Helping family to come closer to the deen?

[1MuslimByChoice]

Asalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu

Family, not distant relatives or even cousins, but behind those closed doors, inside your home, the ones you've grown up with, the ones whom you've laughed, cried an argued with, the ones who've brought things for you an likewise you've brought things for. These individuals you're so close to know your habits and your character.

Your mother, father, brother/s and sister/s. These are the ones i'm talking about. Your close-knit family. Allah has placed rahma and love between our hearts so it is natural for us to care for them in one way or another.

Most importantly, care not for their dunya but for their akhira. Give them success and the best in the akhira. You want the utmost goodness for them in al-akhira and you don't want any evil or pain or punishment for any of them.

How? What to do? You cannot not care for their akhira. So i ask you what can i do to help my family. I can't not care no matter what i do (i've tried that).

The haram and halal are known. You/I know few causes and stimulants which lead to disobedience and are tools of shaytaan i.e music, tv etc but getting rid of them isn't the way to go as they can easily be replaced.

The root is their heart, installing iman, love for Allah and His Messenger :saw:, to soften the heart, that's the key.

But how? How can i/we help our families?

May Allah guide us and keep us firm upon His guidance and keep our families far from any punishment or evil in the grave or akhira ameen.

[.mirror.]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

:wswrwb:

Bump.

Lots of people seem to be having this problem.

[Jilbabi]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

:wswrwb:

Practice what we preach. Actions truly do speak louder than words at times.

[loonietoonie]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

:wswrwb:

Practice what we preach. Actions truly do speak louder than words at times.

wa alaikum as salam wa rehmatullahi wa barakatuh

I think this is the soundest advice. Lead the way.

I was really impressed when one of my uncles became religious and had his entire house reconstructed and made two separate lounges for gender separation.

[.mirror.]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

When you're older, you have a greater impact.
But, if you're the kid of the house, no one cares.

[adri]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

InshaAllah we implement Islam in our actions always and learn to be patient.

But I do agree, as a younger adult no one seems to care as much, they may just think you are too young and are in a phase.

[1MuslimByChoice]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

So practice what one preaches

Exult patience

Lead the way with one's actions

And of course, making dua to Allah

That's it?

[Musaaafir]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

So practice what one preaches

Exult patience

Lead the way with one's actions

And of course, making dua to Allah

That's it?

and with patience also be gentle and soft with them.

فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِنَ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لانْفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الأمْرِ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ (١٥٩)

[Jilbabi]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

I was really impressed when one of my uncles became religious and had his entire house reconstructed and made two separate lounges for gender separation.

SubhanaAllah that's excellent. If only we could all do that.

When you're older, you have a greater impact.
But, if you're the kid of the house, no one cares.

I agree that if your older you have a greater impact. But never underestimate the impact you have. Your influence may not be expressed verbally but may have influenced them in their hearts.

Brilliant advice from brother Musaafir.

[Musaaafir]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

oh Another important thing i forgot to mention. Understand the psychology of the one u r making dawah to. if necessary, study psychology. u can pick up some good books and learn on ur own. u can also study education pyschology in uni if u want. can be done entirely online. people who like doin dawah should look into it.

[1MuslimByChoice]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

:jkk: will take that on board.

[1MuslimByChoice]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

Question:

You know when disobedience to Allah is done and obviously you are not going to encourage it nor are you going to support it, how should you react?

E.g someone starts working from haraam but is bringing in income and has interviews etc so they start talking about it, you despise it but should you engage in the conversation with them? Like speaking with them about it generally on the topic.

How should you react? If the above makes sense?

[Musaaafir]

Re: Helping family to come closer to the deen?

Question:

You know when disobedience to Allah is done and obviously you are not going to encourage it nor are you going to support it, how should you react?

E.g someone starts working from haraam but is bringing in income and has interviews etc so they start talking about it, you despise it but should you engage in the conversation with them? Like speaking with them about it generally on the topic.

How should you react? If the above makes sense?

It depends on your relationship with that person. depending on the relationship, u can talk a bit harshly, or softly, or not even talk abt it at all. It depends more so on where the person is in terms of eman and knowledge & connection with akhirah. In the topic of any kind of dawah, islah or deeny influence, I always go back to the quote of ayesha (ra). If someone's knowledge of akhirah is very clear and connection with it is at least good, then it's not hard if not quite easy to warn them from haram or guiding them to the obedience of Allah.