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Salams,
The question in the title isn't very clear. What I'm asking is, is it haram to pay for a meal (where every person present pays the same amount) when the group has also bought alcohol and dishes with pork? I am of course NOT drinking the alcohol and those dishes that contain pork, but other people are. The people I'm with are non-Muslims. I'm a part of some clubs/organizations where it is expected that after our meetings/activities are over, we sometimes go and eat together. It is expected that we attend these after-activities gatherings...at least some of the time.
To be more specific, I live in South Korea and am a part of a few university clubs (or dongari/동아리)...and social customs and expectations are regarded very highly here. Since South Korea is still a relatively homogenous society, they are used to people following the group-mentality, or in this case, even if I didn't eat everything (like the pork or alcohol), I am still expected to pay the same amount that everyone else pays (unless the person in charge at that time happens to be more open-minded and understanding of other cultures and people).
I know that it is haram to purchase alcohol....but in this context..is it still considered that I payed for alcohol? I try to ask if I can pay less than everyone else ( unless I get this 1 particular sort of vice-president who seems quite strict about the whole everyone-pays-the-same-amount type of deal...and I have tried reasoning with her...but she can be quite adamant about it...unfortunately, she is usually the one in charge of money at these gatherings)... in this case, where I pay less than everyone else, would it be considered that I payed for alcohol?
The things we buy are dishes that are shared among several people, so there's nothing that I really just ordered and bought for myself.
So, 2 questions
1) If I pay the same amount as everyone else...is it considered like I payed for alcohol?
2) If I pay less than everyone else...is it considered like I payed for alcohol?
It would be great to hear what other Muslims think, thank you! :)
Wsalams,
your sister in Islam
The question in the title isn't very clear. What I'm asking is, is it haram to pay for a meal (where every person present pays the same amount) when the group has also bought alcohol and dishes with pork? I am of course NOT drinking the alcohol and those dishes that contain pork, but other people are. The people I'm with are non-Muslims. I'm a part of some clubs/organizations where it is expected that after our meetings/activities are over, we sometimes go and eat together. It is expected that we attend these after-activities gatherings...at least some of the time.
To be more specific, I live in South Korea and am a part of a few university clubs (or dongari/동아리)...and social customs and expectations are regarded very highly here. Since South Korea is still a relatively homogenous society, they are used to people following the group-mentality, or in this case, even if I didn't eat everything (like the pork or alcohol), I am still expected to pay the same amount that everyone else pays (unless the person in charge at that time happens to be more open-minded and understanding of other cultures and people).
I know that it is haram to purchase alcohol....but in this context..is it still considered that I payed for alcohol? I try to ask if I can pay less than everyone else ( unless I get this 1 particular sort of vice-president who seems quite strict about the whole everyone-pays-the-same-amount type of deal...and I have tried reasoning with her...but she can be quite adamant about it...unfortunately, she is usually the one in charge of money at these gatherings)... in this case, where I pay less than everyone else, would it be considered that I payed for alcohol?
The things we buy are dishes that are shared among several people, so there's nothing that I really just ordered and bought for myself.
So, 2 questions
1) If I pay the same amount as everyone else...is it considered like I payed for alcohol?
2) If I pay less than everyone else...is it considered like I payed for alcohol?
It would be great to hear what other Muslims think, thank you! :)
Wsalams,
your sister in Islam
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