end, nothing in life is permanent! "Allah tests those who he loves"
        Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe" and they will not be tried? But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars."(Surah ankabut)

        Also remember the best of creations were the prophet and they had so much tests, may Allah make things easy for you!

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        • #5
          Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

          If you wish to die then there is a dua that you can make. I can't remember the exact words but it's something like asking that Allah (swt) only takes you from this world when you are worthy of Jannah- something along those lines anyway. Then leave the matter in Allah's (swt) hands that HE will decide when is the better time for you to leave this world and if you're still here then it means you still have work to do in proving your worthiness of Jannah so you should preoccupy your time with that.

          I hope that didn't sound confusing but the bottom line is that even if you want to die and this life feels unbearable you need to leave it in Allah's (swt) hands to decide when your time has come. If Allah (swt) agrees with you and decides to kill you off tonight, then it'll happen whether you try to commit suicide or not and that would be easy for Allah (swt) to give you a random aneurism or haemorrage or something without you incurring any sin for trying to take matters into your own hands (can you tell I've thought about this lol?).
          The Lyme Disease pandemic: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5u73ME4sVU

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            Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

            Originally posted by neelu View Post
            If you wish to die then there is a dua that you can make. I can't remember the exact words but it's something like asking that Allah (swt) only takes you from this world when you are worthy of Jannah- something along those lines anyway. Then leave the matter in Allah's (swt) hands that HE will decide when is the better time for you to leave this world and if you're still here then it means you still have work to do in proving your worthiness of Jannah so you should preoccupy your time with that.

            I hope that didn't sound confusing but the bottom line is that even if you want to die and this life feels unbearable you need to leave it in Allah's (swt) hands to decide when your time has come. If Allah (swt) agrees with you and decides to kill you off tonight, then it'll happen whether you try to commit suicide or not and that would be easy for Allah (swt) to give you a random aneurism or haemorrage or something without you incurring any sin for trying to take matters into your own hands (can you tell I've thought about this lol?).

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            • #7
              Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

              Originally posted by shinee View Post
              I'm tired of dunya. I always had ''extreme social anxiety''. I don't wanna go on details because it will take time to explain the problems I faced throughout my life and still facing it. (My problems aren't very simple as some of you might think, you would understand if you were in my shoes). All I could say is that my mentality is too different from others, I feel lost and disconnected. I don't know how to communicate with people properly and I can't socialize with people. I'm always alone. Everyone looks down at me and tell me that I'm a useless human being. Tell me how can you survive with extreme psychological issue? I made thousands of supplications to Allah, so that he can guide me and free me from this darkness I'm living in. Nobody helps me, not even my parents. I cry every night to Allah, and there's no response from him. I keep begging Allah to give me intellect and make me normal like everyone else. Has he forgotten me? What did I do? Is there any du'as where I can ask Him to take my life and lift me from this dunya?
              Brother I made a very good post in your previous thread. Please try out what I have set. You can conquer any challenge or task. First you have to believe in yourself.

              I'm telling you. If you keep telling yourself that you're useless, then that's how it's gonna be. Also, stuff the haters. Ignore what others say. You gotta develop a thick skin.

              You can choose to grow, day by day. Or you can choose not to. The choice is yours.

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              • #8
                Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                It's a strange dua to make considering we are going to die anyway.

                Make dua for something else.

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                • #9
                  Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                  Listen to the beautiful Quran recitation, it might make you feel better, and might even heal you

                  http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vH6raiHDx6k

                  Al-Isra (17)

                  82 And We send down of the Qur'an that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe (in Islamic Monotheism and act on it), and it increases the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers) nothing but loss.


                  Listen to the Quran and also read the translations on a daily bases, it helped me in times of extreme difficulty.
                  Last edited by ukhan0888; 01-02-13, 05:00 AM.
                  Game over. I'am out. sorry for my wierd posts

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                  • #10
                    Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                    Originally posted by TheNamesMalik View Post
                    Let not one of you wish for death because of a misfortune which befalls him. If he cannot help doing so, he should say: ‘O Allah, keep me alive as long as You know that life is better for me, and make me die when death is better for me”.
                    [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
                    :jkk: :up:
                    http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                    "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

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                    • #11
                      Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                      :salams

                      May Allah Grant You Ease.

                      Unfortunately death is just another process to another world, and it does not end your pain, if anything committing suicide will put you in a place much worst then your current situation. Death is not the end of anything, its quite well the opposite.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                        I believe a lot of people can relate to your situation, maybe not the full extent, but you must understand you aren't alone. Nor are you the only one going through difficulties.

                        Everyone goes through difficulties, some people just handle them better.

                        To tackle your loneliness, I would say you need to drop everything, make sincere tawbah and really try to form a good strong relationship with Allah. I'm not saying we don't need human company, we do, we are social beings at the end of the day, but firstly you need to sort out this relationship with Allah.

                        Start with salaah, when reciting al Fatiha, really mean it, especially iyyaka na'budu wa iyyaka nasta'een. Mean it.

                        Read books about the sahaba, make them your friends, you know I sit in dars whilst being taught seerah and nothing makes me happier, reading about people who I love and I hope to meet one day, that feeling in my heart is the best feeling. Study Qur'an, just decide you want to be different from everyone and start memorising, take classes.. Start a new project, or it may not even have to be Islam related, take an extra class, you're bound to meet people. And don't feel like you can't socialise, you can.

                        Trust me okay, I don't know your age or anything, but I'm an adult now and the years I wasted feeling like a loser through school cause I was 'socially detached' from society was a complete waste. I don't care if I'm uneducated in their eyes or I'm weird or a loser even, you too will realise that once you're over that phase.

                        Count Allah's favours on you, 1) He gave you life 2) He gave you imaan 3) He gave you a chance to be from ahlul Jannah... take that chance.

                        Now if you still want to die, rasoolullah :saw: said none of you should ever wish for death, but, if it gets too much, you can ask Allah to keep you alive for as long as it is best for you.

                        And one thing, if you're crying to Allah at night always, keep doing that, you can cry your heart out to Allah, you can tell Him everything, and He will listen and He will answer.. We fail to realise who we are dealing with, and how mighty and powerful He really is. Never ever lose hope in Him.

                        May Allah ease your situation.
                        Last edited by Hamnah; 01-02-13, 09:12 AM.
                        اذاً لن يضيعنا الله

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                        • #13
                          Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                          Make this du'aa: oh Allah, if death is better for me, then ordain it for me, but if life is better then ordain it for me and cause me to be pleased with it

                          This way, Allah decides weather death is in fact better than the misery you're going through in life.

                          And don't forget to continually repent.
                          "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor."

                          "Nothing protects the rights of the minority like the tyranny of the majority"

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                          • #14
                            Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                            may Allah ease your affairs, thread starter, but giving up is not the answer

                            remember 'when the going gets tough, the tough get going'

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                              Re: Is it haram to wish to die?

                              ^Now that song is playing in my head lol!
                              The Lyme Disease pandemic: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5u73ME4sVU

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