Male sexual health advice

[qstions]

Salaam,

I'm looking for some advice.

I'm a 27 year old male who has been diagnosed with impotence due to side effects of medication taken during an illness.
My family are unaware of my predicament and are pressuring me into the idea of getting married through an arrangement.

I am unsure of how I can can explain the situation to my parents, and I don't really know what to do.

I am worried for my future and the future of my potential partner if I follow through this path. And I can't even imagine explaining this to them.

Please can you help.

Thank you.

[IbnulQayyim]

Re: Male sexual health advice

I'll answer this later brother, have sabr.

[x--x]

Re: Male sexual health advice

You could look for a divorced woman who already has children?

[.mirror.]

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:wswrwb:

What's the point of hiding this from your parents? They're going to find out, anyways, right?
And I don't think it's even right to conceal such a big problem from your own parents.

You can tell your potential wife about your problems. If she, agrees then all is well. If not, then, like the sister said, you can marry someone with children. Or you can adopt children after marriage. There are many ways. Alhamdulilah.

Don't lose hope :insha:
Make Dua'a that Allah cure you of this problem.

May He free you from all your problems, bless you w/ a pious wife, and lots of pious children.

[loonietoonie]

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wa alaikum as salam wa rehmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Is this permanent impotence? Did the medication even say this was a possibility? If not, you might have a case to sue the drug company or whomever is connected and win large.

Fact is bro, sooner or later they'll find out and so it's better you tell them sooner so this don't come up at the last second.

[qstions]

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So someone who already has children or is divorced is no longer interested in sexual relationships?

[.mirror.]

Re: Male sexual health advice

So someone who already has children or is divorced is no longer interested in sexual relationships?

What exactly is the illness you're diagnosed with?

[qstions]

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The illness is no longer the concern, the problem is the side effect it has left.
It is a professional opinion, and I have been to see many doctors for diagnosis.

Winning large isn't exactly what I'm looking for.

[Eventus]

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I think marrying while withholding this circumstance is a sure way to cause unnecessary pain to both yourself and your partner. Just be upfront with your parents and tell them what's bothering you. It's not your fault you have this condition. Afterwards, further seek treatment.

PS: not a Muslim, if it makes a difference.

[qstions]

Re: Male sexual health advice

I think marrying while withholding this circumstance is a sure way to cause unnecessary pain to both yourself and your partner. Just be upfront with your parents and tell them what's bothering you. It's not your fault you have this condition. Afterwards, further seek treatment.

PS: not a Muslim, if it makes a difference.

Thank you.
What you say makes sense to me.
The problem I have is approaching and explaining it to my parents...
I've never had any conversations with family let alone my parents about sexuality.

[.mirror.]

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It's not really about sexuality. You have a health problem.
There' no need to by shy about that. They'll understand, they're your parents, after all.

[uncle umar]

Re: Male sexual health advice

wa alikumu salam

tell your parrents. nothing bad can happen.

however impotency can be fought against by doing things that gnerate testosterone. eat foods with high zinc content, and pure unpasturized honey. workout alot using power moves that work core group muscles like squates or bench press. it may be the difference between having oyur tadpoles back or not.

just sayin.

[IbnulQayyim]

Re: Male sexual health advice

Salaam,

I'm looking for some advice.

I'm a 27 year old male who has been diagnosed with impotence due to side effects of medication taken during an illness.
My family are unaware of my predicament and are pressuring me into the idea of getting married through an arrangement.

I am unsure of how I can can explain the situation to my parents, and I don't really know what to do.

I am worried for my future and the future of my potential partner if I follow through this path. And I can't even imagine explaining this to them.

Please can you help.

Thank you.

The following is my opinion and I am not enforcing it upon anyone.

I do not think your parents need to know about your sexual health. Your future wife must know though.

You can take the means to cure impotence or minimize it so this way you can fulfill the sexual right of your wife.

If a person is not ok with her husband being impotent then fine, move on, find someone else, no problem. Sex is not the end of life. It's an important thing but not the most important thing at the end of the day.

[.mirror.]

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What would he say when the parents ask why are you not having kids?

[IbnulQayyim]

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Then he can tell it but I wouldn't tell my parents before than. it's not something they need to know. he's 27, he can find a spouse himself.