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    with your mahrams such as sister and mother and father.

    for example: is it halal to live away from themm and jus call them once in a month or so.

    Is it halal because im not breaking complete ties
    Reported by Ibn al-Salah:

    ولقد أحسن الحسن بن أبي زياد اللؤلؤي صاحب أبي حنيفة فيما بلغنا عنه أنه استفتي في مسألة فأخطأ فيها ولم يعرف الذي أفتاه فاكترى مناديا فنادى أن الحسن بن أبي زياد استفتي يوم كذا وكذا في مسألة فأخطأ فمن كان أفتاه الحسن بن أبي زياد بشيء فليرجع إليه
    فلبث أياما لا يفتي حتى وجد صاحب الفتوى فأعلمه أنه أخطأ وإن الصواب كذا وكذا والله أعلم

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    Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

    You should have a strong bond with your family. You can live away but visit them often and call them. You should be doing their khidmat and helping them in every situation

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    • #3
      Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

      Your not breaking ties as such, but however ones parents are, they have a lot of rights over you.

      It is also very important Islamically to keep good ties with everyone, especially parents and relatives. Live away from them if you want,
      but even if you don't like them talk to them frequently, see if they need any help etc. Even if your mother annoys you, remember she carried you for 9 months and thats a huge sacrifice in itself, the pain and discomfort of giving birth, looking after you when you were a baby and helpless, looking after you when you were ill etc. same with your father, he sure has done a lot for you, even though as a teenager it doesn't really click because those seem to be the 'selfish' years.
      InshaAllah in later years you will see the wisdom of keeping good ties with your parents and family :up:
      The enforcement of Muslim Brotherhood is the greatest social ideal of Islam. On it was based the Prophet's (SAW) sermon on his last pilgrimage, and Islam cannot be completely realized until this ideal is achieved. '
      (Shaikh Maulana Muhammad Yusuf)
      In Lam Takun Ghaadiban Annee Falaa Ubaalee...

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      • #4
        Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

        IbnUlQayyim, I suggest that you try to live far, far away from them. In a weeks time you will run back to your mother.

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        • #5
          Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

          Originally posted by IbnulQayyim View Post
          with your mahrams such as sister and mother and father.

          for example: is it halal to live away from themm and jus call them once in a month or so.

          Is it halal because im not breaking complete ties

          The kind of contact you keeps depends on the kind of contact they need. If your parents are old and infirm and cannot cook, clean for themselves, then it's clearly not right for you to just phone them once a week, they need a lot more from you than that.

          If your parents can't drive/travel and meet others, you'll need to help them socialise with people their own age, take them to masjid, help with shopping etc.

          If your sister is unmarried and your father is elderly you need to step in and run the family.

          Why would you want to live away from your family anyway unless it because of a job or studies and can't be helped.

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          • #6
            Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

            Originally posted by KeeKee View Post
            Your not breaking ties as such, but however ones parents are, they have a lot of rights over you.

            It is also very important Islamically to keep good ties with everyone, especially parents and relatives. Live away from them if you want,
            but even if you don't like them talk to them frequently, see if they need any help etc. Even if your mother annoys you, remember she carried you for 9 months and thats a huge sacrifice in itself, the pain and discomfort of giving birth, looking after you when you were a baby and helpless, looking after you when you were ill etc. same with your father, he sure has done a lot for you, even though as a teenager it doesn't really click because those seem to be the 'selfish' years.
            InshaAllah in later years you will see the wisdom of keeping good ties with your parents and family :up:
            lets do a family swap and ull run for ur life within a week from my house :D
            Reported by Ibn al-Salah:

            ولقد أحسن الحسن بن أبي زياد اللؤلؤي صاحب أبي حنيفة فيما بلغنا عنه أنه استفتي في مسألة فأخطأ فيها ولم يعرف الذي أفتاه فاكترى مناديا فنادى أن الحسن بن أبي زياد استفتي يوم كذا وكذا في مسألة فأخطأ فمن كان أفتاه الحسن بن أبي زياد بشيء فليرجع إليه
            فلبث أياما لا يفتي حتى وجد صاحب الفتوى فأعلمه أنه أخطأ وإن الصواب كذا وكذا والله أعلم

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            • #7
              Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

              Originally posted by Ikki View Post
              The kind of contact you keeps depends on the kind of contact they need. If your parents are old and infirm and cannot cook, clean for themselves, then it's clearly not right for you to just phone them once a week, they need a lot more from you than that.

              If your parents can't drive/travel and meet others, you'll need to help them socialise with people their own age, take them to masjid, help with shopping etc.

              If your sister is unmarried and your father is elderly you need to step in and run the family.

              Why would you want to live away from your family anyway unless it because of a job or studies and can't be helped.
              welll living away from family is jannatul firdous for me
              Reported by Ibn al-Salah:

              ولقد أحسن الحسن بن أبي زياد اللؤلؤي صاحب أبي حنيفة فيما بلغنا عنه أنه استفتي في مسألة فأخطأ فيها ولم يعرف الذي أفتاه فاكترى مناديا فنادى أن الحسن بن أبي زياد استفتي يوم كذا وكذا في مسألة فأخطأ فمن كان أفتاه الحسن بن أبي زياد بشيء فليرجع إليه
              فلبث أياما لا يفتي حتى وجد صاحب الفتوى فأعلمه أنه أخطأ وإن الصواب كذا وكذا والله أعلم

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              • #8
                Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

                Originally posted by IbnulQayyim View Post
                lets do a family swap and ull run for ur life within a week from my house :D
                lol, like i said move away by all means but don't break ties inshallah. calling once a month is not acceptable islamically. just make a bit of sacrifice inshallah and Allah rewards.
                The enforcement of Muslim Brotherhood is the greatest social ideal of Islam. On it was based the Prophet's (SAW) sermon on his last pilgrimage, and Islam cannot be completely realized until this ideal is achieved. '
                (Shaikh Maulana Muhammad Yusuf)
                In Lam Takun Ghaadiban Annee Falaa Ubaalee...

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                • #9
                  Re: Is it halal to keep the least ties as possible

                  Originally posted by KeeKee View Post
                  lol, like i said move away by all means but don't break ties inshallah. calling once a month is not acceptable islamically. just make a bit of sacrifice inshallah and Allah rewards.
                  it can be or cant only ulama know it well. So it can be.
                  Reported by Ibn al-Salah:

                  ولقد أحسن الحسن بن أبي زياد اللؤلؤي صاحب أبي حنيفة فيما بلغنا عنه أنه استفتي في مسألة فأخطأ فيها ولم يعرف الذي أفتاه فاكترى مناديا فنادى أن الحسن بن أبي زياد استفتي يوم كذا وكذا في مسألة فأخطأ فمن كان أفتاه الحسن بن أبي زياد بشيء فليرجع إليه
                  فلبث أياما لا يفتي حتى وجد صاحب الفتوى فأعلمه أنه أخطأ وإن الصواب كذا وكذا والله أعلم

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