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    Eid in Our Shoes

    How the families of the prisoners spent this Eid ul Fitr...

    Eid for our sisters behind bars...

    "Every day in prison was emotional, partly because of missing one's loved ones. But on Eid it was something else because it's a day that one normally would spend with family. I would think of how my family was spending that day knowing that they were also extremely sad and hurt. I especially missed my baby son and being sad that he was spending his first 2 eids without my husband and me.

    It was also difficult knowing that my husband was going through the same because of being in prison. I tried to reassure myself by making dua that we would soon be reunited and would with Allah's permission spend our next eid together. I would start eid in prison with calling my family. Then we had eid salah with our female Muslim chaplain who tried her best to make everything as nice as possible 4 us. The salah was followed by some reminders, presents and food which all meant so much to us. Some women couldn't control themselves and started crying. I never wished the situation I was in for anyone and I was sad for the other sisters being there but at the same time having them there with me made me feel less alone.

    Alhamdulillah a few years have passed now and I have just spent another Eid with my beloved husband and 3 beautiful boys."

    Eid under a control order...

    "Eid is meant to be about visiting family and friends and enjoying the celebration. But my Eid was far from this.

    Firstly my preparation for Eid wasn't shopping around for gifts, it was calling my solicitors everyday to contact the Home Office to get permission to pray the Eid prayer and to see my relatives. I'm not allowed to see any relatives or friends who have not been given approval through the Home Office's clearance system. However on eid they give me an exception, if i want to see my relatives I have to provide their name, address and the exact route I take to their home. If any stranger to me enters their home whilst I am there, I have to note their details and devise it to the home office. If I want to see friends on eid, I have to get approval days before from the home office first. And the Home Office is very reluctant to approve me seeing non relatives.

    And all this that I have said can only occur if my friends and family live within my boundary which has only a 2 mile radius from my home.

    Like every other day I still had to report to the police station in the middle of the day and stand for an hour waiting to sign a piece of a paper.

    To end it off, my celebrations are cut short by a curfew imposed on me for 12 hours every night, which start at 9pm. If I don't comply to even a single one of their stringent rules for eid day I can be prosecuted and face up to 5 years in prison. So try to imagine Eid in my shoes".

    Eid for the wives...

    "We'd have to book the visits beforehand and hope that it'd be on Eid day or at least the day after. On Eid day itself alhamdulillah the brothers were allowed extra time out to pray salah and then to eat with the other brothers. They would also be able to call home, as the family we eagerly waited for the phone call as it was the only way of giving salaam on eid unless we had a visit.

    We often take it for granted that we can send our loved ones messages and mass texts on Eid. Eid visits were different, as you'd see all the other families from near and far and the children all dressed up and even if it was the weekend after Eid that day would feel like Eid. Alhamdulillah we were able to see our relatives and spend time with them even if for about 90 minutes..."

    "Every Eid I'm just crying and crying. The children do not go out, I don't have the strength to do anything."

    "Your Eid is not your Eid because you’re just thinking about him, you can't enjoy Eid or Ramadhan without your father, and it's on those occasions we remember him the most."

    "Eid is the most difficult and depressing time, the children are affected alot."

    "A family without a father is very hard, and every occasion we remember him, especially eid. We just have to make dua.. HHUGS has helped us alot, even the simple things they do, like send us cards and gift vouchers make a massive difference. We really need them and we can't pay them with anything except that we can make dua for them."

    Eid for the children...

    "Now that my father is back, we know the meaning of the word family. No one looks at me with pity anymore."

    "I feel sad and lonely without my father."

    "This Eid the children had their father back, and we gave them a choice as to where they wanted to spend their Eid, they were overwhelmed with happiness, because it was something completely new to them. This year has been the best Ramadhan and Eid for them."
    “The real prisoner is someone whose heart is imprisoned from his Lord; the true captive is someone captured by his passions.” (Ibn Taymiyyah)

  • #2
    Eid Without Our Father

    Eid Without Our Father

    An exclusive account from the daughter of Adel Abdul-Bary, highlighting the impact of detention without trial on the families. Adel Abdul-Bary has been imprisoned in the UK on a US extradition warrant for close to 12 years. He has never been charged or tried in the UK.

    Our father has been incarcerated for almost 12 years in HMP Long Lartin without charge pending extradition to the USA. To date the neither the government of the USA or UK have not shown any evidence to say what he has done wrong, it is all based on baseless “allegations’’ which my Father is not allowed to challenge in Court.

    I was only 13 years old when my Father was arrested, my younger brothers were 11-9 and 5 years old, my younger sister was only 1 years old and my youngest sister was not even born. In fact my Mother was pregnant with my youngest sister and both my youngest sisters do not have any memories of my Father outside of prison. They have grown up only seeing him in prison.

    It is very hard for me to say this, but because of his incarceration our father has not been able to be part of our lives and as much as we try, NOTHING can make up for the separation between a child and its parents, and this has had a life changing effect on us siblings and my poor Mother, who has been struggling to keep us together and on the right path.

    When we are asked “How was your Eid’’ or sent “Eid Mubarak’’ text messages, I feel this does not apply to my family. We cant have a “happy Eid’’ as much as we try as NOTHING can fill that emptiness of the Rock, the centre of our family, our Father who is not here to celebrate this day with us and it has been like this in our house for the last 12 years.

    Eid is the hardest day for us, the day before Eid is particularly hard because whilst the Ummah gets excited with Eid preparation and buying new clothes, it just reminds us of one more Eid, one more Ramadan and one more year without our father.

    In fact Eid day is harder than any other day and as much as it should be a day of celebration for Muslims it is a day we as a family unfortunately, I hate to say it, we do not look forward to at all as it makes the pain and suffering of having lost our Father more intense. As our Father faces another year of uncertainty languishing in the prison without charge or even evidence, we cannot say that insha’allah we will see our Father in two years or 20 years. That is the hardest part of having someone incarcerated without charge, you have nothing to live for or hope for, you cannot plan your life, your life is in limbo.

    You do not know if that Eid day you will receive a phone call telling you your father has been extradited to USA to face the rest of his life in prison. Every day is like living on knife’s edge. Even though we accept as Muslims that no-one ever knows when they will die, at least those reminders means you go out of your way to spend more time with your family or do good deeds, but when you cannot reach your Father, because he is 200 miles away in prison and you cannot at that moment hold him and tell him how you feel because of the barriers that separate you in prison, that is harder, because you feel more helpless and the pain becomes more intense.

    Eid has always been hard because our Father was the rock in our family, our Mother and siblings depended on him, but since his incarceration we have had to grown up so fast and it is sad to say that my brothers and I did not have a proper childhood as that was snatched away from us the day our Father was taken. Even now my youngest two sisters have had to become independent despite their tender years, they have had to grow up and not have a proper childhood as we children try to keep our family together as our Mother on many occasions finds it very difficult to cope and has suffered breakdowns.

    I just want to say that people must realise that forgotten prisoners of faith like my father have another life beyond just being a prisoner-they have a family life which is destroyed when they are imprisoned.

    The way a body cannot function without all vital organs, a family, a Muslim family, just cannot function without the Amir and head of the family, the husband and father.

    Yes, people may see the family of someone incarcerated and think “they are getting by’’ but no-one knows what that family is truly going through behind closed doors and the truth is, that family is falling apart. The children grow up without guidance and a father figure amongst the fitna and pressures of teenage life; they grow up not having what their friends have, not being able to ask their parents for Eid gifts, feeling they have to provide for their family a lot sooner as the breadwinner is no longer there. They feel deprived and inadequate compared to their friends; they feel they do not have the ability or chance to fulfil their potential in life.

    My younger brother was A* student and maths genius who was set to take his GCSE’s two years early, we had such high hopes for him, but my father’s arrest and 12 years away from home, traumatised him and lead him to abandoning his studies as our father was not there his young sons and family needed him the most. Sometimes my siblings and I have been too embarrassed to say our father is in prison because of the automatic stigma people attach to someone in prison, they look at you and you feel they are thinking “no smoke without fire’’ your Father must have done something to be in prison for that long.

    There is so much I would like to say but time is short, but I would like to confine my issue today to highlight what happened at Long Lartin this Eid. My Father rang and pleaded with me to tell the “world’’, to tell the Muslims of the way he and other Muslim prisoners are being treated after they were denied Eid prayers with other Muslim prisoners and told to go to the sex offenders wing if they wanted to pray outside their cell. Every Prisoner knew this was deliberate tactic by the Prison to break my father and other inmates psychologically, to make them feel worthless on their holiest day, to make them feel defeated as Muslims and to remind them how much they hated Muslims and Islam in establishments like Prisons.

    Unfortunately despite me emailing all known Muslim organisations and media channels, only one or two Muslim organisations highlighted their plight such as HHUGS and Cageprisoners, but not one single Muslim TV channel did this, despite there being so many Islamic channels on TV these days. What is the purpose of having Islamic channels if it is not used for those people begging to have a voice?

    Instead all the so-called Muslim channels had singing Eid celebrations. No channel ran any feature on this incident when it should have been the headlines. And the saddest thing is my Father rang to tell of the suffering they were going through and hoping Muslims outside will respond. He genuinely felt that it will make a difference and I did not have the heart to tell him that no one was interested.

    Prisoners like my father want and need Muslims to respond outside, because inside prison they do NOT have a voice. All they are asking for is to give them a voice, a platform and a small amount of your time. It just reminds prisoners like my Father that the Ummah has not forgotten them and their families, that the Deen for which they are being tested for is worth fighting for to the very end and verily the help of Allah is near for those who believe.
    “The real prisoner is someone whose heart is imprisoned from his Lord; the true captive is someone captured by his passions.” (Ibn Taymiyyah)


    • #3
      Re: Eid Without Our Father

      Recipes for all the family :inlove:
      (and you thought I was a lazy feminazi which can't cook?)


      • #4
        Re: Eid Without Our Father

        Ya Allah :(
        الحق لا يعرف بالرجال، اعرف الحق تعرف رجاله