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  • Gabril
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    Germany is more islamic than my own so-called islamic homeland morocco.
    I'm also muslima and was born in Germany and live there and no one ever molested me at school or even came to the idea to abuse me.
    I can follow my belief as I want to. No one hinders me.

    You should move to Western Germany. There are islamic kindergardens, islamic institutions, masjids everywhere.
    Your child is still young, try to spend more time with her, teach her about islamic principles, visit with her masjid, there you can also contact other muslimas with children, so you and your child really won't feel alone.

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    just becuase one is bad doesn't mean they all are- sister just pray for guidence with Allah as your protector and friend you will never be one of the losers in this life

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  • alam_biwi
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    Salam aleikum,

    thank u very much for your duas and wishes. It Is very nice and Im surprised that you all wrote.
    I just came home from work. Well, my brother in law came here on Friday. We had lots of discussion. My husband doesnt want to get divorced but wants to live on his own. Pretty strange. But it will be ok inshallah. I still have my job and my kids. So Im alone with them now and I can handle this. But sisters, I dont ever want a husband again.

    wa salam Amina

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    Ameen

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  • Muslimah56
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    Sobhan Allah Sophiya, I am not to answer on the sister's behalf but Alhamdulelah u made a point, Alhamdulelah, may Allah arrange her matters and all of our matters in the best way through His Wisdom which we can never fully realize.

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    sister this my sound rude or weird but i don't mean to cause offense- but you have been praying to allah to help you resolve the situation about your duaghter moving to pakistan- and in some weird way your dua has been answered becuase now you are not sending your duaghter to pakistan. sometimes we like what is bad for us and sometimes we hate what is good for us. sister this is a test and with allah you will pass it. may allah give you the strength to come through this and raise your duaghters in an islamic way.ameen

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  • Lateafha
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    Originally posted by alam_biwi
    Salam aleikum,

    thanks for your support. The things are still not solved. I had lots of trouble lately.
    I cannot send the girls to Pakistan. My husband left our marriage, he went to his brother. So Im alone now with my kids. Dont know what to do....

    wa salam
    SubhanaAllah Sister, I pray that Allah gives you someone better in return for what you have lost.

    May Allah set your affairs in order sister, and Ameen to egyptianmuslimah's dua's May Allah accept them ameen.

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  • Muslimah56
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    Insh a Allah sister Allah will replace with a better husband, see it is not necessarily he is a bad person or u r a bad woman, no but probably your mutual role for each other ended.

    The points AbuM brought will be very helpful as well, Insh aAllah bit by bit apply it on your daughters.
    May Allah protect them and all Muslim children around the world, we are all suffering sister all of us Alhamdulelah, if we dont, then (astghfer Allah) Quran will not be true hadeeth will not be true.
    But they are true.
    Alhamdulelah

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  • alam_biwi
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    @ egyptianmuslima

    al hamdu lillah thank u
    i will do it inshallah....

    wa salam

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  • AbuMubarak
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    Dear Concerned,

    Due to dire necessity and over-emphasized importance of the following topic,
    we've dedicated a special program for our fellows examining this matter. We
    share the gist of our findings for everyone's benefit.

    [With respect to political correctness in gender, "girls" were mentioned due to
    the perspective of "boys," who participated in the program. It's understood
    that the reverse is true for girls also.]


    TITLE: "Analysis of Our Temptations Toward Girls and Its Solution"


    1. PROBLEM/REALITY:

    - It's a natural tendency to be attracted; it's an undeniable fact
    - it's always bad, but specially in summer, it's worse
    - going back to homeland won't help because the same problem exists there too
    - the most difficult thing to control is "imagination"
    - exposing dress is a problem everywhere: billboards, ads etc.
    - peer pressure is tough to resist
    - married ones are also susceptible to fall short


    2. POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS:

    2.1 GENERAL

    - lower your gaze (everytime, everywhere)
    - always remember Allaah--consciously; remember death and the life after it
    - busy yourself with good activities/learning
    - increase Islamic knowledge, thereby have stronger conviction
    - know the proper etiquettes and limits of communication with opposite gender
    - know about this friend-like enemy of yours: shaytaan
    you've gotta fight him till the last breath
    - keep in mind that in order to find someone with piety/good character,
    you must be the same
    - openly discuss with parents/trusted elders regarding these issues
    - watch out for friends who are crossing the line (be bold and firm)
    - avoid all songs/dramas/movies/novels that MAY provoke such feelings
    - avoid TV totally if possible, otherwise watch together with good folks
    - use the internet cautiously: block pop-ups, stay focused,
    place the computer where others can see
    - perform the 5 daily prayers: on time, with full concentration
    - perform extra fasting if needed
    - don't put yourself in a test: simply avoid any testing of your character


    2.2 IN SCHOOLS/COLLEGES

    - from the very first day, present yourself as a good Muslim
    - sit in the first row; sit besides boys
    - try hard to have a lab/study partner of the same gender
    - have the contact info. of a boy in case you miss a class
    - if missing notes, ask from boys; if not, ask directly from the instructor
    - with educational interest, you may look at your teacher of opposite gender,
    but in case any other feelings arise, you must lower your gaze
    - don't make a negative impression of Islam
    if you wear a cap, for God's sake, don't hang around with girls


    2.3 MARRIAGE

    - plan what kind of girl to marry (to have a fixed vision/concentration)
    - engagement is NOT marriage, both parties are still strangers until
    actual marriage
    - getting engaged earlier may help, but it may create even more problems,
    making it difficult for both parties to stay within the limit
    - marry at the earliest possible age--whenever one is ready in all aspects
    - physical + mental + financial abilities are necessary in order to marry
    - don't fantasize about love, think about RESPONSIBILITY as well
    - if two spouses are in two different places, unite as soon as possible
    - don't let often-seen dramatic movies/stories blind you, life is real,
    so face it with courage, wisdom and conviction

    - Last but not least, always ask Allaah to guide you to the right path!



    please also visit our other group http://groups.yahoo.com/group/islam_...anding_4_teens if u like :). Meet Teens and youth, exchange your views about Islam and discuss various issues releted to Teens and Youth in Islam.

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  • Muslimah56
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    as salam alykom sister
    la hawla wala qowata ila billah, u hang on sister to the rope of Allah, make much dua and dhikr, use astaghfer Allah alzeem a lot, also la hawla wala qowata ila billah al`alyee al azeem, la ilaha ila anta subhanak ini kuntu mina zalemeen.
    Insh a Allah Allah will find u a way out soon from sources that u dont expect.

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  • alam_biwi
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    Salam aleikum,

    thanks for your support. The things are still not solved. I had lots of trouble lately.
    I cannot send the girls to Pakistan. My husband left our marriage, he went to his brother. So Im alone now with my kids. Dont know what to do....

    wa salam

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  • akhtar
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    salaam

    Why not move to a place where there are more muslims? Even if its another country? Come to the UK sister. That way you get to stay together as a family. Don't send her to Pakistan all alone, I fear you'll regret it in the future.

    this sounds like the best idea to me, if possible of course

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  • Khawlah
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    assalaam alaikum,

    Why not move to a place where there are more muslims? Even if its another country? Come to the UK sister. :) That way you get to stay together as a family. Don't send her to Pakistan all alone, I fear you'll regret it in the future.

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  • Muslimah56
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    as salam alykom
    one important point is that the in laws they are going to live with are not blood relatives, thus male members are non mahram, to the best of my knowledge, this would be haram.
    Take this in consideration, try to solve the problem according to what Allah pleases. I think Mash aAllah the rest of the replies covers the situation as much as possible.

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