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  • #46
    Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

    assalamu alaykum

    i'd ignore them but reply in my mind. it's true, some brothers use the 'assalmu alaykum' as a chat up line w'allahul mu'ustaa'aan and then they have the nerve to say (when you ignore them) 'dont you know its haram if you dont reply to my salam'

    well er excuse me mate, dont you know you shouldnt be chatting to me in the first place

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    • #47
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      ↑Really?
      People do that? Wow
      Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

      "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
      - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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      • #48
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        Originally posted by sis_on_sunnah View Post
        assalamu alaykum

        i'd ignore them but reply in my mind. it's true, some brothers use the 'assalmu alaykum' as a chat up line w'allahul mu'ustaa'aan and then they have the nerve to say (when you ignore them) 'dont you know its haram if you dont reply to my salam'

        well er excuse me mate, dont you know you shouldnt be chatting to me in the first place

        That's sick man! Who does that? Wallahi stuff like that really irks me :(

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        • #49
          Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

          Originally posted by .mirror. View Post
          ↑Really?
          People do that? Wow
          TBH, that's one of the main reasons I started the thread, it's weird and deranged, but it's so true, that's why I also said non-Muslims too, it's turned into the newest chat up line for some people.. Wow. Allah have mercy on these souls inshallah, they need all the guidance they can get! SubhAllah!

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          • #50
            Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

            Originally posted by BeautyWithin View Post
            Say you're walking down the street, head down etc. And someone of the opposite gender, Muslim or non-muslim, says AsalamuAlaykum, just as a way of greeting. Now for some this may be normal, but for other it is hell. So I want to know what you do/ would do in this situation. Would you put your head down in fear of giving off the wrong message, or would you return the Salam and carry on, head down, or just reply casually and or start a convo?
            As Salamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh

            It's a good question and interesting to know what others would react in such situations. I have been through this a few times actually, and some times I have replied to their Salaam and other times I have done it in my heart, depends on the situation (sometimes I am so much in a hurry I don't even pay attention but after a distance I come back to senses and say for myself "Oh, he said Salaam... Wa Alaykumusalam Wa Rahmatullah"). I don't really live in an area where you find many Muslims and my school is actually in the city with not many foreigners. I find it uncomfortable talking with brothers or any male and I am a pretty quiet and shy person generally so I don't talk and socialise much either. But if it happens that a brother comes and ask for the way to somewhere, happened once before, I try to give short answers and lower my gaze.

            I usually send Salaam to sisters. Always lovely to see the smiles, Masha'Allah. Makes you to feel real sisterhood, something different from non Muslims, they don't just 'randomly' say "hi" to a stranger. But saying Salaam and smiling is a charity in Islam.

            And I am not alone so often if I go out, either I am with my friend when I go to school, or if going somewhere (for ex. to grocery shopping, the mall, the masjid or going for a walk generally etc) then I am with my sister, brother, mother or father. So it is good, Alhamdulillah. :)



            Originally posted by Abu Suleiman View Post
            Less of the chit chat between brothers and sisters would be appreciated please. It's all nice and dandy saying we won't start a conversation with a random brother/sister in real life but I see it happening in this very thread...
            Agree. JazakAllahu khairan for the reminder.
            Though, doesn't happen only in this thread.



            Originally posted by Abu Suleiman View Post
            This is quite a sad post actually. Brothers shouldn't be making efforts with the sisters and vice versa. And no, a salaam is not just fine. If I remember correctly (i'll dig up where I read this inshaAllah), if a man says salaam to a strange woman, she can ignore him even though it is normally waajib to reply to salaam. If a man even looks at my wife or sister or mother twice, I make sure I put him in his place.
            Masha'Allah, such ghirah is great to hear from a brother.
            Allah is my Support, the Qur'an and Sunnah is my Guide and Paradise is my Goal!

            You are the servant, He is the Master.
            Prayers come from you, answers come from Him.
            Abstinence comes from you, protection comes from Him.
            Repentance comes from you, acceptance comes from Him.
            Go towards him walking, He will come to you running.

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            • #51
              Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

              It's a small place where I live and most of the families know each other. If that's the case the brothers know my father or brother and don't do Sallams to me.

              In recent times I've had Somalian and other Muslim brothers say sallams which I ignore or reply back to under my breath in a tone that can't be heard without paying much interest, and just walking on.

              A ten second interaction which isn't that important.
              وَالْعَصْرِ

              إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ

              إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ

              "If Allah (swt) only sent this Surah to us, for the guidance of Mankind, this will be enough for us” - Imam Shaafi'ee r.a.

              "Yeh dunya daar e faani hain, Tum apna dil mat lagaon, Ganimat samaj zinadagee ki bahar, aana na hoga, yahaa baar baar......"

              Khanqah Habibiyah

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              • #52
                Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                i agree with the above...nope wouldnt reply...just wouldnt particularly if its a passing moment coz theres is no neccessity in this unless the person is asking for something. Allaahu 'Alam. These days its very rare to recieve a salaam from anybody on the streets male or female so by the time i recover from the shock of recieving one from a brother the moment would have passed and i would have carried on walking.

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                • #53
                  Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                  just return it and carry on walking, Allah knows what your intentions were and if it was to return the salaam, then khayr.
                  it doesn't even happen that much to warrant thinking about.
                  unless you fear fitnah, that is.
                  'And when a thing for which you ask is slow to come,
                  Then know that often through delay are gifts received'
                  علي الحبشي

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                  • #54
                    Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                    Originally posted by Proud-2b-MUSLIM View Post
                    I would ignore it and keep walking. Brothers ain't even saying salaam to brothers, sisters ain't saying salaam to sisters, but they got time to say salaam to opposite gender??? lol
                    That is a Shaykh-Suleiman-Moola-worthy line! LOL.

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                    • #55
                      Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                      Salam.
                      Sisters don't normally give me salaam. Actually, I do not remember the last time. However, some of my teachers say hi really enthusiastically in school and my nafs gets the better of me so I look and reply quickly. May Allah give us taufeeq to be strong! Ameen.

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                      • #56
                        Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                        Originally posted by BeautyWithin View Post
                        Say you're walking down the street, head down etc. And someone of the opposite gender, Muslim or non-muslim, says AsalamuAlaykum, just as a way of greeting. Now for some this may be normal, but for other it is hell. So I want to know what you do/ would do in this situation. Would you put your head down in fear of giving off the wrong message, or would you return the Salam and carry on, head down, or just reply casually and or start a convo?
                        Return the Salam and move my head down thereby again keep walking.
                        صلى الله على حبيبه محمد و على آله و أصحابه و سلم
                        Al-Muslimeen

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                        • #57
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                          Originally posted by Ali21 View Post
                          No offence bro comparing thread to reality... You have issues! :)
                          So then is it acceptable to chat to a strange woman on the internet (or vice versa)?

                          If a brother salaam a sister and walks on.. I don't see no harm.. Its more respectful,
                          But in other hand people like yourself don't see that, Like you just said if someone looks at your wife/sister/mother/grandma twice you put them in him in his place? Thats brother who has issues, Such as being deluded, Trust issues, Possessiveness etc... Too long :(
                          Read on up on some of the stories of the sahaba and their gheerah and tell me if they are delusional as well.

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                          • #58
                            Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                            Assalam aleykoum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh,

                            I think that I would reply to the salaam and keep walking.

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                            • #59
                              Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                              When a Brother says Salam to me, I reply Walikuma salam and keep moving! Simple as that...No need to complicate it.

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                              • #60
                                Re: What would you do if.... Would you...?

                                Don't respond to brothers salaams ...but I always try and be the first to say salaam to my sisters :love:
                                Last edited by ღ♥JuSt*bLuShInGღ♥; 29-04-11, 09:01 PM.
                                j u s t B ...y o u r s e l f.

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